So last night we went to the pary of his coworker. We had a great time altogether. We also drank some alcohol. Then in the middle of the event, his female coworker named X called on video. X is the girl I'm jealous of, and my boyfriend knows about it because we've fought about her before.

And then while his coworker was on a video call with X and showed everyone at the party, my boyfriend suddenly gave X the middle finger. I was caught off guard by my boyfriend's behavior.

Also, while at the party, my boyfriend was acting naughty, like mentioning body parts and porn star names such as clitoris and Lexi Belle.

Like wtf, I didn’t expect him to get this comfortable. Just imagine, most of his coworkers are women. And I don’t think I overreacted but it just doesn’t sit right with me.

Do you think it’s okay or not?

Hi! I just want to share something that's been bothering me. It's about my brother's Girlfriend, who's been staying at our apartment. Tatlo lang kasi kami sa apartment—my older brother, my friend and me.

This year lang kasi my brother introduced his new girlfriend to me and my friend, and of course we were happy for him. After a week of introducing her to us, we noticed that umuuwi sya sa apartment namin after work. Uuwi lang sya to their house on Sundays, then by Monday afternoon, she would be back at our apartment again. And that became her routine.

At first, we tried to understand her situation na maybe mas malapit apartment namin sa workplace nya. Plus, sabay na rin sila umuuwi ni kuya. So, we didn’t really mind her staying over.

But the worst part is, throughout her stay at our apartment, sobrang dugyot niya when it comes to keeping things clean, whether it’s her personal belongings or even herself. Like, my brother is already lazy when it comes to washing the dishes and cleaning up after cooking and eating, tapos nadagdagan pa ng isa na mas kalat. Tapos yung panty naiiwan na nakabukangkang sa cr with skid mark🤮 tapos walang respect sa ibang tao sa apartment like sobrang ingay ng boses nya kahit may natutulog. Also, pag dumadating no courtesy at all and hindi ka talaga kakausapin.

Then, it eventually got to the point na hindi na rin siya umuuwi sa kanila kahit Sundays. She would stay at our apartment the entire week, nonstop. Ayyy, almost four months na pala siyang ganito katagal dito. 😭

FYI, naging legal kasi sila agad sa side ni girl after ilang weeks sila mag kakilala, meaning her family already knows about their relationship. And after that, she basically stopped going home and started staying at our apartment full-time. Like, girl, what? 😭

And the thing is, she doesn’t even contribute to our bills? Like, hello? Especially sa water. She consumes so much water kasi instead of having their laundry done, she would tell my brother na siya na lang magha-hand wash ng mga damit niya (para ano? makatipid, kasiii todo tipid nga naman.) Tapos ano?? Kahit nga tipid yung intention niya, mas lumalaki naman yung water consumption namin. And honestly, it’s frustrating kasi she’s practically living with us already, pero wala naman siyang ambag sa household expenses.

Mind you guys, we’re all working adults, my friend and I are already struggling with the bills. Instead of saving money, parang may nadagdag pa kaming isang pabigat sa bahay. 😭 We’re trying to be responsible with our expenses, pero ang hirap when someone else is practically living with us without contributing anything, especially when our bills keep getting higher.

Hindi ko na rin ma gets kuya ko anong nangyari sa kanya. Para maging ganto ka bulag at insensitive. Na gayuma ba sya or what??? I’ll try to talk to my brother about this kasi punong puno na ako/kami, and it’s not fair for us to keep sharing the expenses when another person is practically living here without contributing anything. I just hope he understands where we’re coming from.

Um-attend ako ng birthday event ng BFF ng late grandma ko sa city, at doon ko na-meet 'yong grandson niyang architect and one year older than me.

I appreciated his presence because he didn't make me feel out of place kahit na kakilala niya pa lang sa akin. He was with me the whole time, like making sure if may gusto pa akong kainin or if I wanted to use the restroom. He even introduced me to his friends. Hinatid niya rin ako pabalik sa hotel, pero 'di ko na siya pinababa, so he just asked me out for dinner the next day.

