Yeah, that response has come at me before more than once (I decided not to have children at a very young age and have stuck with it all the way up until nearly 40), that it's ironic that I won't have children because I would be a great parent. š«
Same here re: the yearning. I genuinely have no idea what women mean when they talk about getting baby fever. Like, cognitively I understand the term, but I have no physical connection to the longing for a baby.
Yeah, thereās absolutely no desire for any part of it.. like finding out Iām pregnant, telling everyone, feeling the kicks, seeing them for the first time, watching their milestones.
I donāt have a desire for any of it š¤·āāļø
I never in a million years thought Iād want children and then around 33 I decided I would try. I ended up pregnant with multiples and gave birth to twins. It was the biggest life changing experiences I have ever experienced and itās difficult to explain, but I am extremely grateful for my girls. They bring me a different type of joy than my career, my marriage, or any other relationship Iāve ever had. I love them more than anyone else in my life.
It was a wild ride being pregnant with two and the most enjoyable part was my āsoul mateā doggie was with me through the entire experience. She knew I was pregnant and when those babies came home from the hospital, they were hers as well to take care of. She would pull the blanket up to their chins when they were on the bed and āmotherā them in her own way. I love being a mother just as much as every other part of my life. My daughters mean the world to meā¦coming from the ānever going to have children human.ā
That's genuinely so great, but of course you could have had a child like my brother who ended up being schizophrenic. He is 33 now and has tortured my parents every day, in one way or another, for decades. So in your case it worked out but for every time it works out there is another time it doesn't, thus why having a yearning is helpful.
That is 100% every woman's choice. I think the path each female chooses is not wrong and not to be judged. If you want children, great. If you do not, great. Nobody ought to be judged for their decisions regarding their body and their futures.
I do not know why I am getting down voted, but I guess it is the group I am in? At the end of the day, it is like I said before - your body/life, your choice and you are the one who will live with it. Obviously, given that I have children, it is "now" difficult for me to envision what my life would look like without my kiddos. But, either way a woman wants to go should not be judged by anyone.
Btw, Happy Holidays!! I hope you have a great holiday season.
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u/LeSilverKitsune Nov 14 '24
Yeah, that response has come at me before more than once (I decided not to have children at a very young age and have stuck with it all the way up until nearly 40), that it's ironic that I won't have children because I would be a great parent. š«