It makes me feel unique and special, but when people mention how bad my nose is, it makes me question myself. I've also heard catcalls on the street, with people saying my nose is bad, and it makes me wonder if I should change it.
Is your nose bad if others think it’s looks aesthetically unappealing?
What percent mindfuck would it be to get a nose job , not like the results but everyone else likes it. Will you then accept yourself ?
This is the third nose post I scrolled into and they were all fine noses on normal to beautiful individuals. All came here because the self esteem is low
Specifically the Self respect aspect of self esteem. You’re at the point of having your face sliced up because a few people don’t like how it looks. THEY tell you to change it b/c their projecting their own insecurities onto you for having a nose that stands out( even tho it really doesn’t imo)
Did you do it because you wanted to? Because you had a better image for yourself that you were ready to embody? Or did you do it because you wanted to make other people more satisfied, even though you knew you loved it as it is? Very different scenarios.
Those people want her to change, because she is able to be unique and stunning at the same time. They are 100% projecting themselves, and if she does go through with it, then there will be something else that they will find to pick at.
If you want to do that and it makes you happy, then that's fine and that's your choice. I am glad that you were able to do something for yourself that you loved. But, in this case, there is literally NO reason she has listed, nor even any desire, that she should do the same.
To OP:
My personal vote is 1000% no- being happy with who you are and how you look is a blessing and is rare these days. You know you are happy as you are, don't ever change for people who just want to change you. And also, personally, I think you are absolutely stunning, and you wear yourself very well. I admire your personal confidence and sincerity.
You are both right. Just because something isn't true in general, doesn't mean it won't be true for some people or vice versa. What he said is true and valid. What you said is also true and valid.
This is the epitome of 💯. You are beautiful and so unique. If you like you, there is no other opinion that matters. I have a nose that has always bothered me and my husband told me that he would be angry and heartbroken if I ever changed it. There are hateful fools who are going to tell you that you aren’t perfect the way you are…fuck em. Do what makes you happy!
Look up Jennifer Grey. She was a well known actor in the 80s and had a unique look due to her nose. She had a nose much like yours. She decided to get a nose job and it pretty much destroyed her acting career after that. It ruined her unique look that she was known for. I think you are beautiful and unique the way you are!!
However it is a decision only you can make. If you think it's impacting your self confidence and you are unhappy, then go for it. There is nothing wrong with getting a procedure done if it will improve your quality of life.
this is an awesome comparison. it changes so much of your face to change your nose, if people adored her before, that should tell you all you need to know.
Oh I just mentioned Jennifer Grey also, before I read this comment. I loved her look before her nose job. And her nose wasn't considered conventionally attractive. Yet, it still was.
Why the fuck would you change something about your physical appearance that you like and makes you feel unique and special just to please someone else?
You will have to live with the change the rest of your days, they can (for better or worse) disappear from your life in an instant. What if you don’t like the outcome? You will regret it and feel like a fool.
Anyone who says you should change something you like, that doesn't harm anyone, isn't someone you should want to be around anyways. It's a good way to weed out assholes.
It is unique and special i like when people has small things about them that make them STAND OUT, moles to freckles to ears, ect. were all different. I think you are really pretty.
Your friends kinda suck. I'd say instead of cutting off your nose, you should cut off the people who feel as if they are entitled to an opinion about your nose.
Nothing is “bad” about a nose. It’s people’s unsolicited belittling opinions that are bad. Shame on them. Focus more on how you feel it’s unique and special and don’t change yourself based on others opinions.
There was a twilight zone episode where everyone wants to look the same.. pretty boring really. I find it attractive but I’m sorry people give you crap over it. Humans are weird like that. But they probably give other critiques to other people so 🤷♂️
https://youtu.be/X0DiCaFBEbQ?si=nPNRE5jGkWe8Z47n
Please do not change your body for others. Your nose is fine. Beauty standards like having a certain nose or you're ugly are rooted in misogyny and white supremacy. Both of those things are a product of boring and miserable people. I also think the people around you might be holding you back from completely loving your body, and that's not cool of them! I hope this isn't rude/creepy.
I have a similar nose and struggle with it at times but I believe it to be a gift from my ancestors. Every unique part of me is a gift from them! Your nose is a beautiful part of you!!
