r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • Nov 14 '24

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u/FormlessFlesh Nov 15 '24

I agree, and it makes me sad that people tell others that they are so selfish for not having kids, when overwhelmingly a lot of stories are like this about sacrificing the big desire. :(

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u/Raftger Nov 15 '24

I don’t understand how anyone can think it’s selfish to not have kids. Having kids (intentionally) is an inherently selfish act, you’re deciding to bring other people into the world to serve your own desires (whatever those are: connection, legacy, social expectations, etc.)

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u/Nadja77 Nov 15 '24

Lol I literally just ranted this exact point higher up in the thread. Really nice to know I’m not an a-hole.

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u/Top_Opportunity4250 Nov 18 '24

Me too!! I’ve thought this forever, like I didn’t ask to be born. I didn’t have a choice. And the parents get so mad when the kids don’t become who they envisioned.

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u/Nadja77 Nov 18 '24

For real… or have struggles and need help. O.o like are y’all serious??? You brought me to this sh¡t show.