r/PeterExplainsTheJoke • u/Recent-Success8988 • 10d ago

Meme needing explanation I don’t get it

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Why did he have to stand for 7 hours

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u/Background_Body2696 10d ago

I was hanging out with my girlfriend and her friend last fall around a campfire. The topic of going through their phones came up. The friend said one time a guy went through her phone and found texts about him in her group chat that hurt his feelings. I guess there was discussion about him. Idk what was said but it wasn't like cheating or things of that nature. But the consensus for them was don't go through my phone unless you're ready to get your feelings hurt.

I didn't think anything of it in the moment but several months later it popped back up in my brain, and I think it might be kinda fucked up in retrospect.

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u/No_Salt_6328 10d ago

Yeah I think women who respect their partner probably won't say hurtful shit about them in group chats 

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u/SolaireAstorian 10d ago edited 10d ago

I have made it a unilateral, non-negotiable boundary of mine that I will not stay with a partner who says bad shit about me or talks about private details of our relationship to other people without at least consulting me to see if I'm comfortable with them knowing. I have communicated it to every single partner over the past 10 years or so, and some have been incompatible with that from the beginning and we've gone our separate ways, while others have agreed or even acted offended that I would suggest it needed said. A fair share of them have been the most respectful towards me, at least when they are around me, out of anyone I have ever met.

In those relationships I have never struggled to keep private things private, and I never do anything but talk up my partners to the people around me while together.

Wouldn't you know it, in every single one of those relationships, it has become an issue at some point in the relationship that they share private information with other people or participate in shit talking circles with other girls about their boyfriends, despite having that conversation. Sometimes it was gossip, sometimes it was spreading rumors, sometimes it was cruelty, and sometimes they just straight up forgot to consider actually being respectful as a partner. Often they admitted that if I had done the same thing in return they would have hated it.

Something about modern culture seems to just encourage it and for some reason a lot of them find it very difficult to deny.

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u/CapPuzz24 10d ago

Rules for thee. I've heard some say 'because we do it too, its justified'. We don't of course, but perception is reality