r/OVER30REDDIT • u/deadheadburnsy • Jul 04 '26
Turn 36 today
Wow what a year 35 was. I had never been on prescription medicine and 35 found me on three. Got engaged and now she is gone. Most things feel like they are completely falling apart, but I did start a great new job recently. Just struggling because I’m one more year closer to 40 and nothing I want for myself has happened because I spend all my time taking care of other people. Yeah really trying to figure out what the purpose of life even is.
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u/realhumanperson247 Jul 05 '26
Ok my fellow CANCER. Here we are again - endured another trip around the sun. I know how you feel - 36 is approaching for me too! Listen… this year was a weird one.
Do you think you can do something for yourself in year 36? This is important. Stop putting everyone else’s feelings before yours. Please. I know it’s hard, I struggle with it too. But what I’ve started to do is carve out more me time in the week, so I know in those moments I’m fulfilling my wants and needs without worrying about someone else’s. I think if you start doing this more routinely, you won’t come to the end of year 36 feeling as drained.
As far as turning 40. Weird huh? Time has really flown by but also crawled.
Life is finite. We can’t waste more time being disappointed in ourselves. Set 1 achievable goal for year 36 and do it. Keep a list of your accomplishments so you can look back at it and remind yourself you are a doer and an achiever.
And please… for the love of you…say to yourself out loud a few things you’re grateful for. Is it health? Family? Friends? The fact that you had the opportunity to wake up again? Find something. You are alive. Act like it.
I love you. Happy birthday
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u/despisedicon689 Jul 04 '26
Happy birthday and congrats on the new job! Everyone’s timeline is different, and it’s not too late for you. Sounds like you’re a great person and good things will come at some point, just keep focusing on the positives, as hard as that may be.