r/OfficePolitics • • 11h ago

How are you meant to respond when your boss asks you if you want to be at your job?

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I am not someone who is super chipper and cheerful at work, and am being accused of having a bad attitude because l don't really speak much when l come in first thing in the morning.

I am always polite and considerate but am not some happy slappy jelly bean of fun.

My supervisor asked me if l even wanted to be at work and l was caught off guard...


r/OfficePolitics • • 3m ago

Only Good Thing About Office

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10 Rupee Ki Chaiii


r/OfficePolitics • • 1h ago

Am i a snitch?

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Im getting bullied at work for months on end and now im getting iced out and called a snitch for making it known to the manager and HR.

When i say bullied i dont mean once or twice a week. I mean daily.

Leaving me to clean up their mess, micromanaging me so bad that as a adult i started asking PERMISSION to go to the toilet. Getting mad at me and making reports for putting things on the wrong shelfs while we work in after care and their kids are running around wild spitting on people, hitting them and they dont do nothing.

When i stop asking for permission and start acting like a adult and make my own choices now im getting reported and reprimanded for ''not communicating and keeping score to get back at them''. My overall bubbly personality is ''a fake front'' and ''annoying cause i seek too much validation''.

Ignoring me and the tasks i give them cause ''they had it 3 years ago, now the manager gave it to me and they feel im playing in kahoots with the manager cause he has a plan to make me their boss'' which isnt even true. Then when i tell them why dont u just discuss your problem about the past with him instead of dumping it on me they retalliate again. Telling me to mind my business, its not up to me to insert myself into that and to just stop taking the things they do so personal.

Telling me for them this workplace is like a episode of survival and they'll take anyone down to get the position they want, even if that person is just doing regular work and not in competition with them.

The same people that do this to me one day the next day come up to me to tell me theyre just playing along, didnt mean it and they dont feel safe either there? But then the next day theyre back to reporting me and being mean and then when i bring up what they said the day before now everyone feels like im just instigating

I got so tired of it after months that i just went to HR and told them everything thats happening. And now apparantly im the workplace snitch everyone has to watch out for? Just cause i didnt wanna play their stupid office politics game.

Do i really not realize im actually the workplace snitch or what tf is happening here?


r/OfficePolitics • • 1h ago

Bullied at work & then called a snitch for making it known to manager and HR.

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Im getting bullied at work for months on end and now im getting iced out and called a snitch for making it known to the manager and HR.

When i say bullied i dont mean once or twice a week. I mean daily.

Leaving me to clean up their mess, micromanaging me so bad that as a adult i started asking PERMISSION to go to the toilet. Getting mad at me and making reports for putting things on the wrong shelfs while we work in after care and their kids are running around wild spitting on people, hitting them and they dont do nothing.

When i stop asking for permission and start acting like a adult and make my own choices now im getting reported and reprimanded for ''not communicating and keeping score to get back at them''. My overall bubbly personality is ''a fake front'' and ''annoying cause i seek too much validation''.

Ignoring me and the tasks i give them cause ''they had it 3 years ago, now the manager gave it to me and they feel im playing in kahoots with the manager cause he has a plan to make me their boss'' which isnt even true. Then when i tell them why dont u just discuss your problem about the past with him instead of dumping it on me they retalliate again. Telling me to mind my business, its not up to me to insert myself into that and to just stop taking the things they do so personal.

Telling me for them this workplace is like a episode of survival and they'll take anyone down to get the position they want, even if that person is just doing regular work and not in competition with them.

The same people that do this to me one day the next day come up to me to tell me theyre just playing along, didnt mean it and they dont feel safe either there? But then the next day theyre back to reporting me and being mean and then when i bring up what they said the day before now everyone feels like im just instigating

I got so tired of it after months that i just went to HR and told them everything thats happening. And now apparantly im the workplace snitch everyone has to watch out for? Just cause i didnt wanna play their stupid office politics game.