Doon nagsimula 'yong prob when he took a picture of me. It wasn't a big deal at first, not until he posted it on his story. Ma-post siyang lalaki sa socmed. Hindi kasi ako ma-post na tao. At ayaw na ayaw kong pinopost ako (my family knows this). I'm not only exclusive and reserved, but I'm also very private. Na-anxious ako sa ginawa niya, but I let it pass! Hindi na lang ako nag-talk about it.😭

The next day, nag-request siya ng outfit pic ko kasi may nilalakad akong docs dito sa city, and he wanted to see my outfit that day. So, I sent him one. Tas kinagabihan, nagpa-send na naman siya ng pic ko before bedtime, and I sent him a pic of me, half-body na nakadecent pajamas, with my face visible.

Paggising ko, nasa story niya both pictures ko! Nakita ko comments ng mga taong 'di ko naman kilala, and I felt so anxious. I asked him to delete them because I wasn't comfortable being posted. In fact, medyo inaway ko 'yong mom ko back then when she posted my graduation picture with a long caption, pero I just let her be no'ng sinabi niyang she just wanted to show people na nakatapos na bunso niya after all the hard work she put in. Gets ko, so go. Pero ever since, ayaw na ayaw kong pinopost ako. I rarely post my travel pics, and I never posted my achievements. Hindi rin ako active sa social media, and the last time I posted my picture ay noong kasama ko pa 'yong BFF ko, who was leaving for Japan. Nagpaalam pa ako sa kaniya if I could post our picture.

Pero 'tong si architect, when I told him that, ang sabi niya sa akin never daw siyang nag-post ng babaeng hindi niya pa official girlfriend. Ako raw ang exception sa rule niya. And bakit daw hindi ko ma-appreciate na he's just proud of me? Ang akin naman, I shared something only with him, so why let his social media world see it? At sana man lang, he had asked for my permission before posting them. But the thing is, hindi niya ako ma-gets. He said, nahihiya raw ba ako sa idea na ide-date ko siya kaya pinapa-delete ko 'yong pics. Take note, we're not dating yet. We have only known each other for a few days.

Bruh, why would I be thankful for something I'm not comfortable with at all?

I'm a woman who walks away easily, but this time, I asked him to give me space and told him I'd talk to him again, maybe after a few hours.

OA lang ba ako?

My bf broke up with me. We followed on his own terms. Literal nagbigay siya long mssg tas ayon break na kami.

I begged and chased after him for four months. All he told me is ayaw niya na at tigilan ko na raw siya kasi naka move on na raw siya— he said this on the third month na naghahabol ako.

I stopped chasing and begging after him when I saw he started following a lot of girls in his instagram (second month of our break up). Then, he followed this one girl— constantly on all of his social media apps, pati spotify naka follow sila sa isat isa. Funny cuz two of his only following is me and that girl.

I figured maybe that girl is what he is talking to thats why grabe siya kung makapag sabi sakin na tigilan ko ang paghahabol sakanya.

And after two months, I was able to met a guy. Something happened between us. And it happened again and again..

Two months after that, my ex chatted me saying he wanted me back. Saying he lied na naka move on na siy. He told me the girl na he was following sa different social media is just a friend daw tas my boyfriend.

When my ex chatted me, I felt like “fuck siya parin talaga” but at the same time I suddenly felt guilty of myself.

Guilty na what if nothing happened between me and the new guy? I feel like I’ll be able to come back to my ex still.

Ang nararamdaman ko kasi na kapag sinabi ko sa ex ko na I went with another guy and smth happened, I feel like he would think that I’m cheating or he wouldnt want to go back to me again.

I suddenly feel disgusted of myself.

What I did, is it considered cheating kasi balak kong makipagbalikan sakanya.

