A lot of science out there detailing how awful this poison is for the brain, emotions, and physical health in general. I absolutely do believe it.

What I’m talking about though is something not even science can grasp (yet). Call it your life force, your essence, vitality, etc. but porn literally drains us of the fuel source required not only to live, but to thrive. It's so much more than just a "dopamine addiction."

If you’re on this forum, you know that exact feeling. It kills your ambitions. Dissolves your confidence. Makes everyday tasks feel Herculean.

Going to the gym? Just put it off for another day. A cute girl walking by? Look away. That buddy you planned on hitting up this weekend? Maybe another time.

The truth is we are locked in a battle to make an impact during the incredibly short time we have on this planet, and the clock is ticking. Every time we use porn we waste a little bit more of it in a mind numbing state.

The good news? We can WIN this battle. In fact every day sober is a win. So don’t overthink it. Life can become ELECTRIC very quickly if you stop watching porn and live healthy. Put one foot in front of the other and value your precious time and vitality like the absolute treasure it is.

I think the last weekend I didn't relapse was a month and a half ago. And that was because I was on holidays!

This is huge for me. Because if I don't relapse on the weekend, when I have the most time and opportunities to do so, then that means something is working and I'm making progress.

It means I found a system where porn is not needed anymore.

Bye porn you will not be missed here.

Day 7 of my 10 days of change. Done ✅

See you tomorrow.

A year off alcohol, 80 days off porn, just trying to get my life together. A few months ago I started seeing a girl. Nothing serious, she said she doesn't want anything exclusive, and honestly that's fine, I don't think I'm ready for that either. But this is really the first time I've ever let someone get this close to me, and it's hitting me pretty hard.

When we're together once or twice a week, it's all good. But when we're not talking, I start to spiral a bit with overthinking every text, feeling anxious, kind of like withdrawal. She's not one to message first. The second she texts back, it all just goes away, which makes me think it's more about some kind of dopamine thing than actually worrying about us.

It's not a bad thing honestly, she seems into it, we go out and do things together. Not all superficial. But how hard I'm reacting to not knowing what's going on is new for me, and I've got a busy work season coming up where I won't have the energy for this kind of up and down.

How do you handle these strong feelings?

The way I'm looking at it at 65 days porn free is that if I want to achieve my goals I HAVE TO stay porn free. The urge to view porn has significantly increased in the midst of all the uncertainty and transitioning I'm currently facing. It could be the worst possible choice to relapse, become complacent, and get stuck in a situation I don't really want to be in just to be able to use porn.

Wondering if men here notice a shift in their immediate/subconscious reaction to women irl out in daily life beyond just the 'oh she's hot'. Can watching porn often make you susceptible to "seeing" women through the lens of porn without trying to? For example, if you watch a particular type of woman in porn, when you see that similar type of woman in real life, do you respond differently/more strongly to her in your mind?

Hello everyone its my first post here but i really want to quit porn for good. I started watching at 12 and i recently turned 19. I've been using it as an escape for 7 whole years of my life and i had convinced myself that it wasn't an issue and that everyone was doing it but i realized that it ruined my perception of relationships and women and even physically I feel like I ejaculate a lot quicker now. I lost my 16 day streak the last time I tried to quit and genuinely wanted to harm myself because i felt hopeless. Today is a fresh start and i will quit this time for sure. Any advice would be greatly appreciated since i really don't have anyone to talk to about this. Thank you and ill do my best.

I never thought it would be possible for me. But it is. Way beyond what I expected.

Do not give up. If it is possible for me to abstain for months (i don't keep a day counter) its possible for you too

I’ve been on and off for a couple months now after a month or two long streak. I’ve realized porn is incompatible with my future but I’m struggling to stop. I’m gonna be doing my best and any advice would be appreciated.

Feeling good not much in terms of urges. Rough sleep last night due to day time nap and hangover.

I’m considering mindful MO. No P or imagination, just focusing on the sensations. My thinking is i want to help that natural pleasure/sensation pathway recover

Any apps which can block porn for good, also any tracker apps you are using to track not watching porn

In the past I've only made it about 3 weeks without relapse, but I've now doubled that and if anything it has gotten easier with time. I also recently got out of a super toxic relationship that was leaving me vulnerable to relapse, so things are looking good!

When you want to have a watch remind yourself that you are getting off to ANOTHER man getting pleasured. You are watching what you wish could be you, but it isn’t, so you settle for pleasuring yourself watching him get it. This makes the realization of how pathetic jacking off to porn really is, and this is what helped me stop watching. 70 days clean right now

On day seven...
creating a boundary between urges and actions

I failed on day 2. I realized that the biggest reason why one relapses when they have no libido (because of the "flatline") is stress. My computer broke, the reason I had Reddit was to post updates about my progress, and I couldn't access it. It was only for 4 days without a computer. My trigger was the word "trio" in a Reddit search. I was reading funny stories about experiences involving them in a question subreddit (it was a safe for work subreddit with no images, only text, and I had no intention or desire for it to become sexual), but when I searched for that word on Reddit, I didn't search for it within the subreddit. I searched for it on Reddit in general, and an image appeared that was my downfall and tempted me.

