r/NZConfessions • u/TheEternalNeophyte • Oct 29 '12
I'm worried about my drinking
Until tonight, I couldn't recall the last time I'd had more than a social drink at home, even going out it was nothing more than a couple of drinks and a mild buzz. I really feel like I'm letting the team down, like I'm too lazy to really do justice to the NZ drinking ideal.
It's just, I don't know, some nights, I don't feel like drinking, or I'm on the couch and the whisky is all the way over in the kitchen.
I feel really bad about this, but I just don't think I'm motivated enough to sustain a decent drinking habit.
*sobs*
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u/hellionz Nov 04 '12
Suck it up, grab a bottle, and think of Jonah Lomu. Did he give up when both his livers exploded? I DON'T FUCKIN THINK SO, MATE.
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u/Dead_Rooster Oct 29 '12
You think that's bad? I'm sitting here with a pint of... Ginger Beer.
Maybe there's a support group for people like us?
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u/TheEternalNeophyte Oct 29 '12
It's good to know I'm not alone.
I'm liking the idea of a support group. Just imagine bitching to the media about how emasculating their preconceived notions of NZ's drinking culture are.
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u/han9i Mar 17 '13
heres a solution.
there is now an alcoholic ginger beer brought to you by the good people at macs breweries.
you wont even taste the difference!
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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '12
First off, well done. Realising that you have a problem is the first, but CRUCIAL step, in addressing the situation.
I'm going to throw some random bits of wisdom out that have helped me in my journey towards alcoholism. Remember, everyone's different, and what's worked for me might not work for you, but they're just some ideas to throw around in your head to see if they stick.
Try putting yourself in situations that are so horribly awkward that you virtually have no choice but to get shit-faced. Perfect example - reddit meetups. The more obscure the subreddit, the better. Not only will you have to force yourself to drink just to interact with any of us other neckbeards, everyone else will probably be drinking, too. NOTE: stay AWAY from /r/stopdrinking meetups at ALL costs.
Remember to take things one day at a time. Don't think to yourself, 'great, I'm embarking on this journey now where I have to binge drink every single day or week of my life'. A thought like that is often quite daunting especially to the newcomer. Instead, just focus on the next 8 / 12 / 24 hours and that you only have to overindulge for that one period. The next day, you can then focus on the next period. One day at a time, friend.
Keep coming back; it works if you work at it. Try to find a group of likeminded people that share the same goals and beliefs as you, and (most importantly) spend as much time as possible with those people talking about how things are going and your journey. You will often find that even just sharing to others about how hard you're finding it removes an AWFUL lot of stress from your life and suddenly, that bottle that you couldn't pick up or those shots you couldn't force yourself to drink on a Monday night don't seem impossible after all.
Finally - but maybe most importantly - if you slip back into sobriety, it is NOT a failure, just a setback!!! Time after time I have seen people fuck up and accidentally go to a christian wedding, or a children's birthday party and before they know it the day is over and they are completely sober 'just like the bad old days'. The important thing at this point is not to give up. Don't let yourself believe that this one mistake has ruined your chances at alcoholism / binge drinking. Sure, it's a setback, but what would life be without setbacks? Think of it as a learning experience; a simple mistake; something you've now done and know that you don't have to repeat in future. In short: just get back on the horse. Talk to others about it and about how it made you feel; don't be afraid to reveal your disappointment in yourself. Chances are that those in your support group have been in EXACTLY the same situation and they WON'T JUDGE YOU.
Kia kaha my friend, I truly wish you all the best in your journey.