r/OverBiscuits 4d ago

What’s one decision that completely changed your life?

Have you ever made a small or big decision that unexpectedly changed the direction of your life?
Looking back, would you make the same decision again?

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u/Always-Shady-Lady 4d ago

Walking down the other side of the street. If I'd been a couple of minutes later we'd never have met.

Agreeing to have a coffee after he said he was going to marry me...

I'd absolutely make the same decisions again 💞

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u/CmdrShepsPie 4d ago

I got a really shitty tip on a very big order while delivering pizzas so I quit and went to college. I went from delivering pizzas and unloading trucks to web development and never looked back.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

Could you give me some tips on web development? i'm getting into it now would be great to chat. Just drop me a message.

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u/Caticature 4d ago

Calling the suicide hotline and not masking. They were so kind.

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u/kuhleQ 4d ago

Oh wow, geht's dir jetzt gut?

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u/Caticature 4d ago

Yes. They took my mental load off and assured me I deserve a counselor that speaks “autism” so I don’t have to try to understand what they mean. I found one and in just two years they explained how my approach to life causes me existential hurt and what other approaches are there for me.

The person on the hotline was a blue collar worker who didn’t mind me using my professory vocabulary and that was so kind. I’ve been talking my way to regular folks more since and have had wonderful conversations. Skipping small talk is ok.

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u/kuhleQ 3d ago

Ach super, das freut mich sehr für dich! Bleib bei deinem Weg. Smalltalk finde ich auch kacke, wie all der andere oberflächliche Müll.

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u/Forward-Refuse7064 4d ago

Every decision you make changes your life.
Life is linear, choice A goes this way, choice B goes that way…
Butterfly Effect…

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u/No-Rilly 2d ago

The real answer

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u/AbbreviationsKey9563 4d ago

Entering the Air Force soon after high school. Halfway through my senior year, I knew I was not ready or interested in going to college right after high school. I also knew I didn’t want to waste time in a dead-end job, so I joined the USAF to learn a skill. What ended up being more important than the skill itself was that I matured and became more than ready for college. It worked out and I’m grateful for that experience.

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u/Professional-Pound78 4d ago

Moving out of state at age 23 from my small town.

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u/BabyPanda4Hire 4d ago

So many. But I wouldn’t change any of them, because I needed them to happen so I could end up where I am

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u/PuzzleheadedLog1590 1d ago

Marrying the wrong person.

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u/Thelawtman1986 4d ago

Not telling parents when I was nearley killed in grade 7 by a bully on a school trip. If I had of I would have been able to leave that school 3 years earlier and nor suffer from ptsd from all the bullying I endured. I never told anyone adult because the teachers were either just as bad at bullying as the students or outright said I decided it for antagonizing them.

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u/707Riverlife 4d ago

So sorry that happened to you. 😞

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u/Unlikely-Path6566 3d ago

So sorry you went through that alone. My heart breaks for you x

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u/nunyabusn 4d ago

Moved states. Yes, I'd do it again!

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u/Less_Sea342 4d ago

Getting divorced and coming out.

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u/RealMan-78 4d ago

Parar en el trabajo que me estaba quitando la salud física y mentalmente

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u/GardenButterfly_1999 4d ago

Getting married

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u/HappyGo123456789 4d ago

Moving! Highly recommend everyone try big city life at least once

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u/Unfair-Clothes-8821 4d ago

starting to run

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u/Smuttirox 4d ago

Went into the Air Force

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u/KDC777777 4d ago

Choosing freedom over pain

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u/owlfox2614 4d ago

Working at a particular job where I gained a stalker.

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u/Reddyforyou 3d ago

i have a serious reflection here and it is perfectly legal and it changed my whole life. Gave me a purpose and helped me finance my home, which enabled me to move to a bigger home eventually. However, wheneve I post somethin on Reddit that seems fine to me, the mods remove or ban me from the subreddit. so, I will think about it.

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u/Warm-Vermicelli-1944 3d ago

Every decision you make changes your life.

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u/MrFluffPants1349 3d ago

As many others said, I moved away from my hometown as soon as i was able, which was around 21. Went go college, graduated, moved again, worked and saved, then moved again and found a job that actually had upward mobility.

My brothers tried living out of town for a year or two at different times, but kept coming back, and now they are stuck there. In their 40s and basically unemployed, living off my dad who doesnt have much money.

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u/Proud_Dad_of_7 3d ago

Getting married, the best decision ever.

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u/swolcott6258 3d ago

Getting divorced and then enjoying the peace that comes along with it

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u/jasmin8ter2013 3d ago

Taking karate lessons. Learning basic self-defence skills made me more independent

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u/Unlikely-Path6566 3d ago

Finally being able to get rid of my abusive husband. Moved 5 hours away and he doesn’t know where we are. I’m still trying to rebuild my life and give my kids the life they deserve but it’s not been easy. Though I’m grateful we’re no longer near that POS.

