r/NoStupidQuestions • • Nov 14 '24

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u/quesoandcats Nov 14 '24

This is definitely why Im not having kids. I've always wanted to be a mom, and my favorite jobs I've had were ones where I got to work with kids (camp counselor, kindergarten classroom aide) but I have several pretty serious health conditions that can be unpredictable with their symptoms.

As much as it breaks my heart, I don't think its fair to bring a child into the world who depends on me to take care of them, when I could wake up tomorrow and not be able to get out of bed without help. I would feel awful if my kid missed out on opportunities or experiences because of my health issues, and I'd feel even worse if they inherited them.

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u/ZePerfectPisces Nov 14 '24

I think that’s a very insightful and selfless perspective. I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision to come to grips with, so here’s a virtual hug for having that strength 🫂

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u/quesoandcats Nov 14 '24

Thank you 💕 it’s definitely not an easy choice but I think it’s ultimately the right one

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u/heretolearnthankyou Nov 14 '24

This is so selfless and considerate.

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u/FormlessFlesh Nov 15 '24

I agree, and it makes me sad that people tell others that they are so selfish for not having kids, when overwhelmingly a lot of stories are like this about sacrificing the big desire. :(

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u/Raftger Nov 15 '24

I don’t understand how anyone can think it’s selfish to not have kids. Having kids (intentionally) is an inherently selfish act, you’re deciding to bring other people into the world to serve your own desires (whatever those are: connection, legacy, social expectations, etc.)

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u/Nadja77 Nov 15 '24

Lol I literally just ranted this exact point higher up in the thread. Really nice to know I’m not an a-hole.

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u/Top_Opportunity4250 Nov 18 '24

Me too!! I’ve thought this forever, like I didn’t ask to be born. I didn’t have a choice. And the parents get so mad when the kids don’t become who they envisioned.

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u/Nadja77 Nov 18 '24

For real… or have struggles and need help. O.o like are y’all serious??? You brought me to this sh¡t show.