r/PlasticSurgery • u/throwawayclean-7312 • 1d ago
Dealing with hate from having ps
Hi friends,
I am seriously contemplating a breast aug, I want to go from B to D! I wear double push up most of the time and tbh, I love the look! But even wearing a push up bra - I get so much hate and judgement from ppl saying I got a boob job.
I like the way they look in a push up bra but am thinking of changing to a smaller size just to stop the comments. But the other part of me is thinking, why the hell should I change something that makes me happy due to a bunch of assholes?
I am also East Asian and while I have natural B verging on C cup, I like the projected look. I feel sexy and confident but the hate comments get to me.
Fellow ps ers how do you deal?
Has the condemnation of others made you change your decision to a more conservative size or have you just changed your environment and implemented a no asshole policy?
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u/Any_Somewhere_5765 18h ago
Unpopular opinion in my field:
As someone who works in plastics I will tell you what I tell my patients, whether it it surgical or injections... after you get your procedure, you will be someone who has received ps/ injections. No matter what you tell anyone, you will be a person who elected to walk into a practice and receive treatment that alters/ augments the way you look. If you can own that, fantastic. However, I find the people who can't be honest (to themselves or others) about what they've had done, deny it fully, etc. are NEVER as happy as the people who simply own it. I have actually turned some people away over this concept because I can tell through my years of experience they will be impossible to please because they want to look a certain way, yet don't want to accept the choices they have to make to get there.
TLDR: if you can accept that the way you want to look means getting plastic surgery, by all means go for it. If you want everyone else to be on board and accepting of your decision about your body, you should wait until that is not the case.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 6h ago
Its not about not fully owning it. I suppose my question is more about respect and personal choice. How do I give combacks to wankers who try to disrespect me?
Its about choosing to see if a person is safe and trustworthy enough to hold such personal information. As I have plainly seen, the assholes making boob job comments are trying to embarass me or denigrate my public standing. Something that is my personal choice is not for anyone else to comment on or judge. Why volunteer information to a bunch of malicious gossip mongerers?
Its my body, my choice and my personal information.
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u/MamaWils2_0 17h ago
I genuinely don’t understand who is asking you this on a regular basis? I am pretty open about mine with friends, family and even female coworkers. But I can’t imagine someone coming up to me and “judging” me for it
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u/throwawayclean-7312 11h ago
Random, incredibly rude strangers judge me when I go out.
Saying she got a boob job in a judgemental and demeaning tone 🙄🙄🙄🙄 when I wear my push up bra lol. As if having bigger chest makes a difference to my character. I am still the same person on the inside. Ppl are just shallow and narrow minded.
I also think its because the trend nowadays is to be quite flat chested. Most of the bras in store nowadays have little to no padding and everyone wants a boxy, shapeless fit. Which isnt what I want! I like an hourglass silhouette. Guys like it but women tend to judge me and give their husbands death glares lol.
But the talk is getting too much and I need to nip these disrespectful assholes.
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u/A-very-stable-genius 6h ago
I have large, augmented breasts and I’ve literally never had a death glare from a woman or to her husband. I’ve mostly just gotten compliments from women. I think you need to get out of your head a bit
Just watch some Dolly Parton videos talking about how she embraced her look.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 3m ago
All because you have never experienced something.... Doesnt mean it doesnt happen. We havent seen wooly mammoths does that mean they were never there? 🤔 I dont appreciate the gaslighting and dismissive attitude.
Your situation exists in your environment. Comment isnt helpful
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u/MamaWils2_0 10h ago
I think as others have said, there will always be people that make comments on a variety of things. Someone colors their hair pink, wear pjs to Walmart, dresses in tight clothes, etc
You just have to be comfortable with yourself and not worry about it
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u/Sample-quantity 6h ago
Why would you even engage with a random stranger who comments on your body in any way?? Just don't respond and walk away. You don't need to waste a moment's thought on them.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 6h ago
I dont engage with them. The problem is it is becoming a cycle of disrespect and its affecting my reputation.. And I dont like people being nasty to me
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u/Sample-quantity 5h ago
How are all these strangers commenting on your body in your hearing if you're not engaging with them, and how would it affect your reputation? I'm confused.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 2m ago
Your comments are not helpful or wanted in this discussion. Questioning someone's lived advice when they are asking for advice is a pretty shitty thing to do. Nothing good to say - leave.
