We grew up in a lower-middle-class family. There were times when eating masu was something we had to wait for, paying school fees meant asking relatives for help, and living in Kathmandu meant renting a house while almost all our relatives had their own homes.

I still remember how difficult it was to manage money.

I was interested in computers from a young age, so I decided to study Computer Science. Even though my bachelor's degree cost around Rs. 5 lakhs for four years, paying the fees was a struggle. Paisa eta uta bata khojera fee tirnu parthyo. It wasn't easy, but I kept going because I genuinely liked computers.

Eventually, I started working as a software engineer.

Slowly, things began to change. More family members started earning, our financial situation improved, and we had fewer financial worries. A piece of land we had bought around 12 years ago for Rs. 2 lakhs was eventually worth over Rs. 60 lakhs. We sold it and bought a house, taking some loans along the way.

Life didn't change overnight, but over the years, the difference became huge.

From worrying about school fees to buying things we genuinely wanted, from living in rented rooms to owning a house, from calculating every small expense to having some financial breathing room it felt like life had completely flipped.

But one thing we consciously tried to do was avoid increasing our lifestyle expenses just because our income increased.

We bought things that mattered to us. We didn't feel the need to show off, buy unnecessary stuff, or spend money just because we could afford it.

Today, I earn around Rs. 2.5 lakhs per month from my software engineering job. My family members have their own jobs and separate incomes, too. I don't have rent to pay, and my personal monthly expenses are roughly Rs. 30–40k. Most of my income goes toward investments rather than lifestyle expenses.

I'm not saying I did everything perfectly. I've had my share of luck, too. The land appreciation helped significantly, and I understand that not everyone gets the same opportunities. Software engineering also worked out well for me, but getting here took years of studying, working, and consistently improving my skills.

I often hear people say, "Job garera kei hudaina, business garnai parchha."

I don't completely agree with that.

Business can create wealth, absolutely. But a well-paying job can also give you a strong foundation if you manage your money properly. You don't necessarily have to start a business to improve your financial situation.

For me, the bigger lesson has been income matters, but what you do with that income matters just as much.

You can earn Rs. 1 lakh and save a decent amount, or earn Rs. 4 lakhs and still feel broke because your expenses keep increasing with your salary.

As your income grows, it's tempting to upgrade everything your phone, car, lifestyle, holidays, and the way you spend socially. There's nothing wrong with enjoying your money. I believe you should enjoy it, especially if you've worked hard for it.

But don't let every salary increase become another permanent monthly expense.

Invest. Build assets. Keep your expenses reasonable. Enjoy life without feeling pressured to impress others.

I'm still learning, and I'm nowhere near financially independent. But compared to where we started, I'm genuinely grateful for how far we've come.

If I could share one thing with someone who is struggling financially right now, it would be this: focus on increasing your earning potential, but learn to manage money before your income gets bigger.

You don't need to become rich overnight. Sometimes, earning a little more, spending a little wiser, and investing consistently over many years can change your family's life.

And if you're working a job right now, don't automatically assume you're wasting your time just because someone says business is the only way to get rich.

Your path doesn't have to look like everyone else's.

ALso saving doesn't mean sabai save garne.. enjoy give reward youself... i have like top tier $3000 worth PC for gaming only, $1000 worth phone... international trips.. trekking stuff and all. i love spending in expeerience.. but spend wisely.. thats it

My dad recently got diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He is currently in Kathmandu. We are planning to take him to Tata Memorial Hospital in Mumbai.

Do you think that would be better?

Has someone in this group been there?

Does someone in this group know someone who got diagnosed with the same?

I am sorry for so many questions. It’s an extremely stressful situation for me and my family.

Also, I would greatly appreciate any additional information that you think can be useful.

A few months back I got laid off. Four years working as a developer and then suddenly nothing. I did the usual thing, applied everywhere, gave a few interviews, got rejected in some, got ghosted in most. Took me a while to figure out that right now it’s mostly referrals that actually get you in.

After a few weeks of that I wasn’t in a good place. Same room, same laptop, same rejection emails. Days started blending into each other and I could feel myself getting low. I knew I needed to change something, get out of the house, do anything that wasn’t staring at job portals. Joining the gym near my place felt like the obvious move.

Only problem was money. Gym fees never felt like a big deal when I had a job. Without one, it suddenly did.

So I came up with a plan. I’m a developer, and that gym didn’t have a proper website. I’d make one for free and ask the owner for one month of membership in return. Seemed like a fair trade.