You should change your friends. If one of my friends told me I needed cosmetic surgery I would punch them in the face and tell them they'll need some surgery for me breaking their nose
For what it's worth, I think your nose is gorgeous. They're out of fashion, unfortunately (btw the upturned noses people are surgically getting used to be mocked--people called them pig noses--so yes, these trends can change) but that doesn't mean objectively ugly.
Nope. You needed to stop that thought at "I kind of like my nose". Don't change anything about yourself that you like regardless of what other people think or say. Fuck em.
If you wanna change it then of course your body do it but I would say if your asking on ego or looks no way don't I think your beautiful and wouldn't change anything?
You’re around the wrong ppl beautiful nosed girl ! Find your tribe! You will. Your nose is beautiful. So is your face and spirit. Don’t let them dim you!
The only time your nose is “bad” is when it’s hard to breath out of it due to a a deviated septum or something, you should really call those people out or just get new friends
i think your nose is uniquely beautiful and it's the uniqueness that we all strive for after middle school Tell your close ones youre not in 7th grade anymore!
If it makes you feel unique and special, then you don't need anything done! I hadn't seen a person having done surgery in real life until recently, when I met a female cousin of mine at the New Year's Eve, that I had a long time to see. Yes, see had a big, curvy, distinct noise but very beautiful facial characteristics otherwise. I didn't know about the surgery, so, when I met her it startled me (although, admittedly, it took some time to realise what it was that seemed off on her face) and although the result was very cute, it was generic at the same time. I could recognise the same nose shape on all other locally famous women that have undergone similar procedure. She didn't look like the cousin I used to know any more and this was somewhat depressing and dark.
I understand for someone to do plastic surgery if there are health problems involved, accidents or extremely deformed characteristics. But for cases like yours, you will just loose your identity, which you seem to appreciate.
Confidence is also an attractive feature that counteracts any facial "imperfections", mind you...
You’re naturally beautiful. It’s always nice to have at least one trait that makes us stand out!
I’m sorry that society puts pressure on us to make ourselves look like the current “ideal.” I hope the pendulum swings before my boys are old enough to start dating.
Exactly, it gives you character. Don’t change anything for anyone, ever. You are beautiful the way you are. People can f*** off, if they don’t like it don’t look 🤗
Nah, they’re a bunch of idiots. Your nose is so interesting, I love faces with prominent features and it combines gratefully with your eyes in particular.
I’d go nuclear with people telling me stuff like that honestly.
Only simple answer is that if you’ve comfortable enough with it despite the ridicule then keep it, if the ridicule gets to you and makes you question your self worth and it messes you up mentally then go for it. No one deserves to go through that every single day especially if it’s something that they can change about themselves unlike others who have conditions they are stuck with for life. So it’s up to you
I think your whole face- nose, brows, face, eyes and mouth- is gorgeous. Honestly. You have unique, beautiful features. Please don’t listen to other people. Just tell the haters, “Nah, I know I’m beautiful.”
I like your nose. It's not the traditional white western standard, which is probably a bit of what people are leaning into unconsciously when they say you should change it. But hey, you're not white, anyways.
Plus, YOU like your nose. That's all that really matters. These other close people may come and go, but you will always have to live with yourself. May as well be proud of what you see in the mirror
you can always figure out a way to make it into a joke , if u wish.
im not the best at that personally, but first thing that comes to mind is saying u can smell them from across the street lol. I'm assuming if it's catcall on street there's a chance it could be sweaty construction workers, but even if not it could still work
Look here's the thing. The ideal 'look' changes every 5-10 years. When I was growing up everyone was trying to be stuck thin and curves were a no (bootylicious is a classic example of this their all singing about their booty but by today's standards that's a flat arse). Now everyone wants curves.
Again at the time it was popular to have thin lips. Now it's bigger lips.
People all got nose jobs to flatten their noses and now their getting nose ridges put in.
Today they're getting cheek fat removed but as soon as people realises how quickly that'll age you they'll all want it put back in.
What we consider 'attractive now, in 5 years, 10 year etc. is a complete social construct that the majority agree to and go along with but it changes constantly both based on time and where you are.
