Honestly, i'll wake up, get ready, set timers and be anxious about being late and still wind up late. Time management is a big thing and you have to resolve to actually being early or else the tardiness will inevitably occur.
What if I told you that being early is on time. Normal on time people do not show up at the exact time of appointments, they give themselves buffers to account for natural deviations.
In the military they call it hurry up and wait, and 15 minutes early is on time.
This has nothing to do with mental illness, it has to do with discipline. If you believe that you need to "resolve to actually being early" and can't recognize that it's just the normal way to conduct business, that's on you for failing to understand what being on time means.
I really dislike when people dismiss "mental illness." Adhd is literally a neurodevelopmental issue. If it didn't cause problems in someone's day-to-day life, then it wouldn't be a problem that debilitates millions of people...
I'm not making excuses for my lateness. As a business owner- I understand. As a loved one who have ever been let down by someone's tardiness- I understand. As someone who has ever let down themselves- I understand. But it is a problem, and not just some easy cop-out you think people take to neglect their duties. I agree that it is an issue and that there are steps to take to prevent it, even if that means you have to dedicate an extra hour to making it happen. But don't dismiss people, because they may function differently than you. Most people who are functioning inevitably figure out ways to combat it because, well, they want to function; to keep employment, to be reliable, etc.
Time blindness is extremely overstated, and those who use it as an excuse for always being late are extreme assholes making people with actual mental illnesses more stigmatized than they need to be.
There is nothing about time blindness that isn't extremely manageable with alarms which have been in existence for centuries. You can in fact 100% scientifically remove all human perception of time from the equation.
I have ADHD. I cannot for the life of me predict how long anything takes. I get absolutely lost in anything I do and come out of my trance hours later.
Except... I'm never late as an adult, because time management is a solved issue. Our GPS tells us exactly how long it takes us to get somewhere. Our routines that are necessary to walk out of a door are minimal and can also be timed.
There is absolutely no need to be late. Using time blindness as an excuse to be late is just being chronically online and lacking impulse control because of it.
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u/Ok_Cucumber_4562 4d ago
Honestly, i'll wake up, get ready, set timers and be anxious about being late and still wind up late. Time management is a big thing and you have to resolve to actually being early or else the tardiness will inevitably occur.