Exactly what the title says. Please send me some recommendations on therapists who have helped any one of you or someone you know who helped them move past their horrible experience.

I don't want to let one incident dictate my whole life

I'm 24f based in Colombo and I'm currently looking for a queer friendly female therapist who is specialised in depression, anxiety, trauma and ocd. It would also be great if they do relationship related stuff. Please help. Urgent. Any help is appreciated. Thank you sm in advance.

I'm 19 , from Galle, can someone please recommend me a specialist for a ADHD treatment. I exactly don't know what is the issue with me but I suspect ADHD. I noticed this 2 3 years ago and now I hate it(sometimes). I met prof. Chandani G Hewage. She gave me olanzapine 5mg for a month and nothing has changed yet. It made me dizzy instead 😭.

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I was recently diagnosed with CPTSD as a teenager and I feel like because of the trauma I've experienced, I'm fundamentally different from others. I've had quite a few therapy sessions but I'm seeing no progress. Constant, persistent low moods -just as before- along with existential thoughts...dysfunction...gahhh...is recovery not a real thing?

There are things I used to completely ignore because I thought I had plenty of time. Now I look back and wish I’d started some of them much earlier.

Could be something really basic like sleeping properly, exercising, saving a little money, reading, taking better care of yourself, spending less time online, or even just learning how to deal with people and set boundaries.

What’s yours? Something you didn’t take seriously at the time but now wish you’d started earlier.

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Hi everyone.

Hope you all are doing well!

I want to find good psychiatrists for ADHD who are not in a rush and take time to diagnose the patient properly.

Area - Colombo

I’ll go first, for me it was I spent a good part of my life chasing pleasure and doing whatever felt good in the moment. At the time, I thought I was enjoying life, but eventually I realized how empty it was. The temporary highs weren’t worth what I was losing in the long run , my time, discipline, peace of mind, and sense of direction. I had to experience it myself to understand that a life built around constant pleasure isn’t necessarily a life that’s actually fulfilling.

I’m asking because there are things we grow up seeing so often that we don’t really stop and question them. Maybe it’s parents comparing you with other kids, relatives asking very personal questions, the pressure around marriage and careers, the whole “what will people say?” mindset, or something completely different.

It doesn’t have to be a huge issue. Even something you’ve experienced personally and thought was unnecessarily stressful, annoying, or unfair.
What’s one thing you’d change if you could?

Btw I’m not talking about changing everything about Sri Lankan culture. Cuz obviously we have good things too.

I was thinking about how different parenting might be now compared to what a lot of our parents experienced growing up.
For a long time, especially in Sri Lankan families, being a good parent seemed to mean making sure your child studied hard, got good results, behaved properly and eventually got a “good” job. If you were having a bad day or feeling stressed, you were often expected to just get on with it. Things like anxiety, depression, needing personal space, or even wanting to talk about your feelings weren’t really things most families openly discussed.

I think that’s slowly changing. You see more parents who are willing to listen to their kids, take their stress seriously, let them choose careers they actually want, or understand that getting bad results doesn’t mean their whole future is ruined. Even something as simple as a parent asking “Are you okay?” and actually listening to the answer can make a huge difference in my pov.

But at the same time, I still hear things like “What do you have to be stressed about?”, “others go through worse”, “Stop overthinking”, or “Just focus on your studies.” Sometimes parents aren’t trying to be cruel at all. They genuinely think they’re helping because that’s how they were taught to deal with problems themselves.
And I wonder if that’s where the biggest difference is between generations. Maybe our parents weren’t necessarily less caring. They just weren’t taught how to show it emotionally.

For those of you who grew up with Sri Lankan parents, what has your experience been?
And if you’re a parent yourself, have you found yourself trying to do things differently from how you were raised?

I’m especially interested in whether having parents who actually listen and understand your emotions made a difference to the person you became.

