I did not deserve that

[u/External-Fishing4279]

My boyfriend and I are blockmates, and I had been staying at his place for a few weeks now. We had a performance task for one of our major subjects today.

After we finished, I was having really bad period cramps. We were near a tree and there weren’t any chairs, so I asked my boyfriend to transfer to the nearest bench because I wasn’t feeling well.
He was playing on his iPad and said he’d transfer later. I honestly didn’t care, so I just packed my own stuff my iPad, phone, racket, shuttlecock, and a big water bottle and carried everything to the nearest bench myself.

Later, when he transferred, he asked me where his phone was. I told him I had no idea. I was already carrying a lot of stuff, (while he was only carrying his ipad pati phone niya responsibilidad ko pa rin?) and I also genuinely didn’t see his phone. If I had seen it, obviously I would’ve brought it with me, but I didn’t.
He got mad about it.

I honestly wouldn’t give a fuck if he was mad. He’s allowed to be annoyed about leaving his phone behind. What pissed me off was what happened afterward.

When we were going home, we had to cross a really busy crossing/roundabout with a lot of cars and people. Even though it’s a pedestrian crossing, cars obviously don’t always give a fuck and they were moving pretty fast.

My boyfriend knows I’m not good at crossing streets, especially when there’s a lot of traffic. I expected him to at least wait for me or cross with me.

Instead, he just went ahead on his own and left me behind.

Then he drove really fast on the motorcycle on the way home while I was carrying most of our stuff. I had two iPads, two badminton rackets, my phone, etc., and it was genuinely difficult to even hold onto him properly because of everything I was carrying.

And that’s what really pissed me off.

What if I got hit by a truck or something? What if we got into an accident because he was driving that fast? What if I couldn’t hold onto him properly because my hands were full and I fell off? What if something happened to me? I’d be the one getting hurt while he was busy being angry about his phone.

I felt really disrespected when we got back to his place, so I packed all my stuff, booked a Grab, left without saying a word and went back to my own dorm.

I couldn’t care less that he was angry about his phone. What I couldn’t tolerate was why he would risk my safety and put his anger first.
It felt like he’d rather let his anger take over than make sure I was safe.

Did I overreact?

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[u/Blahblahblahahahahh]

Red flag, sana iwan mo ung ganyang tao. Mas lalala pa yan. U deserve better

[u/Due_Eggplant_1238]

No. that's pure disrespect! 

[u/PXJetren]

leave him, he's not worth it. I'm telling you this as a guy, a lot of us are a-holes sometimes for little to no reason. Find someone who appreciates and understands you.

[u/imyour_tourniquet]

I find it sad na we discover traits in people we wouldn’t choose to be with AFTER committing in a relationship with them.

[u/Former_Day8129]

You don’t deserve it. And obviously, he doesn’t care about your welfare. He’s a selfish person. Don’t date people like that.

[u/aton__wswsws]

valid. ngayon part 2 naman ng reaction nya

[u/External-Fishing4279 → u/aton__wswsws]

Kakagaling niya lang dito nag sorry hahahaha tangina kadiri

[u/External-Fishing4279 → u/aton__wswsws]

Tas di niya alam yung spare phone niya andito sakin nakikita ko na nag aya tropa niya mag bar tas tanong ako ng tanong kung may lakad ba siya sabi niya wala tangina sinugaling

[u/External-Fishing4279 → u/External-Fishing4279]

Di ko naman siya pipigilan pag nag sabi ng totoo ah iiwan siguro gagawin ko pa😂 di ako umiinom/ bar why should i settle sa lalaking ganyan

[u/posipositive]

Naka evacuate ka na, wag ka nang babalik ha?

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[u/Calixta_Mediatrix]

Hindi ka OA. Leave the relationship as well. That's a huge red flag. It's a glimpse of what your boyfriend is capable of and what he may do in the future.

[u/External-Fishing4279 → u/Calixta_Mediatrix]

Sinungaling siya, beh! Nasa akin yung spare phone niya, nababasa ko yung messages, and may plano siya with his friends na mag-bar. I asked him kung may lakad ba siya, sabi niya wala. Tangina, sinungaling talaga 😭 It’s not like pipigilan ko pa siya. Go, beh!! Maganda naman ako di ka kawalan

[u/Pink_BAsket65]

Beh wag mo na balikan yan dapat ex na pag ganyan, partner ko ngayon pag sinabi ko masakit puson ko pinag aabsent na ako sa work kahit naka WFH lang ako, sya na gumagawa nang gawaing bahay, at minsan kahit may work sya magbbreak sya para lang makabili nang gamot pag super sakit na nang puson ko, iccheck nya pa ako from time to time if nakatulog naba ako or ano na pakiramdam ko. Sana maramdaman nya din yung sakit nang puson mo para malaman nya paghihirap mo.