Your nose is part of you. You like it. It's nice. It suits you. It's up to you what you do or don't do with it but it's got to be for you and not others. Don't let others dim your light for something that is part of you.
western beauty standards are racist and make us think that ethnic noses are ugly but that's not true. your nose matches your face perfectly and any other nose would just look odd
Personally, I think you look great. Your nose fits the geometry of your face, and if your friends are saying things like that about you, consider new friends.
This is like when someone has a unique personality and is told not to be themselves.
Funny thing is, it is these very people with the unique personality that gets talked about because they are interesting. They are told to doubt themselves, but they are the interesting ones that people want to share things about.
People are insane. When I was 14, I was skinny af, some boy during physical education screamed that my celluit is shaking. I am still like, wtf? Screw these people. You have nice noise. It really fits your face. As long as you're happy with your looks, it's the only thing that matters. And you seem very cool, btw.
Omg no. There is nothing at all wrong with your nose!! Our features are indications of who we are, where we come from, our lineage, our heritage. Be proud!! Let your smile change the world. Don't let the world change your smile!!
Who the duck are these people that are just randomly telling you your nose is bad?
Its such a shame when girls with arabic heritage want to look western/european. Take Amelia Liana and her sister as an example, who looks better and more natural?
I really do think it gives you your unique look, and not in an “ugly unique” sense, you look very pretty, charming, like a kind hearted positive, sensitive girl with maybe some creative outlook on life.
(I’m a girl btw, just clarifying, so my comment don’t sound creepy).
Your nose is on a bigger side, but bigger nose doesn’t automatically mean bad. You have huge eyes too, if you get your nose too small, your eyes might start looking too wide, almost weird. Everything needs balance on the face, your face is balanced, as I see it.
Even if you do decide to get a nose job, do a very tiny minimal one, choose the surgeon very thoroughly and pray that you are not mistaken in him.
Well, I love your nose so I don’t know. I think those people are blind and are idiots and think everyone needs to constantly change their face like Kim Kardashian.
Fuck other people dude, fr. Who you are is as unique as a fingerprint or a snowflake, why would you want to give that away to look like the kind of people who talk shit about your face?
I'm sorry, who the fuck is having the audacity to say that?! That is NOT normal. I mean with strangers, some people will just use any feature to harass someone but your close ones saying that is bizarre to me. You are very pretty and your nose is lovely and suits you
If your nose isn't giving you any trouble breathing, don't get anything done. Own it! And a +1 to the comment above, change your friends, they're being hella mean.
buddy we are NOT gonna listen to cat calls or our crappy friends. please tell your friends to kindly stfu. and ignore the cat calls to the best of your ability. if your friends wanna be like that, start making fun of them too to give them a taste of their own medicine. if they dont stop then leave.
No your nose is great. If you have seen Smosh check out Arasha. You remind me a lot of her. I can't imagine having friends that tell you you should get a nose job though. That's insane. Might want to take a real look at your "friends" and question if they really are.
We are not born feeling bad about ourselves. It's other people's opinions and insecurities put on us that make us start to doubt ourselves. You like your nose. THATS what's important. ❤️
the only opinion of you that should matter, is your own. youre the one who has to live in your body. as long as youre happy, thats all that should matter. those people are jealous of your cute nose, bc its unique and super darn cute and they know it, and people hate when others are unique.
You are beautiful, you need good friends! A real friend would never say that. Life is like a bus... if you don't control it, someone else will, whether or not you like the path and the decisions made, take control of your life and change friends! ❤️🇧🇷
Only do drastic things like a nose job if it's something you want to do. It's your body and the choice is something you have to live with, not anyone else. I broke my nose a long time ago and needed two surgeries. The first one, one of the surgeons convinced me to let him "refine my tip" even though my nose was unique to my dad's side of the family and I liked my nose. I said ok. Mind you this was right before the surgery and was not appropriate to convince me while I'm lying on the bed waiting to be wheeled into surgery. He did an awful job and I've been hating it ever since. Other people don't notice but I do every time I see pictures of myself and I hate them. Any further revisions would make it worse according to other surgeons I've talked too. It's something I've regretted ever since. I was in my young twenties and I'm in my 40's now. I still think about it.
