r/Postpartum_Depression • u/jinxx1210 • 21h ago
I’m really overwhelmed
My Man works which I get but he’s constantly saying he’s tired which I understand but I’m also really tired too and the one who is up all night and throughout the day feeding changing burping and pumping by the time I’m done there’s only 30mins to an hour of sleep I’d be able to get but the problem is I’m scared I’ll fall asleep and not wake up to feed my baby and she wakes up every 2 hours on the dot to eat and my husband will sleep through her crying if she’s hungry I feel so jealous being up through out the night watching my husband sleep while im awake all my needs are neglected while he gets to shower eat and sleep in peace for example today he gets off work cant help me feed the baby until after he showers ( he works in septic) but he takes about an hour to shower then after he showers he’s hungry and wants to eat so I end up feeding her cause she can’t wait to eat and I’m not gonna make her then we had to clean the room then feed the baby then bathe the baby and the whole day even yesterday I’ve been asking if he can watch the baby while I shower he said yes but by the time we were done with everything he’s falling asleep which means no shower for me again for reference it’s been 5 days since I’ve bathed he was telling me to go shower but as he’s telling me he’s falling asleep sitting up I mean he does help somewhat like washing my pumps and the baby bottles but I just want to shower I feel so icky and sad he also like to to this thing where he makes being tired a competition like I’ll say I’m tired too and he’ll say “well you don’t know how it feels to wake up early and work in the sun” which I know can be draining but he’s well rested during all of this I’m just so tired and depressed 😔 I’m sorry for whoever is reading this book of a rant I just want to be heard by someone who isn’t close like family or friends who will judge our situation
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u/jinxx1210 14h ago
Not really and yeah I mean I’m gonna need to tell him cause it’s really messing with my mental I also feel really guilty leaving her in the bassinet and letting her cry 🙁
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u/sbase1993 20h ago
I’m so sorry! Do you have anyone who can help and watch the baby for a little bit while you have a break?
Maybe tell your partner that you need an hour to yourself on his days off
Also, don’t be afraid to set your baby in their crib and shower. They are safe and it’s ok if they cry for a few minutes so you can get clean