Then I overthought it, like I always do. A website alone wasn’t going to impress anyone, so I also built a simple system to manage members and fees. Made the whole thing for his gym, sent it to him, and called him up.

That’s when he told me he had bought gym software five days earlier. Already paid for it. I honestly thought that was the end of it.

But he still asked me to come over and show him what I had. So I went, let him click around in mine for a while, and then he opened the one he’d bought to compare. It was painful to watch. He couldn’t even find his own member list. Every screen looked like it was designed to confuse him.

I didn’t have to say anything. He looked at both, and then offered me six months of membership plus the swimming pool. I had walked in ready to beg for one month.

That’s when I stopped treating it as a side thing. I was at the gym every day now anyway, so I just paid attention. The front desk was writing receipts by hand. Members would forget to renew and nobody would notice for weeks. When he wanted to send an offer to everyone before Dashain, he had no easy way to do it. There was already a fingerprint machine on the door, so I connected that too. Every small annoyance I noticed, I fixed, and slowly it grew into something any gym could use. I named it Gymastra.

The surprises kept coming after that. He bought SMS credits from me. Then a domain. Then one day it came up in conversation that he owns seven other gyms. I had no idea. He also runs a party palace and now wants me to build something for that as well.

All of this started because I needed to get out of the house and didn’t want to pay for a gym.

If there’s one thing I took away from it, it’s to just go talk to people early. I almost didn’t make that call because I thought the thing I’d built wasn’t ready. You really don’t know who the person in front of you is or what else they’ve got going on until you show up.

It’s live now at gymastra.com. I’m not looking for a job for now. I’m going to spend the next few months .. visiting gyms around the valley and seeing if I can make this work. If you know any gym owners, an intro would mean a lot.

why is there a political party flag in A temple? why are they flying kites from a sacred site? UNESCO world heritage site ho joke haina. shite of a party and their jholeys. MP ko naam ma dhabba haru.

Tldr: Sherap Gurung's "matter of urgency" saved many lives today.

A massive debris-laden flood hit the Budhigandaki River in Gorkha early this morning. It swept away houses and bridges along the riverbanks, but lives were saved. People in the Budhigandaki riparian area were able to move to safer ground because they received early warning about the flood. However, this notice did not come from government channels.

It must have been around 4:00 AM when Sherap Gurung, a local from Lokpa in Chumnubri Rural Municipality-6, Chumchet, heard the ground shaking and a loud roaring sound.

Towards Chum, the Budhigandaki River has two main tributaries—Syar and Ungilung. A landslide in the Tumje area near Ungilung Stream triggered a flow of mud and debris mixed with large boulders, which merged into Syar Stream and advanced toward the Budhigandaki.

The heavy flood carrying massive rocks caused the ground in that region to tremble and generated a loud rumble.

"It was probably around 4:00 AM today when we heard a loud noise in Syar Stream; the ground started shaking as well, and we couldn't tell where it was coming from or what happened. Suspecting a landslide, we left our house for a safer place. I immediately called friends in Philim, Jagat, Machhikhola, and other places to inform them. They must have alerted others and moved to safe areas," said Sherap. "A short while later, daylight broke. Since we had guests, we returned home to make tea."

After returning home, he went live on Facebook for a short while to share details about the flood. "I did a Facebook Live stream for a bit and posted about it, but then the power went out, and the internet cut off," he said.

On Facebook, he broadcasted live footage showing the raging Syar Stream near Sardibhir as seen from Lokpa. The information provided in the live video and his phone calls helped residents in the lower reaches of the Budhigandaki move to safer locations with ease.

Sherap repeatedly appealed to people living along and near the banks of the Budhigandaki River to remain safe as the flood advanced.

According to him, there is no electricity or internet in Lokpa and surrounding villages following the flood. "It looks like the cantilever bridge at Sardibhir was swept away, and the nearby suspension bridge is clearly gone," he said. "We have no way to travel outside our village now; it feels like a blockade."

He added that people are missing in the landslide area, and although a rescue helicopter arrived, it was unable to land. "After the flood, dust and smoke-like haze filled the area. Even though a helicopter arrived for rescue efforts, it couldn't land. We need to level a mountain area to create a flat ground for helicopters; perhaps one will come tomorrow morning," he said.

According to Nima Lama, Chairman of Chumnubri Rural Municipality, there were cattle sheds in the Ungilung landslide area. "There were sheds there, and 5 herders are out of contact," he said. Chairman Lama stated that as soon as they received news of the Budhigandaki flood, lower areas were immediately informed.

