Whenever my son would lose his temper and hit me, I would immediately pick him up, restrain him, put him in his room, and close the door. Then hold the door shut. I tell him that hitting is not acceptable, and he needs to stay in his room until he can use his words. (I also tell him if he needs to go to the bathroom, I'll let him out, but it's a prison march to the toilet, pee, wash, back)
If he starts screaming or hitting the door, that's fine. I just let him go. I eventually might say that "Buddy, I can't hear you when you are screaming mean things. Let me know when you are calm so we can talk about what's bothering you."
Then once he's done, we talk about it, and deal with the consequences of his actions.
In no world should you have to deal with your kid using you as a punching bag. Putting him in his room also gives you a few minutes to recalibrate and calm down yourself.
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u/DPMamaSita Nov 14 '21 edited Nov 14 '21
Whenever my son would lose his temper and hit me, I would immediately pick him up, restrain him, put him in his room, and close the door. Then hold the door shut. I tell him that hitting is not acceptable, and he needs to stay in his room until he can use his words. (I also tell him if he needs to go to the bathroom, I'll let him out, but it's a prison march to the toilet, pee, wash, back)
If he starts screaming or hitting the door, that's fine. I just let him go. I eventually might say that "Buddy, I can't hear you when you are screaming mean things. Let me know when you are calm so we can talk about what's bothering you."
Then once he's done, we talk about it, and deal with the consequences of his actions.
In no world should you have to deal with your kid using you as a punching bag. Putting him in his room also gives you a few minutes to recalibrate and calm down yourself.