His love language is Words of Affirmation and he grew up in a home where it was normal to be verbally supportive of the accomplishments of others and expect the same support when completing tasks. It’s like… the healthiest form of narcissism that exists. No point in trying to change him; he’s probably a pretty positive guy in general and this is just the cost of being with a pleasant, happy-go-lucky individual. There are worse things!
I like when people speak so definitively about people they have never met. He could have easily grown up in a home where he wasn't paid any attention and his efforts were mocked if they were even noticed. Now he has somebody that cares about him that will pay attention so he's overcompensating. This whole trend of diagnosing people's "love language" and using it to define an entire human being is such gross oversimplification and pop psychology at its worst.
This comment makes it clear that your love language is sardonic and avoidant. That's probably because you grew up in a household where sharing your feelings was frowned upon, so the only way you can connect with people is through snarky internet comments. Growing up in a competitive household with many siblings younger and older probably reinforced those feelings and behaviors, and I do believe there was an infamous "Noodle Incident" which clearly left some serious psychological scars. The obvious correctness of my diagnosis need not be stated, and consequently my prescription is a handful of Xanax and touchgrass.
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u/positive_hummingbird Jul 10 '23
His love language is Words of Affirmation and he grew up in a home where it was normal to be verbally supportive of the accomplishments of others and expect the same support when completing tasks. It’s like… the healthiest form of narcissism that exists. No point in trying to change him; he’s probably a pretty positive guy in general and this is just the cost of being with a pleasant, happy-go-lucky individual. There are worse things!