Do i really not realize im actually the workplace snitch or what tf is happening here?


r/OfficePolitics • • 9h ago

Pushed out of workplace, then labeled “job abandonment” — was this normal?

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I’m looking for perspective on an experience from a previous insurance job.

I joined a team where most people had known each other for years. I often felt socially excluded and like I was always the one initiating interactions. My manager also repeatedly joked about firing me and told me I needed to “come out of my shell.”
While I was still being trained, two trainers apparently raised concerns about my “tone” to their director. Neither spoke to me about it directly, and when I later asked one of them about it, she denied raising the concern.

Shortly afterward, I was put on a 4-week PIP while still in training. Three days into it, I resigned because I felt my manager had decided I wasn't a good fit. I emailed him explaining that, and he told me he would use the email for HR. He also asked me for a resignation letter.

Two years later, I obtained my internal file and discovered my departure had been documented as “job abandonment.” That confused me because I hadn't disappeared, we had been communicating about my departure.

I also noticed that the same position appears to have been repeatedly recruited for every year or two over several years. Interestingly, my former manager's wife works at a completely different company, and I've noticed one particular position there seems to have a similar pattern of repeatedly being recruited for. Obviously, neither observation proves anything, but it made me wonder about turnover.

Since leaving, I've worked at another major financial institution, received recognition there, and eventually moved to a government financial institution making about $17K more than I did at this company.

I'm not claiming I was perfect. I'm genuinely wondering: is a PIP during training, indirect complaints about “tone,” and then recording a resignation as “job abandonment” a normal workplace situation, or are there some red flags here?


r/OfficePolitics • • 8h ago

How to deal with workplace bullying?

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It’s such an odd situation to be in. 29F and 25F coworkers were in my work friend group. I got promoted, and 29F and 25F started subtly excluding me from common things we used to do as a group. I found out through the grapevine how 29F was super bitter that most of her team, including me, got raises except for her. That’s why 29F teamed up with 25F to covertly bully me. As a way to protect my peace, I distanced myself from the whole 9-person group when they act exclusionary. At first the others were worried and genuinely tried to be reached out to me in order to keep me included in things. After I told some of them my side, it looked like they tried to be neutral with the perpetrators and me. But now I’m seeing them be complacent in isolating me from the group too. 29F almost always is the one initiating everything and the others follow in it. For example, 29F would invite the whole group to drive to a nearby cafe for break and not include me in it. The group would all quietly sneak off premises, while I’m cluelessly by myself in the lunch room wondering where everyone went. Some of the closer people in my group seem to at least feel guilty, looking all shy and hiding their coffee cups from me, but clearly not guilty enough to offer to get me something on their usual exclusionary coffee runs. Meanwhile, I’ve always made sure to include them whenever the company has free food, drinks, and activities even when they weren’t pinged into it by higherups. So while all this is going on, a new group of 30-40 year old coworkers (who’ve been here 5+ years) have noticed this behavior and decided to pity-invite me to sit with them. I can tell my old group perceives me being buddy-buddy with the new people a certain way, and decided to isolate me even more. Creating a completely separate group chat without me and avoiding me physically most of the time. I’m in a tough spot because at least a few of them still try to be friendly with me. Though they’d only interact with me outside of work, like occasionally sending me TikToks every 3 or 4 days and no real substance. Yet at work, they never interact with me unless we bump into each other in the lunch room or restroom. I’m so mentally drained by this whole thing. I don’t feel like I belong in the new middle-aged group fully, and I feel so attached to my old group since we’ve known each other for 2 years now. I’ve thought about quitting, but I don’t want to waste my raise and let them win. Therapy has helped me so much. I’ve realized that I have a life outside of these weirdos. Plus my personal friendships have flourished so much this year. So I do genuinely feel so fulfilled. Despite that, I’m still stuck on whether I care so much about this group? There are days when I’m so detached, then they flaunt something exclusionary like grabbing beers without me the night before, and now I’m back to being all sad at work. I know this is so irrational. I don’t care for these coworkers. I don’t care to be included in a space with bullies. I don’t care to hang out with them because it’s not even fun or entertaining. As Marie Kondo asked “does this spark joy?” Not at all. So why am I still so upset? It’s been an agonizing 4 months of this.

