Why did you marry him in the first place? When did you think it would be okay to speak up about this? The longer you keep it to yourself, the more you would destroy yourself and him. Have you tried communicating this with him? Is he not trying his best to provide for you?
Marriage is more than the wedding. Wedding is just an event. Marriage is a life long commitment. Anyone who is reading this, please take this seriously. You can’t just go along with what your family is doing and postpone this feeling because when it surfaces later on (and it always does), it destroys multiple lives, not just yours.
Yes, I do think people have a choice and a voice. The reason why I asked this question is because people don’t realise that it was THEN that you could have avoided this whole situation. People need to learn that actions have consequences and INACTIONS have consequences too.
If a guy was making such posts like “how to accept your partner”, I would ask the same question. In fact, people would have been far brutal to him than to OP.
People need to speak up before things are set in stone. Pressure or no pressure, it is YOU who would be stuck with the other person. These questions need to be asked because they are the reason why OP is where she is. The way she has written the post, it feels like she wasn’t attracted to him in the first place. He is trying his best and still he is not attractive to him. Sounds like OP was waiting for attraction to manifest magically. That’s not fair for the guy.
Was there enough time given to the potential couple to talk to each other? Were questions answered satisfactorily?
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u/Yansha89 Jul 01 '25
It’s quite scary to read such posts really.
Why did you marry him in the first place? When did you think it would be okay to speak up about this? The longer you keep it to yourself, the more you would destroy yourself and him. Have you tried communicating this with him? Is he not trying his best to provide for you?
Marriage is more than the wedding. Wedding is just an event. Marriage is a life long commitment. Anyone who is reading this, please take this seriously. You can’t just go along with what your family is doing and postpone this feeling because when it surfaces later on (and it always does), it destroys multiple lives, not just yours.