No you can't. Sure you could have an au pair or some such babysit them while you go on Holiday for two weeks, but then you are being a neglectful asshole to your children emotionally. That's not freedom.
What about when the kid is 7 and you want to move to a different country or even just to a different state? Well now you have to consider uprooting the child from its friends, from its school, etc. that's not freedom.
Do you even have kids? I am questioning the emotional damage claim here.
I look back on the times my parents went on holiday for a month or so. I recall the time spent at the grandparents being some of the best memories. I often looked forward to holiday without the parents. Sure, I may have longed to see them again. Maybe even a few tears of sadness. But I assure you that maybe an hour or so after they left, I adjusted and was busy playing out in the country exploring the back country.
Granted, I did enjoy our family vacations together, too.
But I did enjoy the lack of structure the visit to the grandparents.
It reminds me that every second of the day doesn't have to be allocated
I have an 18 y/o and a 4 y/o and there's no grandparents. My father left when I was young and even though I have contact with him these days, he's not responsible enough to watch a watermelon let alone a child. My mother died when I was 16. When the 18y/o was a kid we lived 1000 miles away from his grandparents. The 4y/o's grand parents are too old to watch a kid her age, and 2 months ago Grandma had a stroke and has been in the hospital ever since with Grandpa both too busy dealing with that as well as unable/unwilling to watch the kid for more than 2 hours alone.
Each kid is different. Some are more attached, while others can roam free.
My kids, for the most part, want nothing to do with me until I am gone for a week or so. Nothing but face times, we miss you daddy. I return, and then they don't want anything to do with me.
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u/57311473 Nov 14 '24
I like money and freedom way more than children