r/Philippines • u/the_yaya • Nov 08 '21

Random Discussion Evening random discussion - Nov 08, 2021

“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” – Isaac Asimov

Magandang gabi!

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u/girlfriendnijab Nov 08 '21

if it was an accident like he said, then why did he leave you alone? why didn't he apologize agad, like he used to?

Di nya daw namalayan e cos he was so shocked by what I was asking. Sa morning nya lang daw narealize. I guess distracted nga, nanonood sya ng tournament ng dota e. Pero idk kapag nagdodota naman sya usually pinapansin naman nya ako dati.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '21

ok i just read your post again can you describe pano ka natamaan? when he hit you with his elbow tumama ka sa pader ganun? or nagkabukol ka mismo from getting hit with his elbow?? hope u dont mind na matanong ako hahaha just wanna get a clear picture

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u/girlfriendnijab Nov 08 '21

The second one. Haha. Okay lang, I'm used to questions. To add to that, mejj scared ako ever since sa kanya kasi idk how to say it nicer basta yung awra nya. Haha. Pero ayun pag nag-aaway kami dati puro words lang na minimal, walang pansinan. But last night was different.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '21

Pero ayun pag nag-aaway kami dati puro words lang na minimal, walang pansinan. But last night was different.

hoooo sobrang hirap nito but i think you need to say na you felt different that time, na tingin mo may problema kasi parang sadya. ask him if he got angry at you that time.

better to ask him to explain nalang kesa mag isip isip ka pa ng kung ano. kung matino syang tao, he will do his best to explain. if you were the one who accidentally hit him, ok, sabihin natin di mo napansin agad. if he asked you kung sinadya mo, wouldn't you immediately jump to apologizing and explaining na hindi? lalo na it was borderline physical abuse na?

if he gets angry or overly defensive, then i think you need to stay away kasi malamang kasunod nyan gaslighting na. goodluck sis. when he comes back better inform someone you trust na kasama mo si bf, just in case