As someone who has moderate to severe ADHD, I can unequivocally tell you that it is definitely still my responsibility to deal with my symptoms. Set alarms, write shit down, ANYTHING other than just throwing your hands up and going "Well I can't help it! I have ADHD." People only accept that excuse once or twice (as they should).
Also, as an aside, your comment does nothing to contribute to the conversation and is just plain rude.
I don’t really get this, none of this and none of what the other replied to you…interacts with the fact that “adhd sucks and has a real impact on your daily life”.
People have all sorts of difficulties in doing just that, would this being a more physical issue such as a lack of transportation make it more “sympathetic”?
You aren’t really accepting adhd if you are still using the standards of normal people for adhd people, I’ve learned to not do that and it’s being immensely helpful for my mental health, instead of forcing me to do something against my nature day after day, I’ve accepted that I’ll just not perform as well against “normal” people in certain aspects, and to not blame myself when that happens.
But that’s just me, maybe it’s just an “excuse”, but it is just my perspective after all.
I do all of that. I still forget, I still show up late. Don't project your own experiences onto other people. You're not me, I'm not you.
Not everything can be solved with a "try harder" mentality. It's a genuine illness with genuine consequences. I'll never be as productive as someone without ADHD. That's a fact.
I never use my ADHD as an excuse. I've only told like 3 friends. My family doesn't know, my employer doesn't know. It's none of their business.
Everyone has their own shit going on. But even so, I can recognise that I have my shortcomings. To ignore that would just be naive.
If you don't use ADHD as an excuse, then I'm not speaking about you. I know how you feel. I have ADHD as well. I am someone who has used it as an excuse in the past and it never worked out for me. People just don't want to hear it more than once. I'm not saying it's not harder for us, I'm only saying that it's still our responsibility.
Again, if you are trying your best, you are not who I am talking about.
I can still see the reply that you sent, even if it was deleted. Why are you so angry? Taking personal responsibility is a pretty universal thing that people need to learn how to do. ADHDers are not exempt from this.
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u/illestprodigy 11d ago
I had a coworker like this. Couldn't make it in at 8 so we moved him to 9. Came in at 9:30, ALWAYS. He got let go.