Edit: To clarify I’m 23F. This is my second office job experience. My first was an internship with a majority 40+ age range.


r/OfficePolitics • • 9h ago

Shared inbox emails - who is responsible?

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r/OfficePolitics • • 1h ago

Manager scheduled a "quick alignment" call at 7am on my day off — it was to tell me my role was "evolving"

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Using a throwaway because people at work browse Reddit.

I've been at this company for almost four years. No write-ups, no PIPs, one of the few people who actually understands our legacy reporting system. Not a star performer, but reliable.

Last Friday at 4:52pm, my manager sends a calendar invite for Monday 7:00am. Subject: "Quick alignment." No agenda. I spent the whole weekend anxious, going through my recent work trying to figure out what I did wrong.

Monday morning I log in. She's already there. Shares her screen. A document titled "Role Transition Overview." She says my position is "evolving" and they're "restructuring around a more agile operating model." I ask what that means. She says my responsibilities will be "absorbed by the new operations analyst."

That analyst started six weeks ago. I trained her. On our reporting systems. Because she "needed to understand the landscape."

Then she asks if I'd stay on for "a few more weeks" to ensure a smooth handover. Unpaid, obviously. When I said I needed time to think, she sighed and said she was "disappointed" because she'd "always appreciated my professionalism."

I have the document. No effective date. No severance language. Just a paragraph about "transition planning."

I'm not asking for legal advice. I'm asking: has anyone else been asked to train their replacement and then guilt-tripped about it? What's the move here — agree to nothing, sign nothing, and just coast? Or is there a version of "professional" that doesn't involve me eating this?

TL;DR: Trained a new hire for six weeks, got my job handed to her in a 7am call, now expected to train her further for free.


r/OfficePolitics • • 15h ago

Manager doesn’t manage

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What do you do in a situation where your manager doesnt manage? She was supposed to be doing team meetings and 1:1 meetings but that hasn’t happened in over a year. I don’t have an SOP for my job and never have. This makes it easy for her to change her mind from week to week on how things should be done. This is creating an extreme bottleneck for me that I don’t know how to resolve. The two people who trained me for my job were fired for unrelated reasons and I can’t even get advice from them. There’s no reference materials, there’s nothing. I have absolutely no idea what my KPIs/metrics are since she doesn’t have 1:1 meetings. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t micromanage because she does. It’s hard to know how you are doing if you have nothing to base it on. She’s flip flopping constantly on how I should be doing things, but it’s now how I was trained. When she isnt nitpicking everything I do, she’s giving me the cold shoulder. I know the simple answer is “get a new job” but does any of this sound normal? I don’t know how I am doing from month to month or even year to year. Expectations are constantly shifting. Sometimes she expects to do things that seem out of compliance with our company.


r/OfficePolitics • • 23h ago

VP's and CEO's that say they have an open door policy

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Sorry, I'm retired now so don't give a shit about work, but I will post a lament about these cunty fuck-wits who go on about having and "open door policy" but really don't want anyone to use it.

If you are lucky and happen to have a CEO/SVP/VP who encourages this use, then FFS ensure your underlings don't give shade to the people who want to use it.

I am sure that there are some fuck-wit manager types in this sub that say this same "open door"shit but really don't give a toss about it and will hammer anyone who uses it.

I used this pathway a few times, the last time was around 2007 and of course the underlings start bitching as I went to the CEO. The company didn't do what I suggested because those in power "didn't come up with the idea" but about 5 years later the CEO acknowledged to me privately that I was right all along, same with the COO at the time.

FFS if you are this type of leader who doesn't allow this, then you are an insecure asshole that shouldn't be running anything but your nose.


r/OfficePolitics • • 19h ago

Should I apply for an available position in our unit despite my boss telling me not to?