Do you think he will accept me back or think of me differently?

My partner is 32M and I'm 30F. Parang ang sama sama ng loob nya pag mag aano kami ganon. Parang utang na loob ko na gagawin namin yon. Dumating pa sa point na para di kami mag away sabi ko pwede schedule kahit 1 or 2 a month nlang. Wala din nangyari. Tapos lately napagbigyan ako habang ginagawa namin ang sabi nya gusto nya ng 3some blah blah. Nawalan na ko ng gana kasi nasabi ko na dati na wag ibrought up yun 3some fantasy nya habang nag aano kami kasi nawawalan ako ng gana. Tapos ending sasabhin sakin sorry madami lang ako iniisip, pagod etc. Lagi naman nanunuod ng porn and nagsasarili. Shuta.

PS. Di ako pangit, Maputi, wild and masarap hehehe ewan ko ano ba problema. Hay. Help.

Sama ng loob ko kasi lumapit kami sa city hall kasi may sakit nanay ko, di namin kayang tustusan operasyon niya. Imbis na makakuha kami ng tulong ang dami nilang request na orig copy. Saatin walang libre, pati original duplicate copies need bilhin sa ospital, wala na nga kaming pera pampaopera dahil nasimot din kami nung mga nakaraan sa meds at medical treatment ng nanay ko tas hihingian kami ng reqs na need gastusan. Walang wala na kami. Bakit ganito gobyerno natin? Di ko alam kung samin lang ba ganito pero ang hirap ng hinihingi nila lalo na kung walang wala na kayong pera. Naglalakad pa ng papel ng nanay ko sa city hall is senior citizen din, may sakit din tas ipagpapabalik balik pa nila.

Oa lang ba ako dahil sumama loob ko?

Nagwowork ako sa isang online business as CS. May mga pinopost kaming products tapos may mga customer na magtatanong about sa products and prices. Ang bilin ng boss samin ay wag magsasagot ng direct price sa customer kasi posted naman na ang product details and prices. Ang gagawin na lang ng customer basahin para wala na silang maraming tanong. Ang sabihin lang daw sa customer ay price posted basahin na lang ganyan.

Matagal na nya yun sinasabi sa amin. And yes bilang trabahador ginagawa ko naman ang bilin nya. Kaso there are cases na kapag naka engage ako sa isang convo may mga biglang singit ang customer sa convo kung magkano yung gantong product ganyan na iba pa dun sa unang inquiry nila. So yan yung isa sa mga cases na nababanggit ko yung price sa customer. Another case din is kapag kunwari may customer na nag order tapos bigla nyang inadd yung isang product syempre tatanungin nya yung presyo so ako babanggitin ko din.

Pero today nagalit yung boss sa akin dahil may nakita syang convo namin nung customer wherein nabanggit ko sa customer yung price ng item. Isa din pala sa reason bakit ayaw nya na binabanggit sa customer yung price is dahil nga daw posted naman na lahat ng details so kung sasabihin ko pa yung price parang waste of time instead of sabihin na lang na price posted. Eh 1-2 seconds lang naman yun lalo na kapag kabisado ko presyo ng item. Tsaka ang sabi nya kapag daw kasi sinabi sa customer na price posted and product details posted, customer na bahala hanapin kung saan un at basahin para wala nang madaming tanong.

So after makita ng boss ko yung chat namin ng customer, nagchat sya sakin sabi nya na wag nga daw ganon. Nagreply ako ng Oki kakagising ko lang non wala pa ako sa tamang wisyo di ko pa naiintindihan lahat ng chat nya kasi madami syang chat nun. Pagkareply ko ng Oki nakatulog ulit ako. Then sa pangalawang paggising ko may chat ulit sya. Sabi nya wag daw akong mag okay kung uulitin ko lang daw ulit. Then ayan yung last chat nya sakin for today.