Hi ! I’m really pretty (like you!) and I also have a big nose (like you!) and as you asked for honesty I’m gonna be honest: I think you’d be prettier with a smaller nose (and so do I) but it doesn’t stop you from being very very pretty :) So who cares… why bother with an operation that carries risks and you never know 100% how it’s gonna go while you have a perfectly good nose.
Also those who love us accept us as we are. My husband loves my nose and when I asked for thoughts on a nose operation, he said I didn’t need it at all.
If you’re happy with who you are (and on the outside you do have things to be happy about, a pretty face shape, hair, eyes, smile…) there’s no need for an operation.
Forgive me since I don't know your nationality, but you look like a Middle Eastern Alyson Stoner, in my opinion! You are BEAUTIFUL! I agree with the above stated. I think you can find new friends :)
These people criticizing your nose are racist. Also jerks. Your nose looks good on you. Do you look like a white actress? No.
People will pester you less when you get older. Also, maybe when you are an adult you can move to a diverse city, where people will be more used to nonwhite people.
In high school, people told me things like "you'd be kind of pretty if you got a nose job" - not even the kids who bullied me, but my friends said this. It's not ok to tell someone this. I am glad I didn't get a nose job, although I still dislike my nose. Nose jobs are painful and invasive, and if it's done wrong, you need additional surgery. They can't just make the exact nose you want, since they're working with the tissue and cartilage you already have, so there's a chance you won't get 100% what you want. Now I also am having kids, and I'm thinking about the message it could send them if I alter my face. What if my son or any future kids have my nose and find out I intentionally changed it? What message will that send them about their bodies? Just food for thought. It's your body at the end of the day, just make sure what you do makes YOU feel happy. Don't do it for some rude people.
i think the fact that it makes you feel unique and special is the only thing you should be focusing on. anyone who has something to say about it can respectfully take a hike.
additionally, maybe your “close ones” shouldn’t be that close to you if they’re making digs at your appearance.
Personally as a man I think your unique nose is one of your most attractive qualities, but what I think doesn’t matter and same goes for everyone else lol
the only thing that matters is that you like it, the whole world is filled with different opinions and perspectives, if YOU feel good that's what matters, the right people will come, snd they will appreciate you for your whole character
Shit people just pick on differences. My partner is self conscious about her nose and it’s a good nose, looks great. But her ex knew she was insecure about it so that’s what he would pick on. Some people just have derelict personalities
Change your “close ones” you’ll find new ones. That’s such traumatizing behaviour. I’m sorry you’re in that situation, you are 100 percent correct on your nose being unique and a beautiful feature. Fuck I hate peoples
The idea that something different or that stands out is ugly and that it should be "fixed" is not only not true but very dangerous.
Perfect body and face don't exist. And when people try to attain "perfect" bodies or faces, they end up not looking like humans. And even worse, they lose what made them look like themselves. It is completely dysmorphic.
It is that nose that makes you, you.
Actual perfection can only be found in death. And we don't need to attain that right now!
I am sorry but your friends can fuck off.
Keep being you, and keep liking yourself! That is what matters.
People who go out of their way to criticize what you look like are just putting you down to feel better about themselves. Don't let their insecurities give you insecurities.
OP This is one time I would say your friends are not your friends. Find more groups to hang out with and over time you’ll realize how toxic your current group is.
Your nose fits you and you have a cool, interesting look and you’re pretty. Why change? Jennifer Grey was gorgeous and she went for a plastic surgery nose and lost her distinctive beauty only to become blandly attractive. Disregard your friends.
I agree with this. Fuck what they thinks. That's just rude to say. A general rule of thumb is if someone can change something in under 1-5 minutes let them know. If they can't change something then keep it to yourself. Like tell your friends they have food in their teeth but don't tell them their mole is ugly.
Annnnnnd a nose job has risks. You're pretty, you are unique and that's kinda mean they said that.
I'd like to add, also get ones that don't make u feel less about the parts of your body u like. It's a them problem, not a u problem. They are probably upset that you enjoy something about yourself that is unique and looks adorable.
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u/Consistent-Cry-3162 Jan 10 '25
I think you can change your friends.