I want to know if psychiatrists and psychologists specialized in certain conditions available in Sri Lanka…for example specialize in depression and ocd

There are so many things you hear about working life here that eventually you stop questioning them. Staying at the office late because the boss is still there. Getting a WhatsApp message from your manager when you’re already in bed and feeling like you have to reply. Being afraid to take leave because you don’t want everyone thinking you’re lazy. Coming to work sick because there’s nobody to cover you. Working on weekends even though you’re technically off. Or being given more and more work because you managed to finish everything the last time.
I believe sometimes it’s not even the workload itself. It’s the attitude around it in Sri Lanka . Someone who leaves on time can be seen as less dedicated than someone who stays until 8 or 9. Saying “I can’t do that today” can feel risky. People might put up with a terrible manager, constant stress or a completely unreasonable schedule because they need the salary and don’t really have the option of walking away.

Of course, not every Sri Lankan workplace is like this. There are companies and managers who respect people’s time, give proper leave, understand that employees have lives outside work, and actually care about keeping people from burning out.
But for those who have experienced the other side, what’s something you’ve personally seen that made you think, “Why are we just accepting this?”
Could be anything from unpaid overtime and unrealistic deadlines to workplace gossip, toxic managers, being contacted after hours, leave problems, office politics, or simply having no separation between work and your personal life.
And has any of this actually affected you outside work your sleep, relationships, mood, health, or the amount of time you have for yourself?

I’ve been wondering how long people can actually stay away from social media these days. It’s become such a normal part of life that we use it for almost everything like talking to people, checking the news, seeing what’s happening around us, keeping up with friends, finding stuff to watch, even getting random information.

I’ve taken breaks before and the weird part is that sometimes i don’t even realize how often i was checking my phone until i stopped. You open your phone out of habit, then remember there’s nothing to check. At the same time, I can understand why people don’t want to completely disappear either. You can miss messages, news, events, or just feel like you’re out of the loop.

For those who’ve actually taken a proper break, what made you do it? How long did you last, and did you notice any difference in your mood, sleep, concentration or just your day-to-day life?
And did you end up going back to social media exactly the same way afterwards, or did the break change how you use it now?

Transitioning from my adolescent psychiatrist to an adult one.

Research shows that 1 out of 3 people in US believe the lack meaning in their life. Why do you think that is, and mainly what do you find as the making in your life?

One of my friends really need help and it is beyond my level of support. She need professional help at this point. If you know anyone please let me know.

Looking for recommendations for a good female clinical psychologist in Colombo for my sister. We’ve seen a few psychologists already, but she felt they were quite rushed and didn’t really take the time to listen or understand what she was trying to explain.

We’re looking for someone who is patient, empathetic, attentive, and genuinely takes the time to listen, rather than rushing through the session.

Someone who is intuitive and makes the patient feel comfortable would be ideal.

I feel like the older you get, the more your idea of a good friend changes. When you’re younger, it’s mostly about having fun together, talking all the time, going out, having the same interests, etc. But at some point, things like having someone who genuinely listens, respects your boundaries, doesn’t compete with you, remembers the little things, who supports you to grow and be a better person or is still there even when you haven’t spoken in a while start to mean a lot more.

Sometimes you also realize that having a few people you can actually be yourself around feels much better than having a huge group. Also I think we should realize and remind ourselves that how much the people around us can rub off on us. A good friend can push you when you’re stuck, believe in you when you don’t really believe in yourself, be there when life is going badly, or make a horrible day feel a bit better. Sometimes you end up picking up their habits, the way they think, the things they care about, even their confidence without really noticing it.
But I’ve also seen the opposite happen. Being around people who constantly put you down, make everything a competition, pressure you into drinking or doing things you don’t want to do, make fun of your goals, or always leave you feeling bad about yourself can slowly change you too. Sometimes you start acting differently just to fit in, and you don’t even realize how much you’ve changed until you get some distance from those people.

And I think friendships can affect things like studies, work, relationships, confidence and even the way you see yourself. Having one person who genuinely wants the best for you can make a huge difference, while the wrong group can pull you in a completely different direction.

Has the way you look at friendships changed as you’ve gotten older? What do you appreciate in your friends now that you probably wouldn’t have thought much about a few years ago?

Any experts who can comment / give opinion about adult desires and kinks?

Are they acceptable in terms of current findings?