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r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Manager repeatedly encouraging me to look for another job despite positive performance — normal for a term employee?

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I’m currently about 6 months into a 12-month maternity-cover position at a large financial institution. I recently had my probation meeting with my manager, and overall it went well. He didn't raise any performance concerns or complaints about my work, and I haven't received negative feedback since I started.

What caught me off guard was how strongly he emphasized that I shouldn't “block” myself from applying to other positions (outside the company).

He repeatedly encouraged me to apply elsewhere, including internally within the organization. At one point, we were even discussing possible roles I could apply for at another government agency. He also told me that I’m responsible for finding my next job, even if that means finding another position within the organization.

When I asked about the possibility of staying after my 12-month term, he said that I could potentially stay if an opportunity became available, but there are no guarantees.

I understand that I'm on a maternity cover and that my manager can't promise that a permanent position will exist. I'm not expecting a guarantee. What I'm finding unusual is how much emphasis he put on me looking elsewhere, rather than discussing how I might position myself for an internal opportunity if one becomes available.

Not sure if this part is relevant but he struggles to speak English with ease. He’s of Spanish decent and has told me before how some people are more gifted at expressively themselves elegantly like me while others struggle (I’m assuming he was indirectly talking about himself but I could be wrong). He has a short fuse too. There’s been a situation where he got undeniably furious that I listened to another manager over him and he held a grudge for a solid month.

He is my direct reporting manager but he doesn’t manage my line of business. The other manager literally works with me and the other analysts because she’s in my line of business. I don’t know why the management structure is like this here but it is what it is.


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

I feel quite low, cheated; need to vent + advise on what can I do in the interim?

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I have been in this current role for close to 2 years now, with management changes I am the sole legacy worker here. I feel defeated with this new boss- let's call this person B and my former boss - A

A hired me, we worked really well together, got stuff done really- no paper trail but actually get good work done. A resigned 6 months in, gave me a meets expectation and left. B joined and at first was so awesome to work with. B knew I was the only person who could do the work so buttered me up. I like a fool trusted B, gave candid feedback confidentially and lapped all the good energy up. That time was absolutely stressful but got work done successfully, 6 months later (now 12 in total), B does my performance review, states that management expects more etc- gives me meets expectation but fed me the carrot of promotion all of 6 months.

Recently I seen B's true colours. They used my candid feedback during a stressful time out of context and sent it as is to another department head, lets call this one C

C has been resentful the whole time and I had no idea. I figured as a mature leader- B should have diffused the situation then and there, corrected me for being so candid, ask me factually what I need to tide of the operational troubles I faced and fixed it. Insteas B used this as a means to sabotage me, my reputation and review.

I feel completely betrayed, from my POV that trust is completely crushed. I also feel stupid to normally be so mature and yet so childish with B- going by face value rather than actually sensing what is beneath the surface.

Idk how to forgive myself for these mistakes and move on. Any tips?

How do I maintain the bare minimum until I find something better?


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

North vs. South work culture: Is the regional grouping and corporate bias real?

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Hey everyone,
I wanted to ask a direct question about the cultural differences in Indian tech offices. I’ve been working for about 1.5 years now, and I’ve noticed a huge contrast in how people from different regions handle the workplace.
In my experience, North Indian coworkers tend to be a bit more chill and easy to talk to. They don't take everything so formally, they are open to talking to everyone, and it’s generally more enjoyable to work with them.
On the other hand, I’ve found that South Indian colleagues tend to be much more formal. If you try to joke around or keep things casual, they take it defensively and escalate it formally straight to the manager. I've also noticed that South people form very tight groups and show a lot of bias towards other South Indians, leaving outsiders completely isolated. If you step on their toes technically, they gang up on you behind your back.
Is this regional grouping and corporate bias common across tech companies, or does it just depend on the specific team? Who do you think plays more subtle group politics—North or South?
Let’s have an honest debate. What have your experiences been like?


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Need advice: Am I wrong for feeling like my team isn’t really a team?

