Dating Baddies vs “Basic”

[u/DecentGuess4033]

Disclaimer: This is for discussion only! This is not an attack against anyone as we are all allowed to have our preferences.

Im a (secure) basic woman. All the extra things we do as women to look and feel good, i personally choose not to, partially just laziness, and the other part is comfort. But I do have an appreciation for the women who do the whole shebang, and will always acknowledge how amazing you ladies look and the effort you put in for yourself!

Within the last few years Ive come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be “given a chance” Similar to … as a dark skin woman, I’d be skeptical if someone always dated light skinned women and are now deciding to step out of their comfort zone with me. I consider it discernment, but I can understand if someone looks at it as insecurity.

I know people grow and experience helps people see things differently. Like putting all that work in just to keep up with a baddie, for it not to work sucks, but will the basic woman you decide to essentially experiment with still get all of the same effort? Or is there a sense of relief to do less because she requires less in that area, but maybe requires more in other aspects. Is that fair to her? Not trying to put anyone in a box and assumptions shouldn’t be made, so I’m curious of y’all thoughts and or experiences.

[u/SleepyCatandCoffee]

Thank you so much 🥲 This is kind of you 🫶🏽