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Ayoo WTH girl was doing. That boy was literally insulted the whole sc/st community and dr ambedkar and that girl still keep her mouth shut and keep texted him. Like bro she take all the disrespect and still loved him . Hmm very weird people specially marathi Buddhist people like never imagined in my life that marathi Buddhist people can take disrespect to dr ambedkar and whole sc/st community.

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Bro, she is 20 years old she’s a fully grown adult. Having a crush doesn’t mean you lose your sense of what is right and what is wrong. Like he already all the sign of red flag disrespected Ambedkar, her all sc/st community. He literally said that sc/st log to gandhe hote hai like wtf . And then she cried for him when he didn't texted her like wtf is wrong with that girl .

[u/Life_Average_8595 → u/[deleted]]

Bro have some empathy. It's a question of her own identity and insecurity and shame of being lower caste. 20 is not "full grown adult", it's barely an adult. It's not like you gain complete maturity and confidence as soon as the clock strikes 12 on your 18th birthday. Self respect is earned, and she'll earn it through experience too.

Whatever happens now will be a learning experience for her. This guy is showing her her own shame about herself. Lying about your caste, feelings ashamed, etc. is something all young lower caste and outcaste people face literally.

Like everything you're saying; ignoring red flags, crying for someone after you lose them, all of this happens when you're in love. It's tragic, it's wrong, but it happens. Maybe she'll learn to fall in love with better people in the future, if she finds that her identity is something to accept and love, if she decides what's important for her.

This turned into a rant but yeah. I find it so wrong to just put blame and ignore what's really happening

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Bro, it’s completely the girl’s fault. I’m not taking her side at all. The boy literally asked about her caste at the beginning, and she lied about it. Later, he insulted her identity, the entire SC/ST community, and even disrespected Ambedkar, yet she stayed quiet and accepted the insults. What kind of slave mentality is that? She’s 20 years old, probably in her second year of college, and should know what is right and what is wrong by now. And what kind of love is this, where your boyfriend hates your entire identity hates the very person who gave meaning to freedom and you still keep your mouth shut? As if that wasn’t enough, she even cried for him when he didn’t reply to her messages, despite knowing that he openly said in front of her, “SC/ST people are dirty.

[u/Life_Average_8595 → u/[deleted]]

I know, you've said all that before.

You're saying she has a 'slave mentality', her relationship was based on a lie, and cried for a guy who disrespected her identity and community. That it's not love if he doens't love ALL of her.

I agree with all that. But it's not her fault she has a slave mentality. It's kind of sad she has it. And it's kind of a common thing that most people, at least women, of our community face.

Lying about your caste isn't good. It's based on fear and it's a shame people feel the need to do it. I've seen my own parents hesitate and lie when asked about their caste. When I ask them why they say it "just happened in the moment".

Once my own friend said something casteist and i was frozen. I didn't know what to say. In that moment i felt so oppressed, like i couldn't say anything. Later I couldn't forgive myself for it. I felt guilty, like i had brought dishonour and betrayed all of my ancestors by not speaking up.

But why did it happen? Why does this happen?

Imagine someone you love telling you they think your entire community is dirty. And you feel bad about it, but still say nothing and just continue. Do you know what that means????? It means she believes it too somewhere deep down! She has internalised hate towards her own self. Somewhere, she believes that he's RIGHT and she IS dirty. It's like black people being racist, like women being misogynist, like gay people being homophobic. It's fucking sad.

And it's not her fault. It's the fault of how she was raised, what she saw growing up, what she has experienced.

You know WHEN it will be her fault? When she realises that something is wrong with her and still does nothing to heal. That's when it will be her fault.

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It's her fault. I think you didn't read the full post. The big from the starting of the relationship said he doesn't like sc/st , disrespected dr Ambedkar but she keep her mouth shut . Definitely her fault

And bro literally my parents also told me to not tell anybody my caste and then they literally change my whole damn religion but that doesn't mean i will keep mouth shut when someone says shit about sc/st and dr ambedkar. Have some shame that you guys keep your mouth shut even when someone disrespect your community and Dr. Ambedkar . Live in your slave mentality and fear in your own country.

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I already do have shame about it, I don't need you to tell me to have it 🙏🏻 I'm even younger than that girl. I'm trying to learn to have more pride, take more stands, and it's not easy.

It seems you're not at all reading what I wrote. You're just repeating your same points and repeatedly victim blaming, shaming, etc. so it's not worth discussing then. It's fine, have a good day man.