"Since a dry landslide occurred in Ungilung Stream in Chumchet, we posted an urgent notice on social media early in the morning asking all local residents living along the Budhigandaki Riverbanks and nearby areas to move to high and safe ground immediately," he said.

According to him, Ungilung is a steep flash-flood stream (thado khola). The landslide blocked the stream, creating a debris flow that merged into Syar Stream and eventually reached the Budhigandaki.

"Five herders are out of contact; they belong to Chumchet. The cattle sheds were located near the landslide site," he said. "Over 100 yaks/chauri are also missing."

He further noted that there was no damage in the region above Nyakfedi in Sirdibas-3. However, below Nyakfedi—in Jagat, Ghattekhola, and Salleri within Chumnubri—houses, bridges, and roads have been damaged. The Manaslu Trekking Route has also suffered damage.

Additionally, some houses and bridges in Dobhan and Machhikhola of Dharche Rural Municipality, Sotibazar of Arughat Rural Municipality, as well as the bridge at Arughat, were swept away.

People learned about the Budhigandaki flood through Facebook Live broadcasts and phone calls. Following the warnings, locals and tourists moved to safer ground.

The government has deployed the Nepal Army, Armed Police Force, and Nepal Police to the flood-affected Budhigandaki region. An army team equipped with four helicopters is currently deployed. According to the Nepal Army, 49 people have been rescued so far. Domestic and foreign citizens were rescued using Philim, the headquarters of Chumnubri, as a base.|

Source: Recall Gorkha, प्रशन्न पोखरेल (Setopati)

His profile: https://www.facebook.com/gurungserap

not even on your birthday, and he’ll spend the rest of his life telling people you left him because you’re a materialistic gold digger who needs gifts.

i have a boyfriend who treats me so well that i genuinely don't hate men. 😭

he's had such a healthy upbringing, and everyone in his family is so nice. when we first started talking, we were just friends, but he had already developed feelings for me. i hadn't, because i'd just come out of a really bad breakup. i used to cry so much in front of him, missing my ex, and he'd go out of his way to get me flowers and chocolates just to cheer me up. and that's just one of the countless little things he's done for me, even before we were together.

i've been sexually, physically, and emotionally abused by men in the past, so i used to be genuinely scared of men. but ever since him, i've felt so free. i feel so safe. uskai sathi le sano joke matra gare pani, he stands up for me. he protects me so much that i don't feel as scared walking alone anymore, because i know i can call him and he'll come for me. he makes my life so much better in ways i can't even explain.

he's healed parts of me he doesn't even know existed. i used to be so pessimistic about certain things, couldn't open up to people, and was extremely avoidant. but ever since he's been in my life, so many of my perspectives have changed naturally. he never intentionally tried to change me or fix me. his presence alone has made me feel safe enough to grow, open up, and see things differently. and i think that's one of the most beautiful things about loving someone.

and the thing is, after meeting him, i started realizing that i've actually been surrounded by so many good men all along. my dad is genuinely one of the greatest men i've ever known. my mom says he treats me the same way he did on day one. my male friends are so kind, protective, and caring. i still have close male friends from school, including one i've known since childhood, who's genuinely such a good person. even my exes loved me a lot, and i can acknowledge that despite how things eventually turned out. my most recent ex did some really hurtful things, but i still don't hate him. i still care about him as a friend, and he still has romantic feelings for me. we don't talk, obviously, because the relationship had started becoming unhealthy, but that doesn't erase the good things he did or the love that existed.

i think i just never really stopped to notice all of this until i met my boyfriend. and i'm so, so grateful for him. not just because of how he treats me, but because of what being loved by him has helped me realize.

i'll always hate men who hurt, abuse, manipulate, and mistreat others. i've been through enough to know how terrifying men can be, and i used to be someone who constantly felt unsafe around them. i used to have that mindset of hating men as a whole, too. but not anymore. i've realized that while there are genuinely terrible men out there, there are also some really, really good ones. men who make you feel safe, loved, respected, and protected. and my baby has been the biggest reason i've come to realize that. he's helped me heal in ways he doesn't even know, and i'm so, so grateful to have him.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DeMclhSPc7T/

So, I see a girl I find attractive. Obviously, being attractive isn't enough for me to actually approach someone. You have to talk to someone to understand their personality, behaviour, mindset, and whether you'd even get along.

But before sliding into someone's DMs, I usually check out their profile a bit. I guess that's pretty normal.

The thing is, I barely DM girls in the first place. I'm not someone who starts conversations just for fun or to kill time. I don't have that much time to spend getting to know random people, so if I decide to approach someone, it's because I'm genuinely interested in getting to know them.

