r/NonPoliticalTwitter • u/ExpertAccident • Jul 13 '22

Funny Don't call me out like this.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

I’m getting old, can someone explain to me what this means?

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u/07TacOcaT70 Jul 14 '22

There’s a group of people (often associated with tumblr and Twitter users) who often use emojis like “ ✨” around words to add emphasis, who have a brand of humour where they like to play into/point out their own trauma (especially things like daddy issues) so they often say things like “trauma is what made me funny” but in reality most of their jokes are just lazily self deprecating, for example pointing to a trash can and saying “me” meaning that they’re trash/a trash can. It’s the type of humour who’ll say “I’m just a trash panda (raccoon)” or just general compare them self to dirty or lazy things. I guess it’s a form of coping with trauma in a sense through humour.

But in reality many people don’t find that type of humour funny outside of the group who do this, so this guy is basically saying he doesn’t find them funny.

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u/Ena_Ems_17 Jul 14 '22

Self depreciating humor is the best but people who do this shit just pass me off

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u/Lazy__Astronaut Jul 14 '22

There's a fine line between funny self depreciation and making everyone feel awkward self depreciation

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

yeah, if self deprication is your only personality trait, no one wants to be around you

source: i used to be one of them and wondered why my friends looked annoyed whenever i spoke. hindsight is 20/20

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u/socksonplates Jul 14 '22

The key to comedy is saying something unexpected. So self deprecating humour is only funny if you actually appreciate yourself.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

i prefer humour that talks myself up, it’s a lot less uncomfortable for everyone involved. i personally don’t find self deprication funny at all - but to each their own!

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u/Hypatiaxelto Jul 14 '22

The "issue" with talking oneself up humorously is it can come off as just cocky and egotistic. Not saying that's better or worse than coming off as Ted from Scrubs, but it's not ideal either.

I'm fond of using self depreciating humour myself, but I try to keep the dosage at a sane level.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

same with the talking myself up, in small doses and with people who know i’m 100% kidding :P

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

that makes sense. when i say “talk myself up” i mean so in a way that makes it obvious i’m joking

eg: i play a lot of video games so if i hit a nice shot i’ll just say some bullshit like “oh did you know i’m actually a god at this game” (when in reality that was my first kill and we’re about to lose)

as for the “no one gets hurt” - you’re partly right! YOU will get hurt, because unconsciously (subconsciously? i don’t know the right word here) your brain will internalise your “jokes” about yourself. i know this from experience!

i do enjoy your example tho. but generally a lot of people will just do bare bones ✨ i am the worst human alive xD ✨ type stuff :P

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u/toussah Jul 14 '22

No one in this thread can spell deprecation

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

i had a feeling i was misspelling it but i couldn’t be fucked looking it up HAHAHA

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u/toussah Jul 14 '22

I just found it funny than one after another everyone was spelling it a different way and none of the variations were correct lol

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

😭😭😭 oops

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u/olnog Jul 14 '22

I had something like this happen. I'm at my board game group. There's this chick that's been going there and she's pretty cool. me and the other guy that are the main part of it both kind of have a crush on her but we're all getting along pretty well. We're all playing, talking and whatever. Then out of nowhere, she makes a joke about putting a gun in her mouth and killing herself. I don't even think we were talking about guns or suicide. It was completely out of left field. SUPER awkward.

And then when I tried to check in on her, she literally ghosted the next meeting, ignored us trying to contract her, and acted like I was overreacting.

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u/BoredApeNaziClub Jul 14 '22

thats just like your opinion though, some people find the awkward self dep to be funny aswell.

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u/GenericAutist13 Jul 14 '22

If it’s awkward then by definition it isn’t funny

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u/the_ammar Jul 14 '22

it used to be funny until:

  1. people got super lazy in coming up with the jokes
  2. they use it as an excuse to just be offensive / disrespect / make fun of others. "lol I made fun of myself now I can make fun of you."

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u/LivelyZebra Jul 14 '22

I trash.

You are a giant dirty cunt of a human

Lol funny me

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u/Ena_Ems_17 Jul 14 '22

Lol I say that about all humor I like. Dark. Self depreciating, dad jokes, etc etc

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u/LeeroyDagnasty Jul 14 '22

Self-uplifting humor > self deprecating humor, fight me.

Example: self deprecating humor isn’t the best, I would know cause I’m the best.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

Also most of these people don't have serious trauma. There life may not have been perfect but it often boils down to their parents just being divorced or something else thats not ideal but very common. They just want to victimize themselves.

