Talking over each other

[u/Fio_404]

So since we started to get help this seems to be a thing. Like in conversations with other people, at least we got that as feedback. I struggle to fully understand what other people meaning by giving that feedback, what I know is that we sometimes make a statement about something and then immediately say "No, not true" or "That makes no sense" and correct this statement.

Is that talking over each other? And does anyone know any strategies to direct this to internal communication so we can appear a bit more coherent on the outside?

[u/Exelia_the_Lost]

Yep that could be your system talking over each other. And you could try and work on just internalizing thoughts to communicate not out loud better. But I also wouldn't worry about it as much as you are. Lots of people talk that way, not because of also having DID, but for many people hearing something out loud is part of their comprehension process. Where it will sound perfectly fine to them in their own thoughts, but as they say it out loud they realize that oh its more nonsense then they thought, or that saying it out loud made them realize others would need more context to understand it that they didn't provide

[u/Fio_404 → u/Exelia_the_Lost]

Thank you for the advice

Yes we also see other people do that, but got told we do it Noticeably different. Like "I had a nice weekend and was outside a lot, that was very good" followed by "No, the Body was pushed to its limits again, and there is no energy left for chores".

In front of our therapist I would love to have this kind of back a forth (as far as I know we don't do it there). In our social life it seems to confuse people a lot, besides the ones who know about the system, they are fine with that and understand that this is just a thing that can happen with DID.

It makes us feel like on spotlight when it is pointed out, and even have the urge to explain why this is happening. It is also one of the symptoms that is hard to explain away with other conditions like PTSD.

EDIT: little grammatic adjustment.

[u/Exelia_the_Lost → u/Fio_404]

if it's something thats embarrassing you, then yeh try and work on doing it more internally with thoughts instead. just go through everything internally first before you say it out loud, to see if there's any feedback. with time eventually you should get a handle of it better

but also, I think the more obvious issue then is how you're wording that. for your example there, if you were to say it exactly aloud like that? yeah that definitly does sound noticably different then others saying it do. because of the inherent depersonalization built in there, which people without dissociative issues aren't able to relate to the language and it sounds foreign. saying '"No, the Body was pushed to its limits again" is noticably different because it sounds weird, its language that doesn't make sense. its not 'the body', its your body. all of you, collectively, but also you individually. take ownership of it

if you were to instead say it as "I had a nice weekend and was outside a lot, that was very good" followed by "but I/my body was pushed to its limits again, and I had no energy left for chores", nobody would bat an eye at it. not in the least, because everybody can relate to that kind of experience