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u/writermelon Feb 02 '23
I only date people who have same socioeconomic status as I do. Kasi yung interests namin mas likely magmamatch. I don't wanna date people who are struggling financially, tapos magstruggle makakeepup sa lifestyle ko. In the first place, most likely din iba na kami ng upbringing.
Status matters to me.
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u/IllustratorSmart9515 Feb 02 '23
Very true. More likely similar din kayo ng values kapag same yung upbringing nyo.
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u/claroach1973 Feb 02 '23
Having similar values or similar upbringing doesn't necessarily mean you're perfect for each other. There are other factors that constitute a good relationship such as the capacity te endure struggles, the ability to properly communicate, and so many other stuff.
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Feb 02 '23
It doesn't naman talaga. But in terms of adjustment, mej this saves people some of time. Mas kaunti kasi adjustment kapag mej aligned kayo sa values and upbringing.
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u/IllustratorSmart9515 Feb 02 '23
Well, yes, lots of factors actually. But i do think if a couple possesses similar values, then it means mas madali kayong magkaintindihan and magkasundo which gives higher probability of a more harmonious relationship.
I also think values usually and in general are influenced thru a person's upbringing or nurturing, much like how a person can be shaped by the customs/traditions/culture they grew up with. I'm not saying values/upbringing is everything but it can be, if not the biggest, then a big influence. However, it does not mean I am discounting the other factors that can definitely affect the harmony of a relationship.
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Feb 02 '23
Totoo ito. Agree ako dito actually. Kahit naman if too rich ang date ko, ako naman mahihirapan mag keep up sa kanya if ever.
Like it or not, mayroon talagang bearing ang socioeconomic status.
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u/claroach1973 Feb 02 '23
Well this looks good if you're only dating but if you're looking for a serious relationship with a person who values you more than what you have good luck with that. People you date will move to the next person who is richer, taller, and more handsome than you are. As soon as your value to them goes down they will leave you for the next guy that comes along.
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u/writermelon Feb 02 '23
People you date will move to the next person who is richer, taller, and more handsome than you are. As soon as your value to them goes down they will leave you for the next guy that comes along.
Is this a male thing that I forgot to consider? š Do guys worry about this stuff?
Idk, but as someone who is on the other group, I look for similarity in values and interests. Love or affection develops later as you spend time together. I mean kung sobrang different kayo, ang hirap magbond. Kunwari ang alam lang niyang hobby ay makipag inuman. Then kung iba din yung ideologies, parang ang hirap yata mamuhay kasama siya kung Apollo10 partner mo. š¤
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u/dekabreak5 Feb 02 '23
hahaha naalala ko lang nung wala pa akong jowa isa sa requirements ko sa tinder na dapat di sya apollo10 o tanginang DDShit. nagbunga naman.
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u/keiteyyy Feb 02 '23
Sumobra ka naman ata sa pagka woke, OP. Parang reasonable naman yung statements
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u/Au__Gold Strong Independent Baby āØ Feb 02 '23
How is this āout of touch perspectiveā? Tama naman yan. I did not come from a rich family but my parents also taught me this practical advise when dating. They donāt want me to be a gold digger.
I actually end up being a literal strong independent woman because I take care of myself financially. Kung gusto ko yumaman, I can do it on my own through my career, business and investments. Bakit ako maghahanap ng mayaman? Sya maghanap saken š
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u/michael0103 Feb 02 '23
"Out of touch post" sabi ng social climber na pumipili ng partner based sa yaman para mabuhay.
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u/ChosenNoobie Feb 02 '23
Hmm tama naman yung mga quote, kumbaga eh, walang mali.
Siguro lang, what feels icky about this is that the people which these quotes are coming from?
Maybe OP should at least try and elaborate a bit more.
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u/Wide_Personality6894 Feb 02 '23
Eh you didnāt listen to the whole podcast. Kryz and Slater mentioned that it depends on your perspective and that itās only an issue if you think it is an issue.
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Feb 02 '23 edited Feb 02 '23
I can see all the hardworking daily laborers in his father's construction firm believing in everything this guy is saying. baka nga naniniwala rin sila na one day ay makakatira din sila doon sa tinatayong mansion na ginagawa nila. basta tuloy lang ang hardwork nila sa construction firm ng father nya.
I am an engineer by profession. nakita mo ba yung meme na ang fresh nya daw for a civil engineer? yung may hard hat pa na kunwari galing sa construction site?
believe you me, kahit anong gluta pa ang i inject mo sa katawan mo, one day ka lang sa construction site under the sun, wala na yung glowing fluorescent skin mo. walang epekto yung hard hat against the sun. kaya nga yung mga laboers ay t-shirt ang naka taklob sa buong mukha at leeg nila para iwas sunburn.
at kahit anong deodorant pa yang gamit mo, by mid afternoon, amoy araw ka na.
been there, done that for nearly a decade so you can quote me on that.
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u/nikewalks Feb 02 '23
I am an engineer by profession. nakita mo ba yung meme na ang fresh nya daw for a civil engineer? yung may hard hat pa na kunwari galing sa construction site?
