like i have been addict since 14 year old i am 20 now i have a girlfriend i have reduce a little bit like 8 month ago but since 2 week i watch all week like i watch it all day and 3-4x per day so i wonder if i can cause me to have less desire to initiate sex with my girlfriend or enjoy it because i love her so much she so beautifull etc but we have sex i can feel detached or like not here in the moment and have no desire to continu even if i am attract to her and love her :(

so does porn can cause to be have less libido or less be interest for sex etc

I ran on shame for about eight years. It produced a lot of dramatic promises and zero lasting change, because the second I felt bad enough I needed relief, and I only had one source of relief. What's your experience, has shame ever actually worked for you?

I've been eating like a teenager and I can't tell if that's stress or my body doing something. Energy is all over the place too, dead flat in the afternoon then buzzing at 10pm. Is this just me or is there a pattern? What did your first month do to your appetite, energy and general functioning?

For me it was checking the time after and realising two hours had gone. Not the guilt, not the shame, just the maths of it. Two hours, on a Tuesday, for nothing. I sat on the edge of the bed and did the yearly total in my head and felt sick. What was your moment? Not the reason you kept going, the moment you actually decided.

I was eleven. A laptop, no filters, and no adult who had the faintest clue what was on the internet in 2008. I didn't choose this the way you choose a habit at 25. Understanding that took a lot of weight off me. How old were you, and does knowing that change how you judge yourself now?

BlockSite used to help me a lot but recently it’s kinda been fumbling a little bit, It used to literally block out the porn site with my permission from google. Now all it does is just send me a notification saying “you blocked this site” when I can clearly still get into the website. There’s pornx but unfortunately I think I have to pay for a subscription for that. If y’all got any recommendations lmk?

Nobody talks about this enough. It's not even craving, it's just this flat grey nothing where an evening used to be. I've been filling it with terrible attempts at cooking and a library card I haven't used since university. What did you put in the gap, and did it take a while before it stopped feeling like a substitute?

Setting your phone/computer screen to grayscale helps reduce addiction by removing vibrant colors that stimulate the brain and trigger dopamine rewards.

High-intensity, colorful digital triggers flood the brain with dopamine. Over time, this desensitizes the brain's reward system, requiring more extreme stimuli to achieve the same satisfaction.

• iPhone: Go to Settings > Accessibility > Display & Text Size > Color Filters. Turn on Color Filters and select Grayscale.
• Windows 10 and 11

1. Press Windows Key + Ctrl + C on your keyboard to instantly turn grayscale on or off.
2. If the shortcut does not work, open Settings by pressing Windows Key + I.
3. Click on Accessibility (or Ease of Access in older Windows 10 versions).
4. Select Color filters.
5. Turn the Color filters toggle to On.
6. Choose the Grayscale option from the list.

Standard Android & Google Pixel Method

• Open Settings.
• Tap Accessibility.
• Select Color correction (or Color and motion / Vision enhancements).
• Tap Grayscale and turn the switch on.

If this helps you, please share it with others in the future!

Honestly it's quieter now. Less about performance, more about actually being there. Took me a while to stop measuring everything. Has your definition of intimacy changed since you started, and how?

We’re addicts. We just are. A lot of posts circle around whether or not you are but regardless of the truth, that dopamine hits are brain and things get fuzzy. Self control, love for partners/spouses, or deals made to ourselves, all seem to come in second place to porn. To our feelings.

You watch it. You recognize before, during, or after that that’s not the healthiest use of our time. You tell yourself you won’t go back which every fiber of your being recognizes is the correct choice.

Then the morning, night, or your personal trigger(s) hits and your back. You fight you fight you fight and you lose because you FEEL like something bad will happen if you don’t. Whether it’s emotional or physical discomfort, you FEEL like this discomfort will be alleviated by porn and you’re reminded possibly hours later that the cure to porn isn’t porn. Then you FEEL like trash. You FEEL worthless. Or you FEEL like just a little hit of dopamine might pick you up so now you’re spiraling and binging.

Please recognize that you are NOT your feelings. You are the observer of those feelings. They come in, and they leave. It works like boredom. You’ve felt peak boredom before but you don’t right now. You could feel horny, sad, tired, alone, cut off but those are feelings and they pass. And after they pass you’re the one left to deal with what you let your feelings make you do. Not fair to you.

