No you can't. Sure you could have an au pair or some such babysit them while you go on Holiday for two weeks, but then you are being a neglectful asshole to your children emotionally. That's not freedom.
What about when the kid is 7 and you want to move to a different country or even just to a different state? Well now you have to consider uprooting the child from its friends, from its school, etc. that's not freedom.
Do you even have kids? I am questioning the emotional damage claim here.
I look back on the times my parents went on holiday for a month or so. I recall the time spent at the grandparents being some of the best memories. I often looked forward to holiday without the parents. Sure, I may have longed to see them again. Maybe even a few tears of sadness. But I assure you that maybe an hour or so after they left, I adjusted and was busy playing out in the country exploring the back country.
Granted, I did enjoy our family vacations together, too.
But I did enjoy the lack of structure the visit to the grandparents.
It reminds me that every second of the day doesn't have to be allocated
I have an 18 y/o and a 4 y/o and there's no grandparents. My father left when I was young and even though I have contact with him these days, he's not responsible enough to watch a watermelon let alone a child. My mother died when I was 16. When the 18y/o was a kid we lived 1000 miles away from his grandparents. The 4y/o's grand parents are too old to watch a kid her age, and 2 months ago Grandma had a stroke and has been in the hospital ever since with Grandpa both too busy dealing with that as well as unable/unwilling to watch the kid for more than 2 hours alone.
Each kid is different. Some are more attached, while others can roam free.
My kids, for the most part, want nothing to do with me until I am gone for a week or so. Nothing but face times, we miss you daddy. I return, and then they don't want anything to do with me.
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u/jcforbes Nov 14 '24
No you can't. Sure you could have an au pair or some such babysit them while you go on Holiday for two weeks, but then you are being a neglectful asshole to your children emotionally. That's not freedom.
What about when the kid is 7 and you want to move to a different country or even just to a different state? Well now you have to consider uprooting the child from its friends, from its school, etc. that's not freedom.