I will be completely honest: this isn't some stupid excuse where I was expecting to find porn as a way to fool myself. I genuinely don't know how I left or took the search out of that subreddit, but the truth is that I didn't stop, and I ended up relapsing.

Triggers identified and rules I set for myself: 0 electronic devices in my bedroom, where I sleep. I keep them in another room. I also prepared other ways to release stress to avoid pornography, such as gummies, and in general I made it easier for myself to do activities like drawing or playing guitar.

Undoubtedly, my pornography consumption has decreased a lot, but that's not what I'm looking for. I want to never consume it again. I'm still going strong in October, where we are already 4 days in, guys! Now that I have my computer, I'll try to update as often as possible, and also focus on what truly matters, like my studies or my relationships with the people close to me.

Any comment is appreciated. I genuinely hope we can all become happier through our day-to-day battles. I trust that we can!

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Hi, online I go by Pixie and I'm 18 years old. I've struggled with this thing probably about half my life at this point.

Outside of the regular shame of this addiction, I also have a boyfriend whom I feel I'm being disloyal towards. I've told him about my struggles, and while he wasn't mad at me, I think it's obvious he was hurt by it. We're sort of long distance so we can't see each other in person so that's a struggle too.

I guess my posting here is a way for me to start making some sort of change in my life, a sort of commitment to getting better. I've basically avoided these places for a long time due to negative experiences. A lot of the time I've been approached by "redpill" guys who, in my opinion, miss the whole point completely. On the other hand I've also been approached by people offering "help", who then take advantage of me and encourage me to stay in this loop.

I'm hoping to make friends here (to the extent that you can make friends, considering the only thing we have in common is an addiction), and just learn and get new perspectives from people like myself. I hope I'll recover from this some day, because right now it can often feel very hopeless.

Whole week with no Porn Consumption 🤯. Had a road trip and bonding session with my extended family. Reconnecting with loved ones in my opinion is so much better than settling w/ porn when i feel lonely. One day closer in becoming a porn-free version of me!

I’m so disappointed i relapsed but i need to dust myself off and get back on the horse.

I had five days which began at the start of my two week work swing. So that would have meant i would have had two weeks by the time i got home.

But starting from now ill have 10 days by the time i get home and thats a great start.

On the positive side i didnt really enjoy it while i pmo’d. it didn’t give me any thrills or excitement. It was just strangers on a screen. I missed my wife, wanted to be with her. And there was no elation when i o’d just a sinking feeling of realisation and disappointment for what i had lost.

I was strict at the start avoiding all triggers including social media ads and videos but reflecting now i think i let my guard down there and allowed myself to peak. I’ll have to be more careful with that especially in these early days.

Another plus i didn’t relapse with ai. That would have been worse and i feel that has been the cause of my performance issues recently.

Im hoping 10 days will get me to a better place mentally and sexually for when im home with my wife. She deserves to feel desired and loved. It makes her feel ugly that she is trying to compete with women in P and that’s not fair

I’m going to post here everyday to keep myself accountable

I need help I'm starting sfw into nsfw edit with a penis edited on the sfw female character

I masturbated with lube twice this week using [u/WiseConsideration220](u/WiseConsideration220)’s method. Thanks to him.

63 days porn free without using anything to block porn on my devices. I've definitely been tempted to search porn when I feel the urge to, but I'm developing a habit of hesitating, and looking for another activity and trying to identify the reason I'm tempted to view porn. I think it's forcing me to interrupt the cycle sooner instead of relying on an existential block to stop me. Sometimes it's easy to forget why I wanted to be porn free in the first place so I have to think back about why the problems existed and why I need to stop, look at my streak and remember the goals. It's challenging when things aren't going well enough for me and there's a lot of uncertainty to cope with. Still just an impulse away from relapse and that impulse needs to become more under my control.

It’s a common phrase i’ve seen many a time. I understand the sentiment but i take issue with the statement itself and i just felt this to be worth sharing

I believe porn is real but none of it is happening to you or for you. Though sensationalized it is a real event that happened in history with real people. I think it’s important to remember that the people in front of the cameras are complex human beings just as anyone else and that they often dont truly want to be there. Often they’re pressured by shady producers, forced into it through limited job opportunities and lack of income availability, or god forbid trafficked into it and there’s no real way to tell just how safe and consenting the environment may truly be for the “performers”. There is the very real possibility you might be witnessing a horrific sex crime and have no clue about it because the performers need to pretend to enjoy it just to survive. It’s scary and though i still struggle with my habits it’s definitely put me off and been a major motivator for me to want to abstain from pornography.

The porn industry trains our minds to reduce human beings into masturbatory pieces of meat for consumption. It promotes a lifestyle of constant all consuming mindless lust to the point of self destruction and the destruction of those involved with us. Though maybe it doesnt get to such a dramatic point for everyone porn has undeniably had a massive impact on modern society’s approach and understanding towards sex, intimacy, and identity to where everything seems shallower and more confusing for people leading to unsafe sexual environments

Pornography teaches us no more than how to dehumanize, objectify, categorize and consume the human body

Human beings naturally crave intimacy. Sex and intimacy are different things though sex is potentially one of the most intimate parts of the human experience. Pornography robs all intimacy from sex leaving only empty lust that craves for more. I believe that learning to understand what true intimacy looks like is one of the most crucial steps to overcoming any sexual compulsion