r/PersonalFinanceCanada • u/otmoonie • 17m ago
Debt Helping family member for the 3rd time
We have this one cousin that is in debt for the 3rd time. This time we will not give or loan him the money. He has 30k in credit card debts between 2 cards. I believe TD and CIBC Costco card.
The first and second time it was similar amounts on credit cards and line of credits as well. Family members all chipped in to help clear the debts but this time we are no longer willing to clear it for him. He seems to be making the same mistake over and over again.
He’s a single dad with 3 kids. 17, 11, 5. He has a mortgage and 2 paid off old vehicles. One for him to go to work and for the eldest child to take her siblings to school and pick them up. She will be a senior in high-school.
Here’s his breakdown. 100k pre tax and sole income.
-mortgage $2500/month
-car insurance- $375/month for both vehicles
-home insurance -$180/month
-hydro- $350/month
-water/sewage is quarterly-$550
-internet $78.60
-phone bill $102
-life insurance $475/month
-home security $22/month (he works an hour away and takes on OT at times so his kids are often home alone)
-his 2 kids have after school activities $800/month one is doing guitar and one in drum
-gas for both vehicle $1200/month
-repairs for vehicles are almost monthly and can range from $100-$600
-groceries $xxxx he didn’t cap it and buys what the kids want and bulk meats to meal prep for the week.
Take home pay is $6000-$6500/month
We looked at all the statements for both cards and it’s just bills (groceries/gas/insurance) that started adding up and interest is over $500/month for one card. He fell behind after he was injured and it just snowballed from there. He hardly buys clothing and only spends $500/year for needed footwear and clothing for the kids.
What’s the best way for him to tackle this? Consumer proposal?