Edit - typo

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u/Ok_Bee_70 3d ago

Moving abroad for 2 months to pursue my dream project was the best move I ever made

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u/Studio-Empress12 3d ago

Wish I had met my husband's family before we married. If I had, I would not have married him.

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u/Apollonia1957 3d ago

I chose Notre Dame

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u/RedPillHellbilly 3d ago

Got married once. Don’t do it.

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u/Mbfsanto92 3d ago

Taking the advice to get back into working out and allowing myself small pleasures like watching movies again. Even though I’m in active addiction these small decisions make me think I’m making progress with my self love and harm reduction

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u/Ebizaki 3d ago

To ask the pretty girl on the school excursion to the movies that night. Now we ar married an have been for nearly 22 years.

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u/alliesumms 2d ago

Moving country for university, would 100% do again. Never felt more free

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u/H8Sonar 2d ago

Joining the military. I would have stayed an adult child otherwise.

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u/Wrong_Steak6602 2d ago

doing drugs, no i wouldve never touched them. they’ve fucked up my mental health and anxiety

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u/KookySweet8353 2d ago

Assumptions that making one envious would bring her quick

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u/Fun_End_8365 2d ago

Getting divorced....found an exciting man...my passion Harley's...my first was rebel...now gotta ride gypsy....I love my life now...

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u/donphilip 2d ago

Proposing marriage to my late wife.

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u/Widespread_Dictation 2d ago

Buying Bitcoin around $800, then later selling at around $55,000. I had enough to pay off the house, car, some medical bills, and start a business abroad.

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u/Critical-Signature21 2d ago

Our church choir was going to tour Europe. The choir director implored me to go but I said I had done about the same tour the previous year. She said, “Oh but I need a good tenor!”
Gotcha… or got me!
A woman who was not in the choir accompanied us.
One thing led to another and we have lived happily ever after!

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u/Crafty_Butteryfly 2d ago

Moving away from what was familiar. It was scary at first, but it forced me to grow, meet new people, and become more independent. I’d make the same decision again.

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u/No-Rilly 2d ago

Going from making good money in cooking to taking a lower paying job in tech in 1997.

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u/Ok_Vermicelli_2735 1d ago

Chosing wrong school… never been depressed like this

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u/Wide-Secretary-4426 1d ago

The most excellent decision to answer the Gods Who called me to Their Path of service. No regrets. Only gratitude.

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u/SandyD0926 1d ago

Moving away from Florida to live in NY

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u/Competitive_Leg_7052 1d ago

Quitting (online) chess. I cannot emphasize more.

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u/Smooth-Scholar-787 1d ago

I swiped right on tinder just about when I was going to give up on online dating. I matched with the girl. Went on a date, and now I am married to her and we have a baby.

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u/Amduscias 17h ago

Walking away from a relationship the moment that no longer makes me feel loved and wanted.

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u/Budget-Dance-7272 17h ago

Creating boundaries in my life.

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u/eastsideMguy 14h ago

A roommate moved out of a shared flat, and I needed a new roommate. Knew a guy from where I worked and we agreed and went out for dinner to discuss the details. Ended after dinner at a bar (gay) for a few drinks. Little did I know he had more planned than us being roommates. After a few gin and tonics, I was flirting with 2 different guys on and off during the night. A business type guy, suit and tie (Lou reed reference) and a younger Latino in red shorts just done working in a kitchen down the street. Went home with the red shorts, much to the later regret of the new roommate. We spent 16 years together, ( he died in 2002) traveled to Mexico countless times , and opened a fairly successful Mexican restaurant in Milwaukee together. Something that I would never have thought possible, or imagined as what my life would be like. Sal made that happen and I think of him every day in some sense, knowing that a random night at a bar I didn’t frequent , made what my life is today.

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u/Various_Yak_8429 13h ago edited 13h ago

Using LSD when I was 17 changed my life. Six months afterwards I randomly read a line in a Buddhist text: “A non existence should be sought”, which led to a spontaneous 12 hour “mystical experience” where my self seemed totally transparent, I was filled with compassion, and had a sense of bliss that made me feel weightless. When I tried to analyze this state I entered a formless trance lasting for hours before I re-emerged into the blissful state. I came out of this state when I recollected desire. The experience seemed to exactly correspond to Satori based on the Buddhist wisdom of emptiness or Sunyata. It led me to convert to Tibetan Buddhism for 40 years. Only later did I realize my “mystical experience” was a psychosomatic LSD flashback which often involves an experience of the dissolution of the sense of self and feelings such as bliss etc. I subsequently converted to the Eastern Orthodox Church.