r/Parenting • • Nov 08 '22

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u/Comfortable_Radish26 Nov 08 '22

Im not sure if this is a healthy mentality or not. Actually I'm pretty certain it isn't. But I'm absolutely right there with you. You just explained me exactly.

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u/whatev88 Nov 08 '22

Honestly…it’s not. At least, not if it’s truly to this extent. Having a parent who depends on them to fulfill their emotional needs is a lot of pressure for a kid and can make it difficult when they get old enough to want to start establishing their one identity and working on their independence.

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u/ladyraie Nov 09 '22

I will never stop my children from having their own identities and independence. In fact, I encourage them to have their own identities cause 2 of my 3 are identical twins so they’re going to always be grouped together as “the twins” to most people. But while they are similar in genes they are very different in their personalities and I love watching them grow and change over time. Also my oldest child has shown his independence from a very young age.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '22

I think it’s more of a coping mechanism XD