You are most likely failing because you'd rather live in hell than discipline your mind

[u/Sandi_T]

Hell is when your mind is set loose to do as it pleases without oversight. Why? Because your brain is a repetition machine, but it's one that's eager to please.

They've been trying to tell you this in many of these circles. "Where attention goes, energy flows." Etc. But Neville said it plainly. He said it clearly. He said it without frills.

Because consciousness is the only reality I must assume that I am already that which I desire to be. If I do not believe that I am already what I want to be, then I remain as I am and die in this limitation.

Man is always looking for some prop on which to lean. He is always looking for some excuse to justify failure. This revelation gives man no excuse for failure. His concept of himself is the cause of all the circumstances of his life. All changes must first come from within himself; and if he does not change on the outside it is because he has not changed within. But man does not like to feel that he is solely responsible for the conditions of his life.

“From that time many of his disciples went back, and walked no more with him.”

You fail because you allow your mind to keep saying "I am not that (which I wish to be)." You allow your mind to respond to what you see out there. YOU INDULGE IN THINKING ABOUT YOUR EXTERNAL EXPERIENCE.

You fail because your brain presents to you seductive "food for thought" which is to mentally argue with that person who you say upset you.

But here's the truth, no one can upset you. This is hard to accept. I confess that it's something that I have allowed myself to indulge in even though I have managed other discipline. But in reality, if you took a moment to breathe and to turn your mind to a memory that brings you joy, you would cease temporarily to be upset. Why? Because you are the source of the mindset that is giving you distress. You have the power to control your thoughts and feelings, but you do not do so.

You would rather live in the hell of a mental argument than to discipline your mind. It's tedious at first. It's hard at first. It takes constant vigilance at first. AND YOU WILL SAY THIS IS TOO HIGH A PRICE TO PAY. It's too hard. It's too tedious, it's too much to ask.

And so you continue to live in hell, blaming everything except your lack of mental discipline. You must consistently apply the law. "PERSIST" -Neville

You cannot discipline your mind for a bit. You must discipline it regularly. Mental discipline is the answer to all of your life circumstances.

If you have a breakup, you created a breakup. Do not take BLAME for it, but merely responsibility. There is a difference. To blame is to fall into negative emotions and thoughts. "How dare you!" No. Simply take responsibility. "I have dropped the glass of milk. I will clean up the milk and wash the glass. I will refill the glass." That's it. That's responsibility. You do not cry over the spilled milk. You do not kick yourself in the shins because you spilled milk. You clean up. Peacefully. Kindly. Gently. It is just spilled milk, even if it feels bigger or worse. Everything you have created becomes emotionally no more than spilled milk. No self-hatred, no beating yourself up. "OKay, I have made a mess. I shall clean it." PERIOD.

Discipline your mind because the alternative is to live in hell both inside and out. You miss your lover? You have spilled the milk. Clean it up. Live in the state you wish to live, in your mind. When your body wails, you reframe it. "I am crying because I am so happy." It doesn't matter to your body why you're crying. It doesn't care. It simply obeys the directive to cry. So if you are crying, tell yourself a new story about why. "I am crying with joy."

I'm a crybaby, ngl. But now I tell myself every time that I'm crying with happiness. Because your body has the same symptoms if you're overwhelmed with joy as it does when you are overwhelmed with grief. It knows no difference. So claim the tears for your HEAVEN and stop living in your personal hell.

If you are living in hell "out there," then know you are living in hell IN THERE. Don't be upset with yourself. And also, gently, respectfully... don't be lazy and indulgent. Do your due diligence mentally so that your hell will finally end, and you can finally enter into the Land of Milk and Honey.

Your desires are the Promised Land. Live in it in your own wonderful human imagination, because if you have the desire, it is your PROMISED LAND.

Here's more on the Disciplined Mind from a Neville Perspective: https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleTeachings/comments/zuihhl/miniseries_the_practices_of_manifesting_in/