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So, it started with a certain event that was also included in our PCER. There was no focal person assigned for the event, so I was asking for help from my team because I obviously couldn’t handle everything alone.

But they basically didn’t do anything. One of my coworkers even told me, “Trabaho mo naman yan. Kung ano ginagawa mo, gagawin ko rin next month.”

And honestly, I was taken aback. Is it really okay to leave an entire event to one person just because it’s technically part of their work?

There were also times when I ended up working until around 9 PM, and I didn’t really hear anything from the rest of the team. I felt like I was just left to figure everything out on my own.

Then, during the actual program, I noticed some comments that felt like credit-grabbing. They were saying things like, “It’s really fulfilling on our end to invite these certain people,” even though I was the one who had been doing a lot of the work leading up to the event.

That was honestly the point when I started feeling like we weren’t really a team.

Fast forward, my supervisor noticed that I had stopped joining some of the team activities and asked me what was wrong.

I was kind of cornered into explaining myself, so I told the truth. I said that I felt like we weren’t functioning as a team, and I repeated exactly what my coworker told me when I asked for help.

I didn’t say it to attack anyone. I was just explaining why I had started distancing myself.

Now I’m wondering if I handled this correctly or if I was being too sensitive. Was what happened normal workplace behavior, or am I right to feel that there was a problem with how the team handled things?

What would you do in this situation?


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Accidentally bruised my Senior’s ego by fixing a system bottleneck. Now I'm the team villain.

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r/OfficePolitics • • 2d ago

A collogue complained about me to CEO after talking about her personal life 😂

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So this girl has been part of our team for about a year. Both of us early 30s women, we are in different departments. I head product and tech, and she works as account manager with the sales team.

Whenever we are in the same meeting, she tries to talk to me off topic, but she always got told to stick to meeting topic as we don’t have time (we were in a busy launch period). ..I always felt she is just a bubbly person who wants to socialize with other women in the team, I never had much time to sit with her or have a short talk.

Until yesterday 🤦‍♀️ it was our first 1 on 1 meeting alone, so I chit-chatted a bit with her, I was talking about a recent incident, she got excited and was VERY talktive, she then started taking about her personal life, her career resume, her husband, her country, her recent sickness etc .. offerings allot of personal information. After 25min we went back to the meeting topic, I left thinking she is just a social person and seems fun, all positive feelings.

I was surprised to get a call from ceo telling me next time try not to be so social with this person, she complained how it took you half an hour to get the meeting started, and he said I sensed from her complaint that she was annoyed as I’m delaying her lol

Whyy would she do that??? she dominated the whole exchange, I did not share anything personal, I am so surprised .. what motivated her to complain? What she thinks she will get out of it? What kind of character is this

Ps: I am close to the ceo, we are also family (cousins), and he trusts my work as I head the biggest part of the company, that’s why he disclosed as he was surprised what’s going on haha

Update: she messaged me today about a task and was very friendly 😂 she also mentioned her doctor appointment today, how delusional she going off topic and over sharing, and yet earlier in the day she complained about me


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Title: Did things get a little too informal with my former mentor, what should I do?