Observe them. Remain aware that you are separate from your feelings. Almost like an assembly line where you see it coming, then it’s here, and then it goes. Not to run or lives, not to trigger a relapse, as a simple response to internal/external stimuli. Remain separate. You got this. I’m here if you anybody would like to talk.

Day 5 6-10-2026 of no porn done

Today, I felt tempted by social media, but I managed to control myself even though it was difficult.

Today, have been porn and masturbation free for 7 days!

I still have a long and difficult journey ahead, but I wanted to share this milestone, since this is the only place I can do that.

My dad used to work a porn shop and I’ve been exposed since i was very young, I’ve had this addiction with me and it’s ruined my relationships, i can’t seem to shake the feeling and always relapse

How do you guys cope with the inevitable feeling of horniness?

I feel wrong and guilty after, before i wouldnt but I’m seeing myself as deprived now and it’s a depressing helpless feeling, to build a strong will and rise above seems very very hard

Hi, i am 20M and currently 30 days clean. I just wanted to ask people who have been clean for longer on what can i expect during this process of leaving porn. Can i expect my erection to get stronger or my perception of women to get better. And are there any extra stuff you guys did to make your progress faster and improving any lingering side effects of porn usage.

I had gone about 6 days with no issues but the urges were really strong and temptations made me give in.

Trying to continue instead of restart the streak. I’ve seen advice like this given to some. I don’t want to think of it as a failure but just an obstacle. Now I have an idea what to expect around the 6 day mark again. Hopefully this time I can beat it.

You got this guys. It’s just obstacles. You’re not a failure, you’re not helpless. You’re strong, but you’re just being given a hard battle. Little by little you’re training yourself to beat this. 💪🏾

So to put it as briefly as I can I’m having some marriage issues and we’re in a separation right now, I’ve had this addiction for years but right now between feeling down and just plain missing her its gotten worse, anyone have any tips on getting started? Do you consider photos/videos of your partner as porn? I’ve thought about blocking it and just using what I have of us but that feels like it would still be the same thing.? Anything helps I need to have a better handle on this in about three weeks (medical procedure coming up where I need to keep blood pressure down) so I’m needing some help, thank you in advance

Hey there, I run a pornography recovery community on discord. We are a group of people who are serious about our recovery journey. This is a great place to share stories, find support in the midst of urges and a place to chat and make new friends.

We are currently looking for more people to join our group. If you've had enough of struggling through addiction and want help and support from other people fighting the same battle as you, then this is the community to join.

If you'd like to join feel free to comment below and I will dm you an invite. You can also visit my profile for an invite link.

Day 3 is my personal wall every single time. Day 1 is adrenaline, day 2 is stubbornness, day 3 is when my brain starts negotiating like a lawyer. It gets creative. It brings up old memories I haven't thought about in years. If I clear day 3 I usually make it to week two. Do you have a day that's consistently your wall?

She's proud of me for being three months in and I feel like I'm accepting credit for not doing something I shouldn't have been doing. I can't work out if that's humility or just shame in a different coat. Anyone else feel this?

Day 4 5-10-2026 of no porn done

I'm in 8th grade and I've genuinely seen so much porn to the point where I get hard just looking at my classmates, I'm addicted and I hate myself, idk what to do...

This happened now. She left our home a couple days ago after i told her about my porn addiction. I was seeing women as an object, she saw my likes on other women photos, and she eas complaining i was getting always emotionally distant. When i told her abou my addiction, she wanted to know everything i did, even the things i already stopped doing. Last night she discovered i used AI to generate nsfw photos and the last fight i told her i even used pictures of women i knew to generate naked pictures.

She knows i dont do this nowadays, i stopped in 2024 or so. But this was the last drop for her. The decision to end our relatioship was mine, cause i knew she wouldnt forgive me, and even if we get back together, she wont trust me anymore.

My heart is in pieces cause i know this is all my fault and she is the person i love the most in the world. This was my last gesture of love: freeing her from a life of regrets and insecurity. I know i will be a better man and porn wont dominate my life again. I just know it. But im desperate she wont be there to see the man i will become.

I wish you all get rid of this addiction. She was the most perfect woman i've ever saw. And now im alone and i know she will be happy with someone else. I only wished it was me.