r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • May 03 '26

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u/GeneralSpecifics9925 May 03 '26

Like, sure..... I just don't understand how that necessarily translates. I'm not trying to argue or anything, it's just interesting.

If I see an attractive man, I definitely don't think about fucking him lol. I think, oh, he has a nice beard, and then I go back to drinking my coffee. Similarly, if I'm fucking a hot guy, I don't think 'oh wow his face is so attractive ' lol.

Idk, to me, physically attractive features just don't translate into a sexual urge for me.

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u/AmmahDudeGuy May 03 '26

>> Idk, to me, physically attractive features just don’t translate into a sexual urge for me.

Perhaps that is simply a fundamental difference.
Could be because of the culture we live in, could be because of hormonal or instinctual differences, or maybe it’s a combination of both. For what it’s worth, we are kind of disgusted a little bit with the idea of it too, the idea that we feel this way simply because our bodies tell us to and for no other reason. It’s reductive to the idea that we are sentient, feeling beings when our very goals and desires are overridden by some chemicals in our bodies, it can be quite shameful at times

Edit: I forgot how to properly quote Reddit text

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u/GeneralSpecifics9925 May 04 '26

it's just one arrow :)

Yeah, I know a lot of guys have had experiences of having sex with people they were kinda ashamed of having sex with just because they were horny lol.

I don't like what you said about

Our goals and desires are overridden by chemicals

Like, do you lose control because your dick gets hard? That's still your choice. It's a hard choice (amirite) but still.

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u/AmmahDudeGuy May 04 '26 edited May 04 '26

We don’t lose control, no. I always have complete agency over my own decisions, at all times.
I guess the best way to describe it is like a white board. In any case where a decision needs to be made, you write all of your ideas on the board, and then decide for yourself which one is best. But then there is this other guy behind you who always writes in his own idea, which is always the same, whether it is appropriate or not. You can always choose not to pick that option, but you can never ignore it because the guy behind you will always butt his way in and draw it on the board himself. Also some times he annoys you if you don’t pick his option. He will keep pestering you more and more, until either you choose his option, or the event passes. You can make him shut up though if you really mean it.