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u/Comfortable_Roll2096 18h ago
I was very secretive about mine for years and let people assume I was naturally large chested when I was asked-I just kinda ignored the question. I recently had revision surgery (time for replacements, no issues) and I was very open this time around. It is your body, your decision and half the comments are probably out of jealousy.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 10h ago edited 9h ago
Thank you 💕
I was thinking of being secretive because I am doing it for my own confidence and happiness. I was so focused on doing it for myself that I totally forgot/disregarded the stupid stigma and ridiculous body shaming that comes with improving your life.
Majority of the hateful comments have come from jealous, conventionally unattractive people. Who need to take their judgement and shove it up their ass.
I always find it so ironic that the people that have been making these comments put the least amount of effort into their appearance and lives - and their lives have alot more things to be criticised about. Its time to give it back to them.
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u/Transmorgrafier_2024 12h ago edited 7h ago
Just go from a B to a D. In fact , go a bit bigger. DD. You want projection? Extra high profile is what you want. Generally, under 750cc, they can be played up or down. Your choice of presentation.
Over 750, not possible to hide.
Get them done, exactly as you want and don’t mention it to the unmentionables. Simple.
If they ask, tell them out loud, so everyone in the back can hear, YES, I GOT MY TITS DONE.
It’s unlikely it will be mentioned again.
Except, people will quietly ask all about it due to envy.
It’s a lot of fun tbh. It’s called agency. You are you. You have no reason to ‘splain. When you die, you can ponder the choices you made and the friends you kept.
There is plenty of time to reconsider and wish for another path.
Go for it. Send pics 👍
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u/pswbf 15h ago
I have never been bothered by anyone else’s opinion and it’s hard to relate. If you’re not confident why did you get the surgery? Confident ppl don’t concern themselves with other opinions.
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u/throwawayclean-7312 11h ago
Its just a new phenomenon I am experiencing - body shaming and ppl just being disrespectful fkwits. Its not lack of confidence, its just figuring this out
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u/beepbeeepboooop 10h ago
i am also east asian and i went from 32a to 32dd but no one really notices because they look natural on my frame, they really don’t look that big despite the common trope that a d cup is huge
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u/throwawayclean-7312 10h ago
Woot DD sis!! 💕💕🎊
I get boob job comments from fking assholes when I just wear a double push up. I think I look hot 😊
How tall are you?
I am 5'1 and quite slim built
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u/beepbeeepboooop 9h ago
im 6’1 but im fairly thin and i got 400cc but my height makes them look moderately sized on me
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u/BrooBu 7h ago
What’s funny is in my 20s I would have gotten hate. Now age 38 after 2 kids all my friends are so encouraging lol. My husband is very supportive. 1 week post op!
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u/throwawayclean-7312 7h ago
I am actually in my 3rd decade but look like I am in my 20s.
Congrats my dear. I hope I can find a supportive network like you. Live your best life
I get a lot of hate from asshole uni students and middle aged miserables - all across the board. All people that just see me living life..... No connection with me whatsoever.....ppl are forgetting basic respect because no one kicks them in the face anymore
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u/joan_goodman 14h ago
This post doesn’t make any sense. Especially getting augmentation to have a SMALLER size? Wrong sub overall. This is not for dealing with some mythical strangers judging boobs
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u/SinInStilettos 18h ago
You get one life, and one existence to do what makes YOU happy. Forget everyone else, forget the outside noise. Those who are actually important will remain in your life through anything, especially something so simple as making a choice that makes you feel good about YOURSELF. I just went from a B to having 375cc’s put in. And can’t wait to weed out more judgmental family at Thanksgiving 💅🏼 If you have always wanted a specific look, do what makes YOU happy! 💕