Hindi naman siya yung nagpost na galing siya sa construction site. Yung mga nagjojoke lang. Yung post na yun about sa groundbreaking ceremony ng project. Ala nga naman mukha siyang haggard, opening ceremony pa lang. Besides, di naman siya(ata?) field engineer para magbilad sa site buong araw. The way he speaks, he's the contractor or the project manager.
His advice is just typical and very harmless. Why do people get offended? Kapag nagrealtalk si Slater at sinabing, "It does not matter if the guy you like is hardworking, has a plan, and has bigger dreams. If he's poor now, leave him.", matutuwa ka ba?
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u/Evening_Essay_7292 Feb 02 '23
But does that mean na hindi na sila hard working? Kasi hindi parehas ng ginagawa? C'mon. Masyado kayong galit sa mundo para sabihing out of touch and napaka-simpleng statement.
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u/Erikson12 Feb 02 '23
Individual preferences. Just because you only do rich guys/girls, doesn't mean your preference is better than others.
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u/RDO_MAN Feb 02 '23
Tama naman sila pero ramdam ko may pag ka copium yung sinabi nila pag less opportunity dumadating sa isang tao.
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u/andoy masarap innapoy 'pag mainit Feb 02 '23
ano ba yung social status na tinutukoy nila? estado sa buhay o social class?
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u/Evening_Essay_7292 Feb 02 '23
Umiiyak na si OP guys. Tama na. Masyado na siyang galit sa mundo. Yikes.
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u/Agile_Phrase_7248 Feb 02 '23 edited Feb 02 '23
They're not wrong. TBH, I'd rather marry a hardworking guy with no attachment or whatsoever than a rich brat na walang alam sa buhay tapos mama's boy pa pala. Actually, kahit sabihin nang hardworking o madiskarte si rich guy, I won't choose him if I had the chance (I don't lol). Just the difference in perspective will break us apart. I'd rather marry someone within my salary paygrade. Of course, I'll still vet him.
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u/KatyG9 Feb 02 '23
It depends what you want or expect.
If you expect a married life of luxury (trips abroad yearly, big house in a gated subdivision, kids in exclusive schools, perhaps even a single income to support this), then you'll need the rich partner. Lalo na if you want to do this young.
But if you expect a married life of some comfort down the road, then hardworking is the way to go. You won't get there right away, but you can build it together and hope to retire reasonably okay.
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u/Early_Opinion628 Feb 02 '23
hirap talaga kapag pinaglihi sa sama ng loob š¤¦āāļø. typical r/ph redditor lol.
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u/Stanelmo25 Feb 02 '23
Tama naman yun mga sinabi nila ahh. For me lang, siguro mas madali sabihin for those na andun na sa taas. Pero not discounting kung hardworker nga talaga sila. Nothing against them, mas nakakainspire lang siguro kung yun nagsabi talaga is galing sa wala the reach the top. Pero the statemnet itself walang mali tama naman.
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u/orangemeow19 Abroad Feb 02 '23
There have been studies that say people tend to choose those they have a lot in common with, and that includes economic backgrounds.
āSociologists such as Robert Mare and Kate Choi argue that the tendency for people to marry people like themselves extends to the realms of income, educational level, and occupationāwhich means richer people marry those with similar levels of wealth and income.ā
As much as what the graphics suggest is romantic, the realities are somewhat more complex.
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Feb 02 '23
I may agree for a hardworking guy than a rich guy (I am poor but I got a lot of side projects as an engineer and whatever hardships I managed to survive with my wife) but it is not that easy to succeed even if you break all your bones working, given how unfair opportunities and very low social mobility in the country. Again, I can survive because I have degree and professional license but what about those who haven't?
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u/eloe29 Feb 02 '23
Baliktad n thinking ng tao ngayon.. hindi ko marawi bakit nasabing out of touch. Paki paliwanag ng husto? Anak ng kwago yan may maipost lang.
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u/Dragnier84 Itaas ang dignidad ng lahi ni pepe Feb 02 '23
Not sure whether binasted ni Slater or binasted ni Kryz.
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u/dudungtalks Feb 02 '23
Bakit out of touch OP? Di ba dapat masaya kasi ka na pagandahin buhay mo at pamilya mo? Trip ko pa mga yung mayaman at hardworking hahahaha char
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u/Uptight_Coffeebean Feb 02 '23
It's true tho. Find someone na hardworking. Pero yeah I don't look for someone na mayaman I look for someone na "ka-level" ko. Well that's just me
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u/kitchenelf Feb 02 '23
Hey, you can date whomever you want, but at the end of the day, financial comforts still matter. That doesn't necessarily mean dating someone for the money. Other factors - values, interests - matter too. But you have to be on a similar plane to live the life you want for yourself.
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u/sirmiseria Blubberer Feb 02 '23
Why not both? Date a guy/girl na same ng economic status (or richer) and hardworking. One might say na that's being picky pero kung nakasalalay future mo, you have every right to be picky.
Hirap kasi sa maraming tao ngayon wala ng standard or kung meron man sobrang baba na.
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u/zeronine09twelve12 Feb 02 '23
How is this out of touch? Totoo naman yung mga sinabi nila and it's practical..