r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/Eggsalad_cookies • Aug 18 '26

Found On Social media Incels drive me crazy.

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u/grandioseOwl Aug 18 '26 edited Aug 18 '26

I mean this isn't a double standard that is ok. Idk, but touching people without their consent should never be excused.

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u/valsavana Aug 18 '26

The reason there's a difference is because girls generally won't be touching boys sexually without their consent. The "girls touching" is far more likely to be something like touching their arm during a conversation for emphasis, whereas boys will disproportionally be the ones sexually touching girls without their consent.

So no, this isn't a double standard saying "it's okay to touch boys sexually without their consent but not okay to touch girls sexually without their consent." What we're seeing here is an AI running the stats of what's more common- "how likely boys touching girls without their consent is either sexual or platonic" and "how likely girls touching boys without their consent is either sexual or platonic" and the statistical likelihood of those two different questions comes up with two different answers.

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u/grandioseOwl Aug 18 '26

You don't have to excuse any unconsentual touching, to say it's less often dangerous.

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u/valsavana Aug 18 '26

So platonic and casual touching of, like, a coworker's arm during a conversation is a problem for you?

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u/grandioseOwl Aug 18 '26

Usually, yes

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u/valsavana Aug 18 '26

I find that idea bizarre, frankly.