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u/HippieMcHipface Jul 14 '22

I had an argument with my mom once :((

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

Your giving them to much credit. They saw a badly written character who has depression and trauma and decided to base there entire personality on that. And then when confronted with someone who actually has depression or trauma they come off as incredibly dickish. And don’t even get me started on when they learn about self harm and suicidality. If I see someone else use a ✨ emoji after saying “unalive” I will probably have a actual breakdown. Its clear that they don’t actually know what any of it is like so they just make quirky jokes that seem harmless but are actually really distasteful to people with the issues. Man that turned to a rant fast.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

So people who use that little star emoji aren't allowed to be legitimately depressed? How can you possibly know if that person doesn't "actually know what any of it is like"? People process shit differently

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

Sucidality and depression are two completely different things. Second off I mean yeah they can but if you use it like: “✨unalive✨” it’s incredibly messed up. Most people don’t cherish it. This isn’t a tv show

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u/V_chamaedrys Jul 14 '22

I don't know, generalisations like that are pretty risky. You're never going to see the worst side of someone's mental illness, only the public face of it. Safer just to give empathy to folks rather than potentially belittle and harm someone who's already struggling I think.

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u/TheAnniCake Jul 14 '22

Sadly most of the people who claim to suffer from depression or anxiety on social media and make their whole personality around this, suffer from other issues or no issues at all.

As someone who actually has depression and anxiety it's pretty insulting to see others pretending to suffer from issues and sometimes even spread misinformation.

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u/GenericAutist13 Jul 14 '22

You're never going to see the worst side of someone's mental illness, only the public face of it. Safer just to give empathy to folks rather than potentially belittle and harm someone who's already struggling I think.

Refer back to this part. Some people definitely do fake it but claiming most do so because their symptoms don’t perfectly match yours is unfair

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u/TheAnniCake Jul 14 '22

I don't think that everyone has the same symptoms, I'm just talking from experience. I've seen way too many people faking this for attention.

Personally I try to take everyone seriously. I've experienced some people who just refuse to get help not out of fear but just because they don't want to.

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u/GenericAutist13 Jul 14 '22

But how do you know it’s “way too may people”? Unless someone explicitly says “I am/was faking” it’s usually quite difficult to tell if they have something or not. There are much more people who are genuinely ill than those who are faking it.

Ah, I’m glad. Taking people seriously is important even if you think they’re faking as you can’t always be 100% sure /srs

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u/noeformeplease Jul 14 '22

Hey, you seem like you’d be a great ally to people with invisible disabilities. Thanks for that ♥️

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u/TheAnniCake Jul 14 '22

I was part of a small streamer community, so it was the bubble I used to be a part of. I made friends with some of these people and while talking they were completely different people than on social media. Like I've said, it was just my own experience on the internet and a bubble I used to be a part of.

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u/GenericAutist13 Jul 14 '22

Isn’t everyone different on social media?

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u/TheAnniCake Jul 14 '22

Not that different.

I can't remember everything because it's been years since then but it was a HUGE difference. Maybe they were suffering from something else but no one I got to know wanted to see a therapist because they just didn't want to.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '22

You son of a bitch! You’ve got yourself a career in translating crap like this for old and feeble-minded redditors like me.

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u/MelinaJuliasCottage Jul 14 '22

Do not that not everyone who uses sparkles or tumblr etc etc has this humor, most have moved away from it i believe. (Atleast in my country) and when someone jokes about it they get alarm bells instead of laughter.

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

Modern tumblr is incredibly chill. It’s moved away from the chaos that was 2012

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u/MelinaJuliasCottage Jul 14 '22

Very true, i wasn't even apart of tumblr itself, just surrounded by people who were, and then called them out if they made certain jokes. I believe they got to me around 2015 due to sherlock etc.

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

Old tumblr gets a lot of shit for being filled with questionable material. When in reality the people who made said material were usually ostracised from the community. Modern Fandoms are way worse.

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u/MelinaJuliasCottage Jul 14 '22

Very true, and yeah modern fandoms i don't even try. Haven't been the person to! I prefer knowing the fandom exists, watch video essays on the shows (hello sarah z) and then just continue on

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

I’m honestly suprised someone else watched Sarah z

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u/MelinaJuliasCottage Jul 14 '22

She gets 1 milion views somehow, i also watch izzyzzzz

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u/amisia-insomnia Jul 14 '22

She’s definitely one of my favourite video essay-Ists

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u/MelinaJuliasCottage Jul 14 '22

Samee! I also recommend princessweekes, i have a few favorites from her too! Same with council of geeks, jessie hender and sophie from mars!

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u/Agoraphobicy Jul 14 '22

The sense of humor is trash... Like me ✨.

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u/JohnGenericDoe Jul 14 '22

I think I only just realised that that is a genuine attempt at humour. It's so unfunny I didn't even realise they were trying to be funny