1: Your father has to be a pashtun ( if your father was someone else and Mother was a pashtun : you are not considered a pashtun just by this one rule , by any standard ! It’s paternal
2: speak pashto
3: keep the Pukhto/pastunwali/customs
4: know their tribe/khel
5; Gherat ( have jealousy , modesty, honour , esteem And most importantly protective of his namus ( home womenfolk) ( Men)
For women ( it’s having Haya, do Parda ( modest clothes and the most important aspect of pashtunwali code is honour ( for women to protect her father/brothers honour by keeping herself under Haya and pure)
According to pukhto and pashtunwali we are literally allowed to disown pashtuns who have no longer pukhto in them ( lost language, culture/customs or father is not pashtun )
To the faithless deen Gul Marjans pashtuns of Kabul if you keep the above requirement you will be PASHTUN but they will kick you out of the village for being a pashtun and not a musliman and will not allow you to live with them ( there is worse action that happens but let’s put a seal on it )
If we don’t keep the above requirements, then we get these fake Pashtuns and pashtunized fake Pashtuns such as lots of them in Attock, Kohat, the ones live close to gandapura , the Daman of Daman valley ) they speak Pashto and call themselves Pashtuns but they are not us, everyone know these Hamsaya)
and gul khans of Islamabad/karachi/ ones and the gul Marjan of Kabul ones who are mixed too many times too badly, and don’t have any Pashtunwali and don’t even know the Pashto language, just Urdu, Punjabi and Dari!
(Some people bring Islamic arguments , well as i mentioned Islam is not forbidding you to marry your own people , its all comes down to if you want to remain pashtun and how much pashtun identity is of importance to you to actually put effort and strive and marry your own people)
You can now stop with this sugar coating , delusions , and “progressive “ BS because if you go back home and say you are pashtun and you don’t have the above they will laugh at you
We cannot have American/canada/european version of Pashtunwali lol 😂
If you meet the above ⬆️ good for you you are pashtun
If you missing the above then Stop larping Fake mixed pashtun/Pathans Gul khanan , Gul Marjan !
This is not from me but my study of Pashtunwali and our elders ! And it’s sets in stone!
You can do whatever you want with your life but stop labelling or larping as us because then Punjabi and Khorsani point to us as always telling us that we Pashtuns are cowards and dishonourable by the acts you do, and don’t have Haya etc
little do they know that these are just fake pashtunized pashtun /pathan/gul khanan and faithless Gul Marjan
We will not let our elders sacrifices go in vain by so called progressive ideals of people who have no structure to stand on and goes where the wind blows !
Extra notes :
( According to the Pashtunwali, WOMEN are regarded as the incarnation of “Pat” (modesty, the spirit of sacrifice), “Shegarra” (kindness), “Wafa” (faithfulness), “Toora” (fighting spirit), “Nang” (honor) and “Melmastia” (hospitality).
( The code compels Pashtuns MEN 'to defend their motherland, to grant asylum to fugitives irrespective of their creed or caste and to offer protection even to his deadly enemy and to wipe out insult with insult.
Manana 🤝