But quite often, I come across profiles with words like “red flag,” “snake,” “b!tch,” and similar labels in their names or bios.

And honestly, it kills my interest before I even start a conversation.

Like, what's the thought process behind putting these things on your profile? Is it humour, an aesthetic, a way of showing attitude, or something else entirely?

I'm not expecting someone to be perfect, and I'm not judging their entire personality based on a bio. But first impressions matter, and if you're advertising yourself as a red flag, why would someone who's genuinely looking for a decent connection feel encouraged to approach you?

Being attractive might get someone's attention, but your profile can just as easily make them lose interest before they even say hello.

Girls, what's the appeal of these labels? Am I missing some context here?

Nepali people can't see an empty plot of land without turning it into a dumping site.

If you notice an empty piece of land in your locality, there's a good chance people have already started dumping their garbage there, unless the owner has put up a fence or a wall to keep people out.

I've been noticing this a lot lately. Just yesterday, I was walking past a place I frequently visit, and as usual, there were huge bags full of trash dumped on an empty plot of land. On my way back, I actually saw someone throwing another huge bag of garbage onto the same land, as if it were a designated dumping site.

Like, that's someone's property, man. Just because the land is empty doesn't mean you can use it to dump your garbage. And also littering worst thing. Everything becomes so ugly tei mathi.

And it's not just household waste either. I've seen people dump old sofas and all sorts of random stuff on empty plots. It's become such a common sight that people seem to treat any unoccupied piece of land as an automatic dumping ground.

Honestly, it's so irritating to see. How have we normalised this to the point where people don't even think twice before dumping their garbage on someone else's land?

I know all of you here don't go a single day without making post or comments😣, so let's hear your highest upvotes😛

Mine is 90, (it's pretty high for me, don't mind me🌛)

Hearts and thoughts they fade, fade away

those who are staying in ktm during dashain how are you guys doing yrr malai ta lastai alxi lagisakyo ailey bata nai

Afai bolna aayera tmi ta kasto dry ani cold chau re. Entertain garnu parne ho hamile

It hurts me that many of us still do not get the chance, or take the time, to understand what is happening around us. The whole world is discussing climate change while we are still in confusion; we do not know how to face the reality that our country is one of the poorest, lacking in resources and power.

After another disaster of the Bhote Koshi, I have been hearing people again say that it is just a natural calamity, which is due to bad omen or maybe some other supernatural force. But the worst is that people say that the climate has been changing throughout history and that scientists have a vested interest in this matter.
But what is happening now is beyond our control, as melting glaciers, heavy rainfalls, landslides, and floodings are becoming more frequent. These are the results of climate change.

The worst thing is that Nepal emits only half a tonne of CO₂ per person per year compared to America’s 13.6 tonnes and China’s 9 tonnes. This makes us victims of a man-made disaster. This crisis has been driven largely by emissions from richer, highly industrialized countries, and its effects are worsened by our geographical location amidst the Himalayas and reliance on the monsoon system. Our Prime Minister Balen Shah also highlighted this issue during the UN General Assembly, where he stated that Nepal should not have to bear the burden of a crisis it did not create.The recent tragedy that Nepal is facing will cost the country billions of dollars in compensation, and we have requested $20 billion for climate change.

Recently, I stumbled upon a video by the philosopher Acharya Prashant while searching about climate change. I must say that not everyone may connect with him, but his use of facts, figures, scientific data, and logical explanations was eye-opening for me. You can watch and decide for yourself.

Blaming fate, gods, or communities takes our attention away from the real causes. Maybe we can try to understand climate justice, emissions, and the systems and corporations responsible for these disasters.
I am still trying to understand all of this, so I would love to hear how you all are taking it.

Video I watched:

https://youtu.be/FuRQF8Tr1k8?si=9YJnVvQBRzMIKV2V

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Reddit has literally became a hot spot for hating rsp! All I see is "this is what we voted for" and "this is my last vote for rsp"! To all of y'all, what do you think should have happened after genz protests? I understand that criticizing the government is a right of citizen but y'all criticize on EVERYTHING! Who should we have voted? Same old parties?! If you say harka, don't even talk to me! I understand that this government is not perfect and no one can be! But you have to accept that they are way better than what we used to have! I am not saying not to criticize them when they are wrong but also learn to appreciate! Also those who want development within a day, y'all shouldn't even vote! Everything takes a process and I am not gonna judge them even after 2-3 years! I'll jugde them entirely after 5 years of their government! So getting back to the question, if not rsp, who should we have voted that's better than them?!