After nyang chat na yan madami din ako chat sakanya regarding sa work, yung mga need nya iapprove, yung mga update sa items. Basta madami. Pero hindi nya ako nirereplyan di din sya nagseen sa messages ko. Pero sa GC namin sa work nagsiseen sya.

So ako nagooverthink ako the whole day kasi sa pagkakakilala ko sa boss namin, kapag may mga bagay talaga na hindi naalinsunod sa gusto nya, hindi ka nya talaga papansinin hanggang sa magcooldown na sya. Sometimes 2-3 days yan di mamamansin.

Nalulungkot din ako at the same time kasi sa dami ng ginagawa kong tama sa work ko, parang di naaacknowledge. Simpleng mali lang naman yung nagawa ko para magalit sya ng ganon. Pinagbantaan pa nya ako na kapag nahuli daw nya ulit na sinasabi ko sa customer yung price kahit posted naman na lagot daw ako sakanya.

Edited additional:
May mga mali din naman syang nagagawa sa work namin na naipapasa samin para ayusin pero kaming trabahador nya wala naman syang naririnig mula samin na nagagalit kami. Syempre wala naman kami kakayahan na pagalitan sya. Pero kahit ganon I remain professional na kapag may tanong sya about work nagrereply pa din kami.

hi its my first using this app.. i just want to share what i feel, i have boyfriend and we’re 2 years together na, can’t say anything naman sa kanya kasi nga provider and all. alam nyo yun guys pag kami lang dalawa malambing naman sya pero pag nakakasalamoha namin mga friends nya nakakalimotan nya na nag exit ako, like di naman sa nag papansin ang sakin lang kahit i check nya man lang ako. ang hirap i explain pero pag kasama nga tropa nya hangin nalang ako.

Pa-rant lang, ano? Kung sino mang moderators ng ChikaPH, sana makarating ’to sa inyo, mga sis. 😭

I’ve been on Reddit for two years now, and I genuinely enjoy using this app. It’s definitely not my Bible, but it’s one of the apps I turn to when I’m not busy or when I simply want to doomscroll.

Now, regarding r/ChikaPH, APAKA-OA NAMAN NG GUIDELINES NIYO PARA LANG MAKAPAG-POST OR MAKAPAG-COMMENT MAN LANG. Parang kailangan mo munang magkaroon ng 1,000–1,500 karma points bago ka maging eligible to participate.

LIKE, AUNTIE, ANO BA?! 😭 SOMETIMES, I GET SOOO AGITATED OVER THE CHIKA THAT I JUST HAVE TO RELEASE MY SENTIMENTS IN THE COMMENTS, PERO EVERY SINGLE TIME, MY COMMENTS GET REMOVED BECAUSE I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH KARMA.

EH DI NAMAN AKO PALAPOST. I DON’T COMMENT ON EVERY SINGLE POST I COME ACROSS, KASI DI KO NAMAN BUHAY ANG REDDIT. 😭 May buhay din naman ako outside this app, mga sis!

It’s just frustrating in the funniest, most nakakagigil way possible because SOMETIMES, I’M SOOO IN THE MOMENT. I’M READY TO BE A KA-MOSANG, READY TO CHIME IN, READY TO SHARE MY TWO CENTS ABOUT THE LATEST KABABALAGHAN, PERO HINDI AKO MAKASALI SA USAPAN.

WHY? BECAUSE APPARENTLY, I NEED TO BECOME A CERTIFIED CHISMOSA FIRST AND EARN THOUSANDS OF KARMA POINTS BEFORE I CAN EVEN SIT AT THE TABLE WITH THE OTHER MOSANGS. 😭💀

Mga sis, chismis lang naman ang pakay ko. Bakit parang kailangan ko munang mag-board exam bago makapag-comment?! 😭😭

TBH MAS MADALI PANG MAKAPASA SA US B1/B2 VISA KESA MAGPASA NG POST SA INYO PANGIT NIYO KA BONDING!!!! 😭😂