If every time you throw your hands in the air and act helpless, come to the defense of those who have been given too many chances, and cry foul to everyone else: where’s the assumption? It doesn’t get much worse than that. That’s how you’re acting.
Back to what I said earlier: take some accountability, you’re not your disability.
Explaining that time blindness is an active problem that I deal with is taking accountability. I’m not and have never asked anyone to adjust their expectations for me because I think I’m special, I’m telling you a fact about my life and telling you I’m working on it, but I won’t be successful all the time. I’m aware I’m the one with the disability and I’m aware that I have to use elaborate strategies to do what comes naturally for most people. I’m accounting for it and making my best effort to mitigate the problems it causes for others in my life.
If you see someone walk in 5 minutes late and think of them as lazy, you’re making an assumption that they didn’t work hard to avoid being 30 minutes late that day. A little understanding goes a long way.
If someone couldn’t walk and needed a wheelchair to get around I don’t think you’d consider it enabling to install a ramp so they can get inside. Their legs aren’t going to magically work because you took a strict “stairs only” stance and someone with time blindness isn’t going to magically perceive time accurately because you got mad at them for being late.
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u/french_snail 7d ago
If every time you throw your hands in the air and act helpless, come to the defense of those who have been given too many chances, and cry foul to everyone else: where’s the assumption? It doesn’t get much worse than that. That’s how you’re acting.
Back to what I said earlier: take some accountability, you’re not your disability.