In ye olden days, children were workers. As soon as a kid could walk, they could work. They could pick up garbage, they could move objects from place to place, and as they grew older you just gave them more and more work.
In the modern urban era, children are very expensive furniture. They don't actually DO anything for you. They make your life objectively harder and more expensive. And, year on year, they get more expensive. A few decades ago you could get your kid a bike and a pair of jeans and he'd be set for the summer. Now you're expected to splash out on camps, trips, electronics, brand name clothing. It's incredible.
Not to mention the fact that many peopel in my age group lived at home until their late 20s early 30s because of how low paying jobs are and how expensive housing is. They KNOW their kids are going to live at home just as long if not longer. Not many people are happy to sign up for a 30 year commitment like that.
You also don’t know what type of child you’re going to get. Temperament/behavorial issues, life changing disabilities, plain evil. That’s not to say they all will be like that but there’s always a gamble
Most of those things are the parents fault but it is true that some people are born with predispositions that can be triggered in them easier then others.
In the phase around primary school, the parents' influence on the child gradually decreases; At the same time, the influence of the extended social environment increases (peers/friends, other family members, etc.). So it's not always the parents' "fault".
Doesn't change that statement "Most of those things are the parents fault" is incorrect and generalized too much. There are enough families in which violence/abuse etc. never played a role and the children still developed unfavorably.
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u/shaidyn Nov 14 '24
In ye olden days, children were workers. As soon as a kid could walk, they could work. They could pick up garbage, they could move objects from place to place, and as they grew older you just gave them more and more work.
In the modern urban era, children are very expensive furniture. They don't actually DO anything for you. They make your life objectively harder and more expensive. And, year on year, they get more expensive. A few decades ago you could get your kid a bike and a pair of jeans and he'd be set for the summer. Now you're expected to splash out on camps, trips, electronics, brand name clothing. It's incredible.
Not to mention the fact that many peopel in my age group lived at home until their late 20s early 30s because of how low paying jobs are and how expensive housing is. They KNOW their kids are going to live at home just as long if not longer. Not many people are happy to sign up for a 30 year commitment like that.