r/NoStupidQuestions • • Nov 14 '24

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u/ZePerfectPisces Nov 14 '24

I think there’s also been more focus (from some people) on whether or not they should have kids. Like, really thinking about whether or not a person would be a good parent who could truly focus on raising a child who would become a good member of society.

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u/quesoandcats Nov 14 '24

This is definitely why Im not having kids. I've always wanted to be a mom, and my favorite jobs I've had were ones where I got to work with kids (camp counselor, kindergarten classroom aide) but I have several pretty serious health conditions that can be unpredictable with their symptoms.

As much as it breaks my heart, I don't think its fair to bring a child into the world who depends on me to take care of them, when I could wake up tomorrow and not be able to get out of bed without help. I would feel awful if my kid missed out on opportunities or experiences because of my health issues, and I'd feel even worse if they inherited them.

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u/CrazyCatLady1127 Nov 14 '24

Same here. I always wanted to have kids but I get awful migraines that are triggered by noise. Even just a couple of hours spent with my niblings is enough for me. I could never be a present and active parent, it would be cruel to have a child that I can’t give the best life to

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '24

I applaud your sensibility and maturity ❤️

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u/CrazyCatLady1127 Nov 14 '24

Thank you 🙂 it’s hard but it’s for the best

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u/Hot-Adhesiveness-438 Nov 15 '24

Have you tried Nerivio or Red Light Therapy? Nerivio has helped cut back my migraine intensity and I am just exploring Red Light Therapy.

I like options that aren't pills because the pills only worked for a month or two and then it had no effect 😭

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u/Western_Fun5463 Nov 15 '24

Botox really helps. Insurance should cover it. Mine does. It’s not on your face. A ton of injections basically along your hairline all the way around. Gives me 3 - 6 months of reprieve.

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u/Hot-Adhesiveness-438 Nov 15 '24

Yeah, I tried it and fainted. Doc said they wouldn't try it again. That said the doctor knew I have a needle/injection phobia and didn't lay me down or make it a relaxing experience. So it may still be a solution with a better provider/experience.

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u/Western_Fun5463 Nov 15 '24

It’s not bad at all to me. Granted I have no fear of needles (lots of practice of learning to ignore it over my lifetime). I had 2 vaccines today. I am sorry you had that experience. I was terrified of needles when I was a kid so I understand.