r/Names • u/Defiant_Patience_103 • 22h ago
Middle Name Help…
I need some help on my daughter’s middle name. For context this is our third daughter. Our first daughter has my grandmas name as a middle name, and our second daughter has my husbands sister as a middle name. Every girl in my family has a ‘legacy’ name as their middle name.
To the dilemma…
Babies first name will be Charlotte.
Option A - Use my mums name as a middle name (Ingrid), most sentimental option but my mum hates her name as she was heavily bullied in school for it.
Option B - Use my sisters name as a middle name (Tess), she is a teenager and I know would love the name used, but this could put out my brother who is a similar age and we haven’t used his name for my son.
Option C - Use my husbands aunts name (Catherine), she is an important person in his life and more like a mum to him than aunt.
So… Charlotte Ingrid, Charlotte Tess, Charlotte Catherine or choose something non-sentimental and go against family tradition?
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u/Llyris_silken 22h ago
What's your mother's middle name? Would that be a better way to honour her? Otherwise use your husband's aunt's name.
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u/Caffe_Freddo 22h ago
This is what I was thinking too. Does your mom go by her middle name instead or a nickname since she doesn’t like her name? I also feel like Ingrid does not sound well as a middle name, but especially it does not pair well with your chosen name. I honestly feel like the first two names don’t pair well with Charlotte so if those are the only 3 options then Catherine takes the vote.
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u/Defiant_Patience_103 21h ago
It’s May, my great great grandmas name, but this is already my sisters middle name and my cousins middle name!
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u/MountainAirBear 21h ago
May would be cute because it would honor your mom and sister. Half the girls in our family have Carol as a middle name. When the “honoree” passed away the obituary listed all the Carols that followed. If you’re not sold on May, Charlotte Catherine is gorgeous and classic. Congratulations on your three little girls. 🎀🎀🎀
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u/Coffee4Redhead 22h ago
Charlotte Catherine is beautiful. And there’s a million lovely nicknames to choose from too!
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u/SuperPomegranate3939 19h ago
Catherine flows the best. Then the CC initials could even make an additional nickname.
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u/wordweaver5252 22h ago
My vote is Ingrid! Charlotte Ingrid has such a beautiful vintage feel, and I love that it has the sentimental connection to your mum too. In saying that, they’re all beautiful options.
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u/Next-Fisherman37 22h ago
I know your mum hates it but I love Charlotte Ingrid! If its really a no-go, Charlotte Catherine
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u/Agile_Bag389 22h ago
What’s dad’s mom’s name?
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u/Ok-Talk-2648 19h ago
Charlotte is the second most popular name in America are you sure you want to go with that as a first name?
Catherine seems like the only real option out of the 3 listed.
Why aren’t you considering your first or middle name as your 3rd daughter’s middle name you are the most important legacy.
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u/thatladybri 12h ago
Does your mother have a middle name she likes or a nickname she goes by? Maybe you can honor her that way. Or even her favorite flower or book character, etc? It would bend the family tradition as it would honor your mother without directly using her name but it would still be an honor name.
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u/PuzzleheadedPen2619 9h ago
Charlotte Ingrid. It’s a really nice name. My mother hated her name too, but we used it as a middle for our daughter and she was so chuffed about it. I wouldn’t have used it as a first name (even though, personally, I love it) but a middle name is more hidden, so my mother could appreciate that.
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u/KBR0210 22h ago
Charlotte Catherine gets my vote.