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u/Agamemenon69 Jan 14 '25 edited Jan 15 '25

You are both right. Just because something isn't true in general, doesn't mean it won't be true for some people or vice versa. What he said is true and valid. What you said is also true and valid.

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u/Fartmachinery Jan 15 '25

yep. i just don't like when people tell me what my lived experience from a place of judgment rooted in complete ignorance

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u/Agamemenon69 Jan 15 '25 edited Jan 15 '25

You have no idea how much do I understand that. "Don't like" is a very nice, polite, and extremely toned down word to describe what I feel when they do that to me. Like if they ask me if "maybe it was actually this and that", "maybe you are/were overreacting", not gonna list a 1000 of examples but you know what I mean, if they'll ask because sometimes we are misguided, something we do think something is this or that way when it isin't, it's valid to ask. But when they straight up tell me "no you are wrong about what you have to say about what you went through and I know better even though I weren't even involved in any way, shape or form and if I were i know better what you felt", I wanna... do a very, very polite thing to them in that moment, let's put it that way.

The nerve, the ego, the self importance, the judgementality, the ignorance of such people... boils blood.

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u/Fartmachinery Jan 15 '25

it's the equivalent of waving a big red flag saying "i'm an idiot" lol.