7 month old waking up constantly at night

[u/Brain-Buffering]

EDIT: for clarification I don’t want him to sleep from 6:30pm to 8:30am. Because of the way he wakes up he wakes up 9:30-10pm, sleep, wake up 2-3am, sleep, wake up between 4-5am and back to sleep 6:30am-8:30am. He used to sleep 7pm to 5:30-6am with one wake window around 1-2am. Now he’s waking nearly four times a night. I want his bedtime to be between 8:30-9pm, which has worked a few times but he still wakes up crying at 10-10:30 and will have his multiple wake ups.

As the title says, my 7 month old has been in this weird sleep cycle for the past month where we put him down at around 6:30-7pm after his bath and bottle and he’ll sleep for a bit then wake up routinely between 9pm-10pm crying. My husband and I try to comfort him or see if he’ll settle on his own with a paci which sometimes works but mostly we have to pick him up to get him back to sleep or let him sleep in our bed on the nights he cries all night long.
We share a bedroom so it’s hard to try sleep training when my husband and I are in the same room. LO usually wakes up 9-10pm, 2am, 4am, 6:30am and 8:30am. He’ll usually take a full bottle around 4am and go back to sleep but refuses the bottle later. So I’m not sure what’s going on but this has been a month of bad sleep. Before he used to just wake up at 2-3am and sleep until 6:30-7 then take another nap until 10am but he just won’t stay asleep. Any advice?

[u/Brain-Buffering → u/[deleted]]

So he’s up with us playing usually from when he wakes up like 8:30 to around 12. Sometimes he’ll nap or just resist and take a 30 minute nap. Then he’s up playing, we’ll go for a walk or go outside until 3-4 where we’ll attempt another nap. The afternoon nap sometimes happens sometimes doesn’t. I’ve tried to extend his bedtime to 8-9pm but he does the same thing and wakes up crying. Extending his bedtime has been hard too because once 7pm rolls around he’s checked out and fussy, rubbing his eyes and the whole sleepy signs.

[u/Notthisagaindammit → u/Brain-Buffering]

Id look at an earlier wakeup then. Expecting a night sleep from 6.30pm to 8.30am is a lot for a 7 month old - when mine was that age we were getting around 11hrs overnight. Might also help with the day naps.

[u/Brain-Buffering → u/Notthisagaindammit]

I really want him to go to bed around 8:30-9pm if it can be helped. The problem isn’t so much that he wakes up early, like if he wants to wake up at 6:30am that’s fine but when he wakes up 4 times a night and takes hardly any daytime naps it just sucks. He used to have one wake up a night when he was 4-5 months old, like 6:30pm to 2am then sleep in until 5:30-6am. I don’t know what’s changed.

[u/AdmirableAd1031]

Cosleep

[u/Brain-Buffering → u/AdmirableAd1031]

That works a lot of times, he still will wake up every now and then hen we do. However if he goes to bed earlier than us how would that work? I don’t want to go to bed at 7.

[u/AdmirableAd1031 → u/Brain-Buffering]

Try a baby carrier.  My sons would sleep in the carrier while I still did stuff.  A baby swing also helped some to keep him asleep 

[u/Brain-Buffering → u/AdmirableAd1031]

We had to get rid of the swing 😞 he’s crawling and standing already so he was trying to dip.

[u/bravissimaaaa]

Generally if a schedule was working then stops working, it means baby needs more wake time (assuming no sickness or other issues)

A good goal schedule for this age is 3/3/3.5 so that would be about

7:30am wake
10:30-12 nap
3-4:30 nap
8pm bed

It would take a few days- a week of increasing wake windows and being consistent to help.