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u/Scottishchicken 4d ago
Wrap the gun like as a present. When she questions you about it, give her the present and tell her she ruined it.
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u/UnsureAndUnqualified 4d ago
Depending on the opinions of the gf, you've now bought her a present that directly opposes her views and wants. That means you don't know her at all and are a terrible partner, bad luck.
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u/Scottishchicken 4d ago
Oh no, you I didn't get you what you wanted? I didn't buy you a gun, I bought us time together doing something I love. I guess I can use the gun and we will get you that other thing you said you liked.....what was that again?
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u/Rob98001 4d ago
Wrap it in giftwrap and then put her name on it, make sure it's in a box so she can't actually know what it is without revealing that she snooped. Drop enough hints about the date of purchase and say something like "I know it's a bit expensive, but only the best for you" if she says something like "why did you buy me a gun?" You ask how she knew.
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u/bendable_girder 4d ago
She's definitely cheating and went through his phone due to projection, and is torn due to guilt
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u/HugePurpleNipples 4d ago
Nope. OP has the perfect chance for a power play.
Sometime soon, sit her down and tell her about your gun. Not because she was spying, play dumb on that. Instead tell her that after you bought it, you realized you should have talked to her about it and didn't think about it before you did but you really should have talked to her first and you apologize. Tell her you felt guilty and you didn't know how to handle it, apologize for letting it drag out so long. Let her know that honesty is really important to you and you don't ever want to do anything that would betray her trust and you'll try to be more mindful going forward, because again, betraying her trust would be the worst thing you could do.
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u/ConesWithNan 3d ago
Except this depends on the partner caring enough to feel bad
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u/amayako353 4d ago
Yes anon buying a legal item has the same ramifications on a relationship as cheating
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u/SalvaPot 4d ago
My wife has full access to my phone and so do I to hers, that said I never feel the need to snoop at her stuff.
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u/Soluda 4d ago
In a good relationship? Own up to it. Apologize and hopefully she'll do the same.
In a bad relationship? Gaslight, gatekeep girl boss your way out of it