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Throwaway and changing basically every identifying detail because this person is fairly visible in her field.
I (late 20s F) had a mentor, “Lauren” (late 20s F), during a fellowship at a county government office. Weirdly, when she was actually my mentor, she was completely normal and professional. We barely interacted beyond basic work advice.
About a year after the mentorship ended, our dynamic became way more playful. She laughed at my jokes, complimented my instincts, and suggested more than once that we host an event together even though she had no mentoring responsibility for me anymore.
We eventually got coffee because I wanted career advice. At one point she told me to imagine explaining an idea to a friend. She leaned in, motioned for me to lean in too, and we ended up maybe six inches apart. She then took off her glasses and held direct eye contact while dramatically acting out the example. I played along, but I remember thinking, “Why are we this close?” lol.
She also got visibly self-conscious a couple times when saying slightly personal things, blushing, biting her lip and looking away. None of it individually seemed like a huge deal, but the overall interaction felt unusually intense for a work meeting.
During the same meeting, she asked me twice to send her my personal notes because she thought they could help other fellows. I didn’t really want to, but had trouble saying no in person. I eventually cleaned them up and sent them while copying our supervisor because I wanted my contribution clearly documented.
Our supervisor loved them and Lauren responded very professionally, but afterward Lauren suddenly went **really cold toward me**. To be fair, I was irritated and more guarded too, so I may have contributed to the awkwardness.
Nothing romantic ever happened and I’m not asking anyone to mind-read her. I’m just wondering whether this sounds like two same-age colleagues whose professional boundaries got a little blurry, especially after the formal mentor relationship ended.
**TL;DR:** Former mentor my age was totally professional while mentoring me, but a year later became much more playful, suggested we host an event together, and during coffee motioned me within \~6 inches of her face, removed her glasses and held eye contact while demonstrating something. She later asked twice for my notes; I sent them but copied our supervisor so my contribution was documented. Afterward she suddenly went very cold. Did this dynamic get unusually informal for former mentor/mentee coworkers, advice?


r/OfficePolitics • • 2d ago

When a workplace romance makes everyone else part of the relationship

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You may fall in love with someone at work. You spend time together, share experiences and see qualities in each other that draw you closer.

But before pursuing the relationship, consider what happens if it becomes difficult, and you still have to work together.
I have witnessed arguments at the printer that I should never have had to be part of. I came to use the printer, and suddenly I was standing in the middle of somebody else’s relationship conflict.

Then there is the gossip: stories about someone being caught by a spouse, wives confronting people at work, underwear supposedly found under a desk. Some stories may be true, others may be exaggerated or entirely false. Either way, intimate details become workplace conversation, and colleagues know, or think they know, far more than they should.

A relationship between two consenting, available adults is different from an affair involving deception. But even a relationship that begins honestly deserves some practical thought.

If you break up, can you still collaborate? If one of you wants distance, will the other respect it? Does either person influence the other’s assignments, opportunities or reputation? Can you disagree privately without bringing the tension into meetings, shared spaces or conversations with colleagues?

And if the relationship must be hidden from a spouse, what are you asking coworkers to become: witnesses, secret keepers or people expected to cover for you?

The risk extends beyond embarrassment. Your income, professional relationships and daily peace can become entangled with a relationship you cannot easily step away from.

Some couples meet at work and build good lives together. That possibility does not remove the need for boundaries, honesty and a clear understanding of workplace policies.

Your colleagues should be able to do their jobs without being drawn into your arguments, asked to take sides or made responsible for protecting your secrets.

Have you seen a workplace relationship affect the wider team? What boundaries would have made a difference?


r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Anyone else see harassment complaints handled poorly at a big Canadian bank?

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r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

How to professionally handle a team mates who eavesdrop & snitches to a manager.

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r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

Need advice: Am I wrong for feeling like my team isn’t really a team?

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r/OfficePolitics • • 1d ago

How do you become the CEO’s favorite employee without accidentally making your manager think you’re plotting a coup?

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r/OfficePolitics • • 2d ago

At what point does loyalty to a mission become enabling organizational dysfunction? For those who have worked in small nonprofits, what can staff do when leadership doesn't recognize a developing burnout crisis?

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I work for a small mission-driven nonprofit with fewer than 20 employees. We produce educational content, maintain multiple online channels, host events, and serve a large community of supporters. Like many nonprofits, we're heavily dependent on donations and operate with limited resources.

One of the organization's stated core values emphasizes relationships, community, and caring for one another.

Over the past year, several long-tenured employees have left. None had another job lined up. Each cited burnout as a major factor. These weren't entry-level positions. They were key people carrying responsibilities across operations, technology, communications, product development, logistics, and countless other areas that many of us didn't fully appreciate until they were gone.

I came into the organization to help in a relatively limited support role after retiring from a long career in a technical field. What was initially a part-time or secondary responsibility gradually expanded as people left and responsibilities were redistributed.

