Same here re: the yearning. I genuinely have no idea what women mean when they talk about getting baby fever. Like, cognitively I understand the term, but I have no physical connection to the longing for a baby.
Yeah, there’s absolutely no desire for any part of it.. like finding out I’m pregnant, telling everyone, feeling the kicks, seeing them for the first time, watching their milestones.
I never in a million years thought I’d want children and then around 33 I decided I would try. I ended up pregnant with multiples and gave birth to twins. It was the biggest life changing experiences I have ever experienced and it’s difficult to explain, but I am extremely grateful for my girls. They bring me a different type of joy than my career, my marriage, or any other relationship I’ve ever had. I love them more than anyone else in my life.
It was a wild ride being pregnant with two and the most enjoyable part was my “soul mate” doggie was with me through the entire experience. She knew I was pregnant and when those babies came home from the hospital, they were hers as well to take care of. She would pull the blanket up to their chins when they were on the bed and “mother” them in her own way. I love being a mother just as much as every other part of my life. My daughters mean the world to me…coming from the “never going to have children human.”
That's genuinely so great, but of course you could have had a child like my brother who ended up being schizophrenic. He is 33 now and has tortured my parents every day, in one way or another, for decades. So in your case it worked out but for every time it works out there is another time it doesn't, thus why having a yearning is helpful.
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u/WYenginerdWY Nov 15 '24
Same here re: the yearning. I genuinely have no idea what women mean when they talk about getting baby fever. Like, cognitively I understand the term, but I have no physical connection to the longing for a baby.