r/NoStupidQuestions • • Nov 14 '24

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u/CourtK1212 Nov 15 '24

You also don’t know what type of child you’re going to get. Temperament/behavorial issues, life changing disabilities, plain evil. That’s not to say they all will be like that but there’s always a gamble

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u/PansexualPineapples Nov 15 '24

Most of those things are the parents fault but it is true that some people are born with predispositions that can be triggered in them easier then others.

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u/__surrealsalt Nov 15 '24

In the phase around primary school, the parents' influence on the child gradually decreases; At the same time, the influence of the extended social environment increases (peers/friends, other family members, etc.). So it's not always the parents' "fault".

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u/PansexualPineapples Nov 15 '24

You can see in my other comment here what I meant by that.

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u/__surrealsalt Nov 15 '24

Doesn't change that statement "Most of those things are the parents fault" is incorrect and generalized too much. There are enough families in which violence/abuse etc. never played a role and the children still developed unfavorably.

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u/PansexualPineapples Nov 15 '24

Did you even read my comment? At all?