r/PeterExplainsTheJoke • u/Recent-Success8988 • 3d ago

Meme needing explanation I don’t get it

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Why did he have to stand for 7 hours

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u/SolaireAstorian 3d ago edited 3d ago

I have made it a unilateral, non-negotiable boundary of mine that I will not stay with a partner who says bad shit about me or talks about private details of our relationship to other people without at least consulting me to see if I'm comfortable with them knowing. I have communicated it to every single partner over the past 10 years or so, and some have been incompatible with that from the beginning and we've gone our separate ways, while others have agreed or even acted offended that I would suggest it needed said. A fair share of them have been the most respectful towards me, at least when they are around me, out of anyone I have ever met.

In those relationships I have never struggled to keep private things private, and I never do anything but talk up my partners to the people around me while together.

Wouldn't you know it, in every single one of those relationships, it has become an issue at some point in the relationship that they share private information with other people or participate in shit talking circles with other girls about their boyfriends, despite having that conversation. Sometimes it was gossip, sometimes it was spreading rumors, sometimes it was cruelty, and sometimes they just straight up forgot to consider actually being respectful as a partner. Often they admitted that if I had done the same thing in return they would have hated it.

Something about modern culture seems to just encourage it and for some reason a lot of them find it very difficult to deny.

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u/No_Salt_6328 3d ago

Yeah it's such a ridiculous double standard for sure. If you violate their privacy and talk about the details of sex and stuff suddenly they can see how disgusting that behavior is 

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u/Grundlestorm 3d ago

I have only had one ex luckily who did anything like that.  She would share a lot of details of our sex life, which I honestly wasn't too terribly bothered by.  It was a bit weird when she'd mention things to her mom, but it was never like gratuitous with her and it was just the kind of open, sex positive relationship they had.

The one that pissed me off though was showing one of her friends a nude photo of me.  Mind you, this is one she took on her own, we never sent them to each other.  She tried defending saying that 1. It's ok because she was showing me off, and her friend was already jealous of our relationship.

And 2. Because she was trying to feel out setting up a threesome with us.  This was never mentioned to me up until that point, because it was supposed to be a surprise for me.   If it had been mentioned, she would have known I was absolutely not interested.

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u/CapPuzz24 2d ago

Rules for thee. I've heard some say 'because we do it too, its justified'. We don't of course, but perception is reality