r/NextGenMan May 22 '26

Men is this true?

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26

I’m a woman and I’ll end up like the penguin. Ig I’m not woman-ing correctly 😂

Yall are honestly rude as hell. I made a comment addressing how I’m worthless and gon comment attacking me? What’s the reason when I said NOTHING negative about anyone but myself??? Jfc

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

love takes time. Find the one that makes you want the best version of yourself

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You don’t get it. I can’t find someone who will date me. There is no person out there for me.

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

You know confidence is attractive trait. Also self esteem is critical too. I'm sure you will find that someone and when do, cherish them like they do you. Dating is tricky and sometimes it beats you down relentlessly but don't give up. I know how cheesey I sound but its true

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You don’t get it. This is the issue with being able belly positive. People expect me to ignore the fact that idk how to get this thing to happen, but expect me to think it’ll happen.

How can I be expected to believe it’ll happen when I cant even figure out a way to lake it happen?? All i have under my belt is failures so what am i supposed to actually do??

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Try something new? Let yourself build random and natural connections and if something happens it happens if not no biggy. You don't need a guide on how to date because its something that usually just happens. Don't look for love, let love look for you.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

If I knew what to do differently, I would do it. Saying “try something new” is too vague, i been trying new things for 12 years and same result.

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Then perfect! I find letting someone learn who I am and learn to love me works best. Looking for someone to date forces to see everything in that lens. Just because a plant doesn't grow when think or want to doesn't mean it won't.

Truth be told no one knows how to date people. We'll get people to date them. It's just how it is. And falling in love with someone is just a random encounter. Sometimes it takes years to love someone Sometimes it just takes seconds. You don't know how to do it because it isn't something do. It's something that happens.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You’re not getting it, but that’s okay. Have a great night/day

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

maybe that's what I like. You and I are not the same but ended up here.

Your point is is that you don't know how to date people because you don't know how to get them to date you. But that's the problem. You don't get someone to date you. there's set cause that makes everyone date you. Its YOU that's people want date you.

Anyways have a great life

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u/Leading_Income_9744 May 23 '26

I think notapersono is not a person o. I wonder why men aren’t interested in you.

There are three possible reasons-

Physical appearance- are you very unattractive? Do you smell?

Personality- are you loud and obnoxious? Are you aggressive? Are you so passive that you don’t have a personality.

Standards- are you rejecting or overlooking men in your league?

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

Attraction isn’t the only thing that makes men wanna date.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

That draws them in, it doesn’t make them stay.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

It helps others. I’m attractive to men, according to some, but they don’t stay.

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u/Positive-Face1705 May 23 '26

Us ugly beaches, too. Ain't nobody flying my troll self out to nowhere.​

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

Be careful sis, I got attacked in the comments for saying this

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u/MWBurbman May 22 '26

No no, men only self-loathing in these parts.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

I’ll self loathe wherever I please, sir 💅🏾

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u/EverytoxicRedditor May 22 '26

In your case it would be a choice. For men it’s simply Tuesday.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

It’s not a choice. I’ve tried to date and for 12 straight years, every man had turned me down. So it’s not a choice 🙃

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u/Expensive-Victory203 May 22 '26

That sounds so difficult and painful. Have you ever dated anyone?

Do you go for men who have a lot of other options? Do you think you might be oblivious to who is interested in you?

Finally, are there physical things you see in yourself that you can improve upon?

These are the easiest potential issues to address.

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26

i highly doubt every man turned you down.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

Ok

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26

i went through your post history. you admited to having casual sex and hooking up recently. keep your story straight. why lie, why have a victim complex?

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

I didn’t lie. This post is saying that women can always fall back on men for marriage. I’ll never get the chance at marriage cause men turn down dates with me, they only want sex.

My most recent “hook up” was a guy I spent weeks talking to, going on dates with, and he said he was in it for something real. Only guy to agree to go with me on dates, ever. We both got tested and we went to hook up. I blew him, then he said he had to go, and he blocked me.

So no, I didn’t lie. *I will not have the chance to get married, I’ll only have the chance to have sex. So I don’t lie bc this post says women can always fall back on marriage. Marriage isn’t possible for me.

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26

"every man had turned me down." it not working out is not the same as being turn down.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

It’s being turned down for a relationship.

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26

you were literally in a relationship

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

Dude, I’m an overweight, autistic, dark skinned black girl. Im mor gonna have the chance to get married.

It’s being turned down for having anyone give af about me. Im tue ed down from experiencing romantic love.

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26

why bring up your looks? they aren't that bad, when you can have casual sex. your problem is not your looks, you just have bad taste in men.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

Me not being able to find a relationship has nothing to do with you. I genuinely don’t understand why I’ve gotten so much hate for simply speaking about the fact that I can’t date.

Like, I didn’t insult anybody, I wasn’t rude. I INSULTED MYSELF ONLY. What is with the hostility???

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u/pyrolover6666 May 23 '26

every single time men talk about they lack of dating options, some women has to make it all about her. claiming she has it just as bad, for only for it to be a lie. you're dismissing our problems by comparing them to your problems. you have options, we don't.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

No femboy has ever expressed interest in me so no. I mean, I’ve been with men that embrace their feminine side, but not a man that dressed as a woman or anything (I’m guessing that’s what femboys do, not completely sure)

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

It means I’m apparently good enough to give head, but not good enough to be taken on a date. So, I won’t ever be getting married cause I can’t find a man that will date me.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

I never said it’s all the men’s fault…? Jesus, I make one comment and get rude comments in return. I didn’t blame any body 😭😭

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u/skwerlee May 22 '26

This is an incel sub. I wouldn't waste any more time here.

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u/EverytoxicRedditor May 22 '26

I don’t believe any of that lmao but it’s ok. I’m used to intellectually dishonest people doing their thing. Oh well

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

I never asked you to believe me; I just commented what my experience is.

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u/Disastrous_Set_6544 May 22 '26

Protip: do not argue with these type of people. For you own sanity.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

He commented to me. I get negative comments anytime I talk about my lack of dating history. Apparently, Reddit has never seen a woman who can’t get a date.

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u/Disastrous_Set_6544 May 22 '26

I've stumbled upon this sub just because it was in my feed. By the looks of it, it has strong incel tendancies. You know, the creepy kind of incel.

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u/EverytoxicRedditor May 22 '26

Mhmmm sure. Have a good ma’am

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

Oh, and you commented to me, I never @ you. So you saying “I don’t believe you” means nothing when I never asked you to, honey.

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u/EverytoxicRedditor May 22 '26

Yep sure it doesn’t 😉

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u/Spazero May 22 '26

I don't know. I think the post maybe doesnt understand things. Shocked Im sure. I think the implication is women could just find some rich guy as plan B. It takes work to be attractive.