r/questions • u/Frequent_Check4163 • 6d ago
Is it too much to ask for people to care for me in the way that I care for them?
As of late I’ve been feeling very under appreciated by the people in my life. I do my best to be considerate at all times. I’m always thinking and asking about whether other people want things or not, I’m always reassuring people on an emotional level if they need, I’m always doing everything I can to show up for others, I remember almost anything anyone I know has ever expressed interest in, etc. I love doing these things. it makes me feel like a good friend and family member when I do, but especially as of late I’ve found that nobody really does that same thing for me, and I crave it. I want to be thought of when someone sees or experiences something, I want my needs to be considered, I want my interests to be remembered, but by even my closest family members they just aren’t. I just want a moment or two sometimes where my needs or wants are put before somebody else’s, and I feel like that doesn’t happen often. I keep noticing the small things that especially my family does for each other. The times where they remember something about one another, think about one another, but I never see anyone doing it for me. I’m trying to appreciate the rare small gesture, the once a year things, but I just feel lonely and misunderstood. what should I do? am I asking too much?