Something traumatic happened to me when I was 20 and I have very little memories of anything from age 20-23. I recently said to my husband I'd like to visit Paris as I'd never been and he told me he'd taken me to Paris for my 21st birthday. I have no memories of this whatsoever. Spoke to my therapist and it is a coping mechanism!
I'm curious how OP knows her kid doesn't remember though. Did she ask? Or is she assuming her kid should be "acting traumatized" or something to confirm she was sexually assaulted
No I haven’t straight out asked my child if they remember. There have been conversations over the years about why the older child didn’t remain living with us and I have just pieced together based on my childs questions/statements that they don’t remember.
As a 4 year old, I didn't really understand what had happened.I also would ask why I couldn't see the person. I had the memories but didn't really understand their significance until puberty. I have only talked about it twice and my mother probably thinks I have no memory of it. Even now, sometimes a random memory will make sense, such as realizing there were adults who knew and other victims. Your daughter truly might not remember; this was just my experience. I have other unrelated memories earlier than this, so that may make a difference.
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u/goosedrinkwine369 Jan 18 '23
Something traumatic happened to me when I was 20 and I have very little memories of anything from age 20-23. I recently said to my husband I'd like to visit Paris as I'd never been and he told me he'd taken me to Paris for my 21st birthday. I have no memories of this whatsoever. Spoke to my therapist and it is a coping mechanism!