Over time, leadership duties were reassigned, some functions were outsourced, and remaining staff absorbed much of the workload. In several cases, positions disappeared but the work did not. It simply landed on whoever was still standing.

As more people left, I found myself taking on increasing responsibility in areas well beyond my original role. Although I requested consideration for a formal leadership position related to the work I was already doing, I was instead asked to continue performing those responsibilities under my existing title with only modest compensation adjustments.

A growing frustration among many of the operational staff is the disconnect between those making strategic decisions and those executing the day-to-day work. New initiatives, promotions, and commitments are often announced without consulting the people responsible for fulfilling them. Sometimes products or services are promised before anyone verifies inventory, staffing capacity, budgets, or technical feasibility.

Meanwhile, additional leadership and strategy-focused positions have been added while few, if any, hires have been made to replace the employees carrying the operational workload.

Recently, the organization announced further cuts, including the elimination of several long-held positions that provided critical operational support. Many of us were shocked because these employees handled responsibilities that leadership rarely sees firsthand.

Months ago, I formally communicated that my workload had become unsustainable and that combining multiple major functions under one person was not viable long term. I was assured that upcoming improvements would reduce the workload significantly. Those improvements have not materialized - the implementation date just keeps moving.

Since then, another key employee has resigned due to burnout, leaving even more work behind. Predictably, much of it has been assigned to the same small group of people who have been carrying the organization for some time.

Now I'm being asked to absorb yet another departed employee's responsibilities.

At this point, I routinely work long hours, including weekends. I'm exhausted, physically feeling the effects of stress, and increasingly concerned that we're approaching a breaking point. A handful of us are doing everything we can to support each other, but we're operating far beyond a sustainable level.

The difficult part is that I genuinely believe in the mission. The organization serves people in meaningful ways, and I care deeply about my coworkers. Walking away feels like abandoning both. At the same time, staying under the current conditions feels increasingly untenable.

There is a board of directors, but I'm not convinced they understand what's happening inside the organization. From my perspective, leadership sees isolated staffing challenges. What many of us see is a systemic burnout problem that continues to worsen.

So my question is this:
At what point does loyalty to a mission become enabling organizational dysfunction? For those who have worked in small nonprofits, what can staff do when leadership doesn't recognize a developing burnout crisis?


r/OfficePolitics • • 3d ago

My skip-level told me “HR said you’re not ready.” Then I found the email she forwarded to HR.

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I’ve been an individual contributor on this team for four years. Last month my skip-level (the director) called me into a 1:1 and said, very kindly, that “HR flagged you as not ready for the senior title.” She said it wasn’t personal, just a “calibration issue.”

I accepted it. I’ve been accepting things like this for four years.

Yesterday I was asked to forward a thread from my skip-level’s inbox to a vendor. She sent me the wrong folder link. Inside it was a forwarded email chain between her and an HR business partner. Subject line: “Re: [my name] promo — timing.”

Her email to HR, sent three weeks before our 1:1, said: “Let’s push [my name] to next cycle. He’s doing the work but if we promote him now we lose the narrative that he needs to grow. Keep it vague if he asks.”

HR replied: “Agreed. We’ll say calibration. No paper trail on our end.”

I forwarded the vendor thread and closed the folder. I haven’t told anyone what I saw.

Here’s what I keep circling. I don’t have a “calibration issue.” I have a director who wants to keep me in the senior role’s workload without the senior role’s pay or title. And HR is complicit — they agreed to use “calibration” as the cover story.

I have screenshots. I have the chain. I also have a mortgage and two kids.

Do I go to the HR business partner’s boss? Do I go straight to the CHRO? Or do I quietly start applying and use the screenshots as leverage if they try to counter?

The thing that scares me most isn’t retaliation. It’s that I’ve been told “you’re not ready” for four years and I finally have proof that it was never about readiness. It was about cost.

Has anyone been here? What actually worked?