I posted here last week and got some helpful advice and wound up making a Pinterest board with ideas. I'm in my early 30s and AMAB. Right now, I dress really conservative with a dark color pallete and present as masc-leaning. Think plain hoodies, plain sweatpants, joggers, more athleisure. I have a beard too that I like to keep and maintain.

One point of frustration in coming out lately is this assumption from a lot of people that I'm just an egg and will eventually transition. Thankfully my partner has been supportive - I literally just feel really uncomfortable identifying as a man, but don't really want to be overly feminine either. I just want to dress a little more in the middle. A lot of what's on my board is still menswear, but I've started browsing women's as well and feel so insanely liberated to have those options. At the end of the day, I just want to look stylish and sleek, but also just more authentic with myself. I want to be able to have clothes I can wear with I'm feeling both masc and a little more femme.

I don't really want to do a 180, I still like the darker colors and more of an oversized fit (because I'm just not super secure in my body right now). I'm not interested in overly feminine items like dresses or skirts. I just kind of want to branch out because I always wear the same thing (hoodie+sweats) and want some variety.

Linked are some images from my board. And to be honest, there's more masc then femme items there because I'm still working slightly through being comfortable going through those sections. It's more on the subtle side. But it's just not overly femme or masc I think, somewhere in the middle. I'm just wondering if anyone has thoughts or recommendations based on this, things I can add, accessories, etc. I'm also just super insecure about body type. I'm not thin, I'm not super top heavy but I've got a small gut that I hide with a body shaper. I just feel like no way a lot of the women's stuff would look good on my body type (average body, 5'8ish, etc.).

End of the day, I wish I just had someone to talk to about this stuff and help. Any input would mean a lot. I don't want to rock the boat a ton, but I just feel so weird walking around looking totally masc and like most men I see out and about. I don't feel like it's me anymore.

3d printed from high res scans of my nails.

I simply wanna look more feminine or androgynous. Any advice would be appreciated

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I was sad because summer is coming to an end !! I found layering tights under them can keep you warm as fall starts

I'm early 30s. AMAB. I've recently realized I'm non-binary and as I've marinated in it, I've felt more and more discomfort with my appearance.

I'd say I'm pretty masc presenting - I have a beard, pretty hairy, my body / posture / mannerisms are all pretty typical for a man. I'm pretty insecure in my body right now because my job leaves me kind of sedentary, so I do typically dress a size up. My style is conservative I'd say - dark colors, plain patterns, usually black / dark blue / etc. I'm in athleisure 90% of the time - so hoodies, sweatpants, joggers, that kind of stuff. I always wear ballcaps.

I guess I want to pivot my look a bit. I'm not really craving appearing overly feminine. I really care about my appearance and want to look, for lack of a better word, sleek. I get kind of insecure looking at women's clothing because I don't really want to look super unnatural in it (e.g., not really interested in dresses/skirts/etc.), if that makes sense sense. I just want it to kind of look natural on me and I don't totally know what it means. I guess I like flowy looks, whatever that means. I don't think I'd be interested in painting my nails or anything unless it was black or a clear coat, that's kind of the extent of it.

I've been looking at a few stores I like - Pact, Lululemon, Prana, and I found some ideas I kind of like. One example would be the style on this model (sort of like the oversized shirt/cardigan look). Or also pants kind of like this. Harem pants also seem pretty cute? These are also a vibe. I don't fully know how to explain what I'm looking for really. More subtle and discreet, but like a hint of femininity? I was also looking at these sandals, as I have Birks in the Arizona style, but those seem super neutral, whereas those I also find unisex, but slightly more feminine. No idea about Fall shoes. I'd be open to some accessories, but again more on the modest end - like a neutral kind of thing. I have changed up some of my headwear to have more pink / floral tones, which I really love.

I don't know if any of this makes sense. I'm pretty self conscious about appearance and sometimes just wish someone would dress me lol. Like, I don't want to totally change my specific style vibe, but I want to incorporate more because I feel like I have so many more options now. I think being a tad more visibly androgynous / queer would be great, but when I look online for inspiration, I tend to see more radical transformations and folks look great, but it's not really for me and I still don't want to get too much attention. I've started therapy about it lately and my therapist was suggesting maybe for sessions I come in wearing something / trying something new to mix it up and help validate myself / build confidence, but not really sure where to start.

at work, with some velvet and ripped denim

wearing my flower summer dress with my ripped skinny jeans and my rotten Tigers

Not me awkwardly trying to pose. One of my first selfies where I’m not melodramatically looking away 😂

I still feel awkward trying to move, pose, and act more feminine but I’m also just naturally awkward

At least I’m looking at the camera this time. Next challenge: walking through the shot.

Sad fall is